Would I be held accountable before god if I leave my wife very poor and a child to take care of?
We have a little girl who is 5 years old. If we divorce, my wife would have full custody, due to the fact I had a little run in with DCFS.
I have been thinking that it was foolish and desperate to marry. I keep regretting that we have a language barrier.
in the 6 years we have been married, she has come to learn little English. Out of the six years of marrage I have been in jail 3 of those years.
She works graveyard shift at place where they make medical equipment. I work days as a looser telemarketer.
If I leave her, she will be poor with a 5 year old to take care of.
I will be poor, I have no friends and no family. No mother, no father, or brothers or sisters.
It is always on my mind, and I lose patience and raise my voice all the time.
maybe it would be a favor for her if I leave. she could find a man who will love her better.
2006-08-27 13:30:00 · 29 answers · asked by bradlitazole 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
poor enough to afford the internet?
come on now.
2006-08-27 13:36:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
seems like you're trying to justify it to yourself with the "another man will love her better". If the language barrier is such a big deal, why did you marry her in the first place if you don't love her. God holds everyone accountable for their actions; it states in the bible that the only justification for divorce is an abusive situation or if your spouse is getting in the way of your faith. From a moral stand point, if she would be left poor and on her own to raise a five year old, why would you even think of leaving? how can you not love a five-year old? don't punish the child and your wife because you're having second thoughts. the point of "speak now or forever hold your peace" is to know that you can be with this person for the rest of your life. in the end, the choice is yours, but I would hang in there and try to bring the love back.
2006-08-27 21:08:56 · answer #2 · answered by Beany-Baby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every marriage has it's issues, but you have got to work through them. You made a commitment to this woman and if you break it, you won't stick with anything in life. Learning English probably hasn't been a big priority with her as she does have a daughter to take care of, but it is for her sake more than yours that she learns to speak English. She didn't speak much English when you married her and it didn't stop you so instead of planning to leave her, be there for her. She needs to join a class at a community college and you need to support her. English is a tough language to learn, but not impossible and your wife just needs encouragement from her husband. Don't give up, nothing is impossible with motivation.
2006-08-27 20:40:38 · answer #3 · answered by M N 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you ever considered learning HER language? I dare say the woman's been too busy barely supporting herself and your child while you languish in prison for more than half of your child's life.
As to abandoning your child because of your own inadequacies, on one hand it would probably be the best thing in the world for her to not have contact with you, on the other hand, you're still responsible to support your child and wife. It's called alimony and child support. Even if you are in jail you could build up quite a nice back back-ordered support with interest compounding every month.
And money can and will be forcibly taken from any paycheck your earn, income tax refunds, pensions, benefits, etc. to pay it. I believe 50% is the maximum that can be taken from a paycheck, but 100% of income tax refunds, disability payments, etc. will be taken for support orders. And there are ways for who live out of counrty to collect child support from an American citizen, in case you are living out of country.
Way to go, by the way, for continuing the cycle of not having any family. I'm sure that your daughter will appreciate it.
That was dripping sarcasm, in case you couldn't tell.
Geez, I just went and looked at the large number of posts you've managed to amass in one week, essentially re-asking this question again and again, as well as queries about marijuana and alcohol intake and whether or not a night time erection is a problem.
Please, by all means abandon your child and wife. They could only do better with you out of their lives.
Perhaps your time spent here posting inane and irritating questions could be better spent working a second job.
2006-08-27 20:43:28 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should help her learn English better. Are there any programs where you live for English as a second language? If there are, take her there. Since you were in jail, do you have some kind of support you can call--a parole officer or counselor? If you can both get some help, maybe you can work out the problems.
2006-08-27 20:36:33 · answer #5 · answered by Purdey EP 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you would be held accountable for taking the responsibility of a husband and then as a father, & abandoning them.
By her Hooked On Phonics for Pete's sake. Get her enrolled in a FREE ESL class at your local community center or through DSS.
Don't make a bad situation worse by being a coward. This has nothing to do with wanting her to find someone who will "love her better."
2006-08-27 20:35:40 · answer #6 · answered by azar_and_bath 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if there was such a language barrier, why did you marry her? now you have gotten yourself into something that you haven't the slightest idea on how to get out of. what i suggest you do so you won't leave her completely poor is tell her to get a job. once she gets a job and has acquired some money to take care of her and your daughter, get a divorce and set her up with someone you think will love her better than you can.
2006-08-27 20:36:40 · answer #7 · answered by Kokoa 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
is it really the language barrier or the fact that you feel sorry for yourself ?? if she didnt love you she wouldnt work night shifts and should wouldnt be trying to learn english . perhaps u need to be supportive of her . You should learn her language as well . its a give and take situation ur daughter and wife deserve better than u in and out of jail . clean up your act and take care of what is yours. Or it wont be yours for long and it wont be your decision. She wouldnt be poor b/c shed get maintenance and im sure shed takegood care of her child.
2006-08-27 20:40:41 · answer #8 · answered by ashley 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you would be accountable to God. You knew of the language barrier when you got married. Learn her language. Read the bible every day and ask God to help you change. Be a man and take care of your family.
2006-08-27 20:36:09 · answer #9 · answered by homeschooler 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you are very unhappy and i'm sorry for you but it sounds like you don't want to stay and if you think it will make you feel better then leave . can you stick it out and be miserable pr leave and try and make your life better. It's hard to give an answer you really ahve to go with your gut feeling and if it will ruin your health to stay in the relationship then get out and make a promise to turn your like around for the better. Good Luck and I hope this helped and I wish you the best of luck in the future.
2006-08-27 20:37:07 · answer #10 · answered by simple one 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Language barrier is a lame excuse for leaving a wife after a 5 year old kid. Grow up!
2006-08-27 20:35:27 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋