I never have the courage to tell anyone whom I am interested in because I don't know how to handle rejection and I am sort of afraid of it. How should one respond? I am sick of letting great guys get away because I'm afraid to approach them.
2006-08-27 13:42:33 · 20 answers · asked by Venus 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It's not that I've been rejected before, but I spend so many years with a looser and now that I am ready today date again, I feel a little scared about approaching anyone with my feelings.
2006-08-27 13:44:45 · update #1
Well, first of all you're pretty normal... no one likes to be rejected. And if you've been with someone for a long time that didn;t treat you right, then chances are you have some trouble with self-esteem. Don't take that the wrong way-- alot of us girls have to work on it. The thing to do is start small. Talk to a few guys that you may not be that interested in..... strike up conversations with guys you don't know-- eventually, because people aren't always that cool, someone will shut you down. Go ahead and feel whatever you feel--- hurt, embarrassed, scared that you will be old and alone....whatever. Really feel it. Cry if you need to. Then wake up the next morning, realize that you are still fine, and that strangers on the sidewalk are not staring and pointing at you.....life goes on.
Repeat this process until you realize that you matter more than anyone else, and then go after your man....if you don't fear rejection you'll probably get him!!!!
Good luck.
2006-08-27 13:52:43 · answer #1 · answered by smarty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel the same way. I have let many girls go that I realized after the fact that we were mutually attracted to each other and might have made a great connection.
I know it is hard to approach some one. I get cold feet more than I would like to because I am afraid of rejection. I have a hard time taking my own advice but...Approach them. Tell them how you feel. They may feel the same way. If they reject you, they do. Chalk it up as a learning experience and move on. May help sharpen your perceptions as to who may be mutually interested in you too.
2006-08-27 13:50:11 · answer #2 · answered by notmuchanextrovert 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone deals with rejection, probably every day. Keep your spirits up and believe in yourself. Dont let it make you believe things about yourself that are not true. Make a list of 10 things you like about yourself and believe it.
Remember, they are not rejecting you as a person.. they DONT know you! You know you are a great person and if they dont want to take the chance, its their loss. Just shrug it off and move on. Also, the more you try, the easier it gets. Maybe start simple with your friends or ask guys for something besides a date for a while until you get used to asking them things. good luck
2006-08-27 13:50:30 · answer #3 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I think you need to get past you being afraid of talking to guys b/c you could possibly be rejected. That is part of life and its also a learning experience. If they reject you, then their not worth it. You're too good for them then. Yeah it'll sting for a while but then it'll be time to move on to finding someone that'll appreciate you. I've been rejected and yeah it hurts, but I got past it. I now have a great boyfriend...it just takes time to find someone who's good for you. Hang in there...it'll get better...
2006-08-27 13:49:12 · answer #4 · answered by dancer1883 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you're making a big big mistake because that guy may feel the same way you do and how can you learn from you're mistake if have never ever have the courage to tell him how you feel you will never know if you had something.
rejection is but everyone has been rejected at lest once
2006-08-27 13:55:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The easiest way to handle rejection is to be above it. Have enough self respect for yourself not to base your self esteem on someone elses opinion. Just because someone doesn't want to be involved with you doesn't mean you should value yourself based on their response. Just be confident and if for some reason you do get rejected, smile and say thanks anyway! Your confidence in yourself will make them feel more like the one that was rejected than you!!
2006-08-27 13:48:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do not go in with the idea you are going to be rejected......Be confident in yourself
do not be afraid,because it will show in your actions. Now stand tall,take a good fresh
breath of air and go for it
2006-08-27 13:49:45 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I know it may seem hard, but try to get over it. Listen, I like a girl, and she and I are in the same play for this theater together. But she rejected me. I asked her out a year ago, litterally. I tried to get over her, but it was too hard. So I am going to keep trying. Good luck to you!
2006-08-27 13:48:07 · answer #8 · answered by drwb2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there's someone for everyone in life. i believe that. you only live once. you just do it. say hey wanna hang out sometime? how bout grabbing a bite to eat. nothing wrong with that. if they're not interested you already have a sense b4 you even ask so if you don't feel that sense just say the words and ask away. confidence is sexy. might get you extra brownie points in their eyes. u go girl : o )
2006-08-27 13:49:10 · answer #9 · answered by liketoplay420 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best way to handle rejection is to get over it!
2006-08-27 13:50:03 · answer #10 · answered by ☆Kayhona ☆ 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋