I'm still depressed... but i don't know why... help?! (details)?

Question

ok... here's the deal... I made many mistakes in the past year. I have said things that I regret, leading to heartaches, depression, etc... the point, is that I thought I was in love when i wasn't, it was stupid, but over the time, my mind matured, and i now understand deep things that i didn't before. Now, I am completely over that person, but I still can't help but feeling sorrow day in and day out. there's nothing to feel bad about, but every time i see a sunset, i cry, and i'll have emotional outbursts, from laughing, to crying without any transition!!! UGH, i don't get it. please, i need to know what's causing this.

Answer 1

It sounds like there is still more for you to learn about yourself.

Answer 2

You may just have a chemical imbalance and mabe you might need medication to balance your brain levels. Many people suffer from depression now days. Many other things can cause these sort of emotions as well. Is there a possibility that you can be pregnant? Are you just telling yourself that you are alright but really you do feel bad? These are questions that you need to ask yourself first. If everything in your life seems cool but you still keep on suffering from these bursts of emotion I would talk to a docter about mabe trying some sort of medication to balance your emotions. If you do try medication be patient because I have tried Zoloft and it made me soooo sick but everyone else that I know with depression is on it and doing great! I had to try like 3 different meds before I found the one that was just right. I am now off meds and I was on them for about 1 year. I feel great! I am happy to say that I actually feel normal now.

Answer 3

sounds like u have some unresolved issues.
here's some options:
1) see a psychiatrist/some professional person u can talk to about ur problems

2) take some time out...go on a vacation...but while on ur vacation think about what bothered u about the past...who u r...what u want...what u miss...really contemplate what could be bothering u.

3) go to the self-improvement section of a book store. look for books that apply to ur situation. also a personality book would be good...like the ones that describe types of personalities and how to deal with different types of people. just reading some of these books can help give u insight...help u find the answers.

then don't dwell on it...look to see what u can do prevent this from happening again and work on making urself more powerful...more confidant. (it could be gaining a new skill/talent or having a better job, etc.)

Answer 4

I'm really proud of you for asking this question! Even though you are dealing with something really difficult right now, your question shows just how strong of a person you really are. Also, you clearly have a lot of insight and awareness into yourself, your moods, and your thoughts. Not many people have that, and the fact that you do, I think, will really help you through this situation.

You mention that you were previously in a relationship that didn't end well, and now that you are "over" it, you are experiencing dramatic mood changes. I have a few questions about this: Has this happened before? If so, when? How often? Does anything else trigger your sadness besides sunsets? Do you think sunsets have anything to do with your ex-significant other? If so, how? (e.g., did you watch sunsets together or go out during that time?)

You also mention experiencing "sorrow day in and day out." What does that mean? How does this sorrow manifest itself? You mention that you cry--does it come out in any other way (e.g., not being able to enjoy things you used to enjoy, not eating, eating a lot, not sleeping, sleeping a lot, etc.)? How much is this sorrow affecting your daily functioning? Are you able to get out of bed and do the things that you need to do (like go to school, go to work, get dressed, clean your home, etc.)? How long do you feel sorrow?

It sounds from your question that you are really confused by your own laughter, especially since it follows a bout of crying and nothing seems to prompt it! That can definitely be very confusing! Do you experience anything else besides laughter? Do you ever feel as though you are invincible and you can take over the world? How about sleep and food--do you feel as though you don't need any sleep or food and you can keep functioning? What is the time period like between the crying and laughing (i.e., can you be crying for days and then laughing for days or do both happen within a span of a day or a few minutes)? What happens after the laughter? Do you feel happy or "up" for a certain amount of time?

From your question, it sounds as though there may be a few things that could be going on. I am definitely not an expert at this, so I would highly recommend seeking out professional help and getting a thorough evaluation done--that could definitely be more insightful and beneficial than my answer! But for what it's worth, I'll throw out my two cents:

First, you may still be grieving over the loss of your relationship. I know that you're "over" it, but sometimes, the reminder of what-once-was can surface at the strangest times (like a sunset). It may come up at different points in your life, and that's perfectly normal--it happens to everyone who experiences loss. If this is what it is, continue to seek support from friends, family, and others and let them in on what is going on for you.

Second, your sudden switch in moods could possibly be classified as a mental disorder called bipolar disorder. This is a condition that definitely needs to be diagnosed by a professional. I know it sounds really scary ("disorder" sounds terrifying!), but it is very treatable, usually with a combination of medication and psychotherapy. Medication helps because the condition is caused by a chemical imbalance in the brain, which is causing you to be emotionally all over place. The therapy helps because it allows you to actively discuss what is going on in your life and how various things are/are not affecting you, and to receive professional support as you deal with everything.

You have definitely taken the first step in reaching out for help by asking this question. I encourage you to contact a social worker, counselor, therapist, psychologist, etc. to help you sort out exactly what's going on. You will get through this. I know it can be hard to see that right now, especially since your emotions may lead you to laugh or cry without any predictability, but I am certain that you will because it is clear to me that you inherently have a lot of strength.

Take care.

Answer 5

Sounds like you still have depression and may need medical help with it - depression can be caused by a chemical imbalance in the brain (basically, your brain doesn't absorb serotonin at the rate a person without depression does) and medicine, ususally SSRI's (Paxil, Proxac, Wellbutrin) help with this.

Answer 6

it sounds like you do have depression and well it depends on how long you want to stay miserable for, you are not going to find your answers on here, so I am going to suggest that maybe you might go see a doctor, they are a lot better equiped to help you with these questions than anybody is going to be on here

Answer 7

pain is hard to get rid of. see a therapist. also there is an online one also. try metanoia.org. call 1800 273 talk. try depression-helper.com. stay in touch [e-mail]. been there. try holisticonline.com. they have tips on dealing. I hope you get better.

Answer 8

you must love yourself get help now it's never to late and if you ask about 65% of people are on anti dep. me too get well soon the world misses you

Answer 9

Depending on how old you are i'd say it somewhat normal but if you find it really interferes with your like you may try some therepy.

Answer 10

bi-polar disorder a.k.a. manic depression.going from one extreme to the other. you may could feel guilty about something...try to apologize to whomever....maybe closure could help you sort out your pain.also go see a doctor...they could help you more than anyone here.