I have been with my bf for over a year now, I want to end it. How should I?

Answer 1

the truth always is best...

Answer 2

Be honest. Tell him you want to end the relationship. Be kind. Tell him it's been great, but now it is over.
He's going to ask "Why?" and that's going to be the most difficult part of this whole thing. Be positive. If you have simply grown away from him, tell him that. If you are interested in someone else, tell him that. If you just need to relate to more people, to widen your circle of friends, and to start dating other guys, tell him that.
Bottom line is, you don't want to start a fight (that never accomplishes anything) and you don't want him to leave feeling that you are some kind of weird b****. He talks to other guys, and his bad mouthing you could spoil a potential relationship, so think carefully about what you are going to tell him.
And finally, tell him how important he has been to you over the past year, and that you will always have wonderful memories. But for now, the relationship has to end.
It won't be easy, and if you've been with him for a year, he's likely thinking it's a pretty permanent state of affairs, so you are going to have to be definite.
Good luck !!

Answer 3

With gentle honesty and sensitivity. Don't delay, as it will become more difficult.
Simply let him know you need to talk about something serious, so ensure you are not distracted, by being with friends etc.
Tell him that you regret that you feel you are not as compatible as you would like to be for such a relatinship to continue and that you want to be free to explore other possibilities.

It is not easy, and you need to ensure you don't say anything to belittel him or cause him to become defensive. You need to own what you say and do and be accountable.

If ther have not ben any problems, simply tell him that you respect him and wish him well in his life and that if you both want, you can remain friends, as you possibly share mutual friends. There does not have to be any need for blame.
If you have reason to be concerned for your safety ( some breakups can result in a violent backlash) have your talk during the day, in a public park, where you can get up and walk away and find your own way home.

Always ensure you keep safe.

Answer 4

Do it respectfully... Don't mail a letter. Don't leave a voicemail and don't email him.. Give him some dignity and tell him in person and be gentle. Just say< you know I think your great and name some good qualities that he has. Tell him you are going in a different directions and you want to separate for a while. That will be more gentle and leaves the door open a tad just in case you change your mind. It won't be so abrupt and shocking because he will have a little hope. Then time will do the rest

Answer 5

50 Ways To Leave Your Lover

The problem is all inside your head
She said to me
The answer is easy if you
Take it logically
I’d like to help you in your struggle
To be free
There must be fifty ways
To leave your lover

She said it’s really not my habit
To intrude
Furthermore, I hope my meaning
Won’t be lost or misconstrued
But I’ll repeat myself
At the risk of being crude
There must be fifty ways
To leave your lover
Fifty ways to leave your lover

CHORUS:
You just slip out the back, Jack
Make a new plan, Stan
You don’t need to be coy, Roy
Just get yourself free
Hop on the bus, Gus
You don’t need to discuss much
Just drop off the key, Lee
And get yourself free

She said it grieves me so
To see you in such pain
I wish there was something I could do
To make you smile again
I said I appreciate that
And would you please explain
About the fifty ways

She said why don’t we both
Just sleep on it tonight
And I believe in the morning
You’ll begin to see the light
And then she kissed me
And I realized she probably was right
There must be fifty ways
To leave your lover
Fifty ways to leave your lover

Answer 6

Tell him he is a great guy, but this thing is not working. It is no ones fault it just isn't working. He may still be hurt and beg for you two to stay together, but just smile and say no. Stick to your guns. You do not want to waste time on someone that you do not want to be with. Then just move on.

Answer 7

Just tell him you feel yall relationship is coming to a end and you will like to be by yourself for a while and you would like to see other people for a while. And if that don't work just tell him the truth.

Answer 8

if don't want to hurt him, start not talking to him as much and not going out with him and after a few weeks make up some lame lie and tell him you have grown apart. if you don't care if you hurt him just tell him it is just not working and it is time to move on.

Answer 9

Honestly & Respectfully

Answer 10

just tell him that you guys have had some good times but its not working out so you want to move on see if you can be friends

Answer 11

girl i say you get a friend to tell him or if u are a bold person call him and tell him dont go 2 the house cause u kno he might do something crazy