i'm 15, never had a boyfriend, and never been kissed... is this normal?

Question

i'm a big girl, i admit. but i've seen sooooo many big girls with boyfriends at my school.

i think i'm average looking. i'm always told to have a pretty face, but i've never been complimented on my body.

my 11 year old cousin made out with a boy my age! it made me feel lame.

i've moved to 7-10 different schools my whole life. why hasn't this happen? should it already of happened? i'm trying so hard to lose weight, but what else do i lack?


thanks so much if you respond!!!<333

Answer 1

I wouldn't worry about it.....first of all, not everyone wants to hop in the sack right away....if they do, they're called sluts, and looking for trouble....and they usually get two things...something in the tummy, in 9 months a lot of trouble, or, a disease that's hard to pronounce, and might kill the chance at having kids.
I'd call it good you don't have a boyfriend, for the simple fact, you can concentrate on school, and getting a good education out of life, rather than getting by on just looks. I didn't date until i was 18, and didn't get married until i was 28, mostly because I was trying to get through school, in college got my heart broke, and then got busy trying to stay alive.....so call yourself good, and wait for the right one.....just don't settle for less.

Answer 2

When I was 15 I had not had a boyfriend, and I was tall and skinny--built like a model. I wasn't ugly either. I found out my senior year that the guys at school all thought that I had a boyfriend from another school. Then I started college and still didn't get asked out on dates. I was still slim and even more outgoing than I was when I was younger. I don't know why it never happened for me. I suspect I was sending off a signal to men that I wasn't interested even though I was though. I think it was the anxiety and the desire to be "normal" that gave off that impression of stay away. I was 31 before I ever even got my first kiss, and it wasn't all that great. Anyway, don't worry about being "normal." You are who you are and that is great. And, I think everyone else is so worried about being "normal" that they don't take the time to stop and ask if you are. All good things to those who wait. May you find what you are looking for.

Answer 3

I'm pretty much the same as you. I have however had a "boyfriend". I haven't been kissed. And I'm the same age as you. I too admit that I'm not super-skinny, but that doesn't matter to me. I haven't moved my entire life. Maybe because you move so much you don't make friends easily. Wherever you are now, start making friends (both guys and girls), guys tend to like the girls they're friends with rather than complete strangers. There's absolutely nothing wrong with you the way you are. You probably don't need to loose that much weight. But I know that if you loose just 5 pounds you'll feel better about yourself. But it's not neccessary. You're beautiful like you are and the good guys out there will fall for your personality and not your body. Don't let your cousin get to you. My bff is like your cousin, she could get basically any guy she wants. That doesn't effect me much because I've seen how bad it can get for her. Everyone has their "time" when they are dating their heads off. It's probably a good thing that you didn't start young like your cousin. Because now when you get a boyfriend you'll be more mature about it and make it last. Don't worry about your "normalness" too much. I know I would hate being normal, because I like BEING MYSELF too much. OH AND YOU LACK NOTHING. YOU ARE YOU AND NO ONE ELSE, THAT IS "something"!!

Good Luck to you. You're going to be fine. =)
p.s. If you feel like you don't get complimented enough, no one ever said you couldn't compliment yourself! Every morning look in the mirror and say to yourself. I am beautiful and I'm going to make today a good day.

Answer 4

It is normal not to have a boy friend until you're older. There are many things that enter into relationships and it is hard to tell you exactly the problem. But I can tell you... that if you see yourself the way you described you in your question, then there is nothing wrong with you but everything is wrong with them.

As you get older things will change. Don't rush the boyfriend thing but I know you would like to have one. My daughter was tall thin and to me she very attractive and stayed in one place for her whole life. She never had her first boyfriend until she was nearly 18. She is now 24 and happy with her life as it is.

So don't put yourself down for not having been kissed yet. Think more positive about yourself, always smile, keep your head up and portray that you are the most confident girl in the school. Become more active in organizations. It is hard I know to see most of the boys and girls being together. But believe us when we tell you, your time will come. So keep being positive, lose weight if that is your choice, become more fit, where the correct clothes to accentuate your beauty, inner and outer and go live life.

Good Luck

Answer 5

Don't rush it hon...boys only mess you up and confuse you at this age! You will meet a special boy when the time is right. So don't go "giving it away" to some slime bag that may think you're cute but just wants to "cop a feel" because even if you're just experimenting you will be hurt by it in the long run...so just wait until you find someone you really like and who likes you. It will be MAGIC when it happens like that and well worth the wait. No way I want my daughter kissing a guy at 14, 15 or even 16. Kissing leads to other things and I want her to focus on school and education and there will be lots of time for boy stuff. That is not to say you can't be friends and have fun wtih your friends but you just need to be yourself and not worry about what other people do. They just want to seem grown up but you will see that they are messing themselves up by what they do and you on the other hand still have your head on straight! :~)

Answer 6

Yes it's normal. You have plenty of time to find a man in your life. Slow down and enjoy being young. Good luck with the loosing the wieght. What you're missing is self resect and self esteem. If you can get all those back up then you've got it made girl. Other then that you sound like a lovely young lady inside and out and get out there and show the world the real you. Good luck.

Answer 7

You are very normal. As a matter of fact you are rare. Stay young as long as you can and please don't use your weight as a reason. I know this is gonna sound so lame but take it slow and dont worry about trivial things such as kissing because all of that will come in due time. Be proud to be who you are and dont worry about wieght and things like that because its small in the big picture. Take it from a once 15 year old big girl.

Answer 8

you have to ask your self if there is anything that is keeping you from a boyfriend other than your weight,if so do something about like if you have zits and stuff like that buy crap that will cover them up,or wash your face,but if not try your best to lose weight ,get in some sports or if you don't like that stuff workout because at your age you should have been making out a long time ago.flirt,hang around guys more and look cute !!! with the best of luck - texaschic101 if you did more help e mail me @ [e-mail] :)

Answer 9

I think it is COMPLETELY normal to have not had a bf or have not yet to be kissed. Just don't worry about it! Go with the flow and when you think you should have a bf just get enough courage to ask some 1 out. I used to have the same problem, but i just waited and i built up enough courage to ask somebody out and they said yes. It will probably be the same for you too!

Good Luck! (And if you have ant more Q's Just email me)

~Amanda~

Answer 10

Sometimes if you aren't all into boyz at ur age, you will have a stronger relationship when u are older. Don't worry about ur weight. Eat right and exercise and by the time u are an adult u will be normal sized.