I have recently discovered that I'm still in love with my ex but I really don't think he returns the sentiment. There have been a few times that I've exchanged awkward glances across the room with him but I can't tell how he feels. And to boot my best male friend is infatuated with me. How do I get my ex back and, if it works, how do I break it to my friend? I really want to get all of this done soon because the soon I act. the sooner my problems are solved!
2006-08-27 12:44:13 · 4 answers · asked by Amy 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
What makes you think he doesn't hold the same feelings as you as before? I think in general, guys don't show their emotions very easily. They're not as open as a book so it's extremely hard to see what they're thinking/feeling about. The best way to get your ex back is to go sit him down and talk to him. Tell him that your feelings never went away and that you were hoping to give the relationship another try if he was willing to. If you keep your feelings to yourself, he's never going to know and you're going to continue to shoot those awkward glances across the room, STILL wondering what his emotions are. GO FOR IT. Doesn't hurt to try, right?
The thing about your best guy friend liking you.. Yeah, been there, done that. It's horrible. It's still eating me up inside. Anyways! Back to you.. all you can do is to tell your best guy friend that you don't see you two becoming anything more than friends and that you'll like to stay that way. Of course, he's going to feel bad about himself and please, make him feel better! Tell him other girls would be lucky to be with him and etc. to boost his self-esteem. That's really all you can do. He'll get over it, and you can concentrate on your ex.
I hope things go well between this 'love triangle'!
2006-08-27 13:01:18 · answer #1 · answered by lovergirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well ive learned this lesson already. I was in the same situation as you minus the best friend. If he doesnt want to be with you you cannot force him to. You just just talk to him and ask him how he feels about you. If you dont want to do that write him a note or text message him, even IM him on the computer. But if he doesnt want to be with you just give up on it. If its meant to be it will. As for the friend. If you and your ex get back together just tell the friend your sorry but you just dont have feelings for him like that and you would hate to ruin a great friendship by trying something you know wont work. Good luck
2006-08-27 12:51:32 · answer #2 · answered by sweetgirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am going through the same exact thing its weird well actually i solved it a couple weeks ago i asked my ex bf to meet me at coldstone creamery and i had thislong talk with him and everything and i told my male friend that the feelings didnt go the same way so yeah thats how i solved it good luck :)
2006-08-27 13:32:29 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Enough with the drama. You broke up with him for a reason. Keep it that way. People don't change, unless they really know their problem and try hard to change them.
Tell your friend that he is right and thanks for looking out when you can't think clearly.
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2006-08-27 12:56:07 · answer #4 · answered by Guy w/ Answers 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋