This girl was the best girlfriend in the world and we were having a great relationship with only a couple of bumps but I cheated on her when I was drunk and she found out before I had a chance to tell her. It's been about 9 months and I did just about everything to get her back but nothing worked so I want to give up now.
I've avoided 'myspace.com' so I wouldn't see her or anything. I joined a gym to get back into shape because I gained a lot of weight while I was with her and it takes my mind off of her and I do a lot of things to take my mind off of her.
My friends have been helpful with giving me advice and being considerate of my feelings, but even with all of this I still can't get over her and I hate the guy I am now because I'm always pessamistic about the future.
Can someone tell me something that would help me out? Thanks.
2006-08-27 13:21:18 · 22 answers · asked by narfanator 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm sorry about that but it seems like she doesn't feel the same way and tell yourself that you deserve someone who loves you as much as you love them! GOOD LUCK!!!
2006-08-27 13:24:21 · answer #1 · answered by ♥BrunetteSweetie♥ 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
You need to realize you are not going to just wake up one day and have zero emotion about the situation. It is normal to feel the way you do. I lost my boyfriend months ago and I still think of him everyday. You just need to make it all experience. Don't cheat on a girl if you guys are having a good relationship. I believe everything happens for a reason. If it is meant to be this girl will come back to you but if not you need to be free for the next girl. Do not try to contact the ex anymore;leave her alone. Everyday it will get easier and easier.
2006-08-27 20:34:32 · answer #2 · answered by strawberries 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what's done is done. feel bad about it? hopefully. what you did was wrong and that's what she is seeing. you know this. talk to her! does she still know you're interested? she kinda needs to know that. are you done cheating? she kinda needs to know that too. lots of people think once a cheater always a cheater, but thats not the case. sounds like you've learned your lesson. her forgiveness of you is the first step. get that and you can work towards getting back to the great relationship you had before. may be hard, maybe impossible. all you can do is try and it will work out how god intended it to work out. who knows maybe you losing her is the best thing that will ever happen to you. i had a situation kinda like that but my girlfriend cheated on me. we both got married to other people this summer and i've never been happier. kinda hard to look at that possibility now i know but talk to her and show her that you know what kind of idiot you were and that you've learned and be sincere about it. that's your first step. play it by ear after that. good luck!!! i'll pray for you.
2006-08-27 20:34:56 · answer #3 · answered by ruberebloupe2 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ah come on man it doesn't seem as bad as it does u just have to think positive i know this girl will never go out with me but i always know she'll be my friend and there may be hope in the future for us but until then i'm going to think positive but about u i think u should show her how sorry u are on cheating with her and try to make up with her if u really do love her u should take her somewhere nice or buy her something nice and just tell her u were drunk and u didn't know what u were doing and ur the only girl in the world that matters to u..
2006-08-27 20:31:37 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You're allready on the right track. Try to be more optomistic and get rid of the pesimism. Also try sending her an appology letter for cheating on her. And then just let her go man. Move on. It will take time but you can do it and I'm sure there's some one better for you out there.
2006-08-27 20:29:08 · answer #5 · answered by dave_83501 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I lost a number of girl friends before I got married. Now I still wish I had married two or three of them but they were not interested.
But as the song says more or less: one of God's greatest gifts is unanswered prayers.
Possibly you will run into her soon, and seeing you she will want to get back together but maybe not.
So, go forward and try to enjoy life because you will probably be married a long time and will long for the old days of relative freedom.
2006-08-27 20:28:50 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you can try to become friends with her if you still want her in your life. but before you try this, you must accept that she won't go back out with you. making a move during this critical movement will just make matters worse. only after your friends can you maybe hope she'll want to go back out. but you have to wait until she says so..and you can't bring the subject up.
other than that..if she refuses to be friends...the only way to forget about her is time. could be days, weeks, months, or even years. ur just going to have to move on.
2006-08-27 20:29:09 · answer #7 · answered by loseribe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stop trying to avoid her, talk to her and well say u want to be friends. forgive urself, everyone makes mistakes and besides u were drunk, ppl do stupid things when they're drunk. i no this sounds totally cliche but stop hating urself and maybe ur life would get better. dude, its just a girl, relax, she obviously have been hurt but if worst comes to wrost andu just cant get over her, go see a therapist
2006-08-28 08:55:57 · answer #8 · answered by Sunrise 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Alright, welcome to the human race, you made a mistake. First off, don't obsess over it, learn to forgive yourself.
That said, maybe you can't win this girl back -- you obviously hurt her badly. Accept that as the price you pay for cheating -- and hopefully you've learned not to make that mistake again!
Next, you've been working out, getting back into shape, then it's time to test your game, bro. Get back out there and find another girl. That is the BEST way to get over a girl, find another one!
2006-08-27 20:25:12 · answer #9 · answered by th3_0n3_r1ng 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Try talking to her. She probably had her time to think about everything that has happned. If she knows that you're not giving up on her and if she loves you, you have a big chance of getting her back.
2006-08-27 20:25:55 · answer #10 · answered by Nevwe 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ok. well what u did was wrong. but u already know that. thats so cool that ur losing weight and trying everything u can. there r plenty of girls out there for u.
2006-08-27 20:33:18 · answer #11 · answered by fashionforward 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋