How do i get my mother to stop smoking? She has diabetes, and it bad for her, ive already told her how i feel?

Question

I've let her know that she's not only livin for herself, but shes living for her children, we need her...wat should i do...

fyi (my mother is stubborn)

Answer 1

Ask her if she wants to be around to see your grow old. Ask her if she cares that she is killing others around her with second hand smoke. Tell her she is killer herself and you'd like to know why.

My grandfather smoked and died at 62. He was the most important person in my life and when he died of lung cancer, a piece of me died too. I needed him as I grew up and he would've been there had he not smoked. I still miss him very much.

Answer 2

I wish I knew. But the truth is YOU can't get her to stop. That decision has to be hers fully. It's good you told her how you feel, though. Because now you know you've done all you can do. However, I have a similar problem with my mother-in-law. She just was lucky enough to go into remission from a very serious form of cancer, she gave up smoking after the surgery and chemo, but now she's started again. We told her how we feel. There's nothing else we can do. All you can do is make your feelings known, and you've done that.

Answer 3

She needs to want to do it herself. To change a habit, one must decide what they want and when to do what they want. They cannot be forced, they cannot be pushed. The more they encounter this behavior from those they love, the more they will pursue the negative habit(s). I suggest just praying for her to make the right choice, and keep working on you. Make certain you grow, so she can see you mean business...make changes in your life that set an example of a caring person for someone that is loved. Sometimes all people in our lives need is to see an example of what is really means to love, in order to make the changes in themselves.

Answer 4

If you are a child, tell your mother that you want her to live long enough to parent you to adulhood at least.
If she cartes for you at all, you need her to put your needs above her unhealthy desires.
If you are an adult, ask her to quit because you want to have her around a lot longer and offer to help her kick this habbit. It can be done, however she has to WANT to.
Any addiction is difficult and needs support to kick the habbit.
Her desire to live and regain health and be around for you must be stronger than her need for this drug!

If she chooses cigarettes over her child, I wonder what kind of message she is giving you?

Answer 5

It is easier to give up drugs and alcohol. It is really really hard to stop smoking. Talking to her about it does no good, she knows all the bad things about it already.

Answer 6

It is her choice if she wants to stop or not, but perhaps if you told her or showed her how much you worry about her maybe it would help in her decision, just drop suddle hints don't over do it or she will only do it to spite you and not even try. perhaps some research would help your attempt. Good luck!

Answer 7

i don't know cause my mother also has diabetes,and she also can't stop smokin those Misty120 Menthol's. I don't know wat i should do. Maybe the people that responde to your question may help me make my choice twoards what i should do.

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Answer 8

You can ask her which will probably not do you any good. Pray for her, if she stops it's because she wants to.

Answer 9

if you can get ahold of some pictures of dead ppl w/ lung cancer, that might work. or u can do the same thing w/ pictures of diseased lungs.