I am a Black woman who dates Black men, not because I have something against White men but because Black men are the men that I come in contact with on a personal level plus I feel a bond with Black men that I don't feel with White men. Not racist but just being truthful. On the real, if I find out that a guy that is interested in me has dated numerous women of other races, I am a bit weary. I question the sincerity of his interest in me. I wonder why he dated outside his race initially. I wonder if he will be checking out every woman we meet seeking my replacement. Insecure or paranoid...maybe. I would still date him but for a brief moment I would pause and give serious consideration to not dating him. What about you? What does this mean? Is this normal?
2006-08-27 13:33:11 · 7 answers · asked by intentionalmasterpiece 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This is so funny b/c u sound just like me. I have had many black men approach me and want to date me, but I did not date them b/c I found out they dated so many women in other races prior to me. I have a problem with black men who think that other women are better than black women. I would definitely question a black man's intentions with me. I know this sounds bitter but I would probably suggest that u maybe step away from him. I would ask him and question his sincerity towards me. I mean if other women or white women are so special then why is he with u now? Is he just slumming or what? Black women need to start treating black men the way they treat them. I find that it pisses off black men when they see an attractive black woman dating white men. They always have something to say about it. But then again they tend to look over us black women who are intelligent, beautiful not ghetto and successful. So f*** them. Date outside of ur race and show these black men that if they do it so can u. Alot of them do it so they can get a reaction out of us.Other women love our men. But we as black women can not get angry at the other women, b/c the black man knows what he is doing. He knows how to say no to these advances. This is a slavery mentality. Since slavery black folks have been taught that white people are superior and better than us.It is like black men think it is a blessing to have a white women. So give him a taste of his own medicine. Since he wants white woman and all these other women so bad, then get u a white man and show up where he is. So then he knows what it feels like.Please stay in contact with me. I am currently writing a book about this subject and would like to interview black women about this subject. Ohand most black women do feel these bonds with black men. B/C we love our men, but we are the ones they mistreat the most. They treat us like s***. But then they treat these other women great.
My email is chanice_p@yahoo.com
2006-08-27 13:57:20 · answer #1 · answered by Tonya 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Uhh well I'm a black woman also and I have only dated white men. The reason why I haven't dated black men is b/c a lot of them are ghetto and I cannot stand it when someone is loud and ghetto. I don't really agree with what you are saying b/c if a guy has dated outside his race doesn't mean that its wrong, he did or does it b/c he wants to. There's nothing wrong with it! As long as the guy treats you with respect race shouldn't be a factor at all! I'm sorry girl, but I don't really with what you are saying. Its how the guy makes you feel not what race he is. I feel that (from the white men I've dated) that I get along with them more. Maybe you need to broaden your horizons a little more...there's more to life then just dating black men. My boyfriend is white and I love him with all of my heart..and a lot has to do with how he makes me feel...
2006-08-27 20:43:16 · answer #2 · answered by dancer1883 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I am usually open to dating guys of different races. It doesn't really matter to me if they've dated outside of their race. Heck, if they didn't, they wouldn't like me, right? So as long as you're comfortable with the fact that they've been exposed to different cultures and ways, then there is absolutely nothing wrong with dating guys who've dated outside of their race.
2006-08-27 20:45:00 · answer #3 · answered by janab712003 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
no. i am mixed so no matter who i date i am dating outside my race. what does it really matter anyway. it just means he is attracted to different kinds of people and has many versions of what beautiful is
2006-08-27 20:40:22 · answer #4 · answered by me 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i'd feel the same either way
2006-08-27 20:38:23 · answer #5 · answered by jordan asheley 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would be more likely because I'd now their open to new things, someone...................................interesting!
2006-08-27 20:41:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
no
2006-08-27 20:37:59 · answer #7 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋