how can I seat them at my wedding reception so that they don't have to interact with the other? We are not having separate tables, all of the tables are conneted so that they form a... U...I don't want to put one of them all the way at the end of the table.What should I do
2006-08-27 12:33:26 · 10 answers · asked by simply2priceless 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
If you have siblings, have them sit Mom's date, mom, siblings and dates, dad, dad's dates.
If you are an only child, have an aunt or cousin seperate them.
Also, explain to both of them that you understand it will be hard, but to please make it be as dramaless as possible.
2006-08-27 12:36:42 · answer #1 · answered by emp04 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in a simular situation at my April wedding. My parents hadn't seen each other since their divorce 6 years ago.
I made sure to have a family gathering about a month before the wedding to get the first akward moment out of the way. We had it at my now husband's father's house. His divorced parents made good role models.
Also, it is probably just your parents who are being childish. I'll bet that your grandparents still care for their ex- son/daughter in laws. Use that to your advantage and place them as mediators.
Finally, I really suggest that you straight out tell both of your parents how childish they are acting and point out the obvious --- that they were once friends and could be again in the future for your sake. They are also both bringing dates, so why are they acting jealous of the other person. ---- I was so glad when I finally did this. It was getting sooo stressful for me and I finally told my father to go get therapy and work out his issues before my wedding!! Couldn't believe I said that.
It will all work out. But keep the communication open. You will probably have to act like the parent for a little while!
2006-08-28 10:54:12 · answer #2 · answered by Moonshimmer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, I am going to go out on a limb here, but you should tell your parents in advance that you are going to invite both of them, and if the want to come then they have to act like adults and get along for your sake. Just tell them both that if they think they can not stand to see the other one for YOUR special day, and behave like adults, then you would just rather them not even show up. I know that is harsh, but if they can not get along just long enough so that you can get married, then they don't deserve to be there. They should both realize that it is YOUR happiness that matters that day, and they don't need to cause a scene...Good Luck and I hope that they can act like the adult in this matter
2006-08-27 13:40:17 · answer #3 · answered by Just Me 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, I can't imagine what this is doing to you-on top of regular bridal stress...I hope they have the good sense to behave theirselves, and show you the respect and love you deserve, and keep their mouths shut. Seatting arrangements, stick someone in the middle, sacfarice the virgin to apease the god of good manners. Who is going to sitting next to you? Which Mom or Dad either way you are going to have problems. I would do something unusally. Seat the maid of honor next to you, the best man to your new husband, then one set of "parents" then a bridesmaid, then another set....Or let the all the wedding party sit at the bride and groom's section and let one couple set on 1 side and the other on the other side... They can have a staring contest, but can't speak to one another...
Give me their e-mail addresses, I will be the bad guy, and tell them to behave theirselves. The divorce is over, and they each have moved on to dating. So, they need to keep their bitterness to themselves. My daughter just got married to a young man with 2 sets of parents, 4 sets of grandparents, and we were so blessed, that everyone acted with love, honor, and respect to give these kids their wedding day. So, I pray the same for you.
Please, remember that their your parents, better or for worse, and they do love you. I just hope they act as mature as their loving daugthter!
God bless us all.....................
2006-08-27 13:25:35 · answer #4 · answered by totallylost 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You and your husband and bridal party sit at the bottom of the U and have one set of each parent at either top of the U. Kind of like they are heading their own tables. good luck
2006-08-27 12:42:45 · answer #5 · answered by maigen_obx 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is your right to ask them not to bring dates - that it is a family occasion and you want your parents there, albeit separately. If they insist on bringing dates, seat them away from family, and far away from each other.
2006-08-27 14:47:21 · answer #6 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it would be too terrible to ask them to fly solo on this night. You don't want the whole night being your parents muttering under their breaths about how stupid the other one's date is.
Good luck and I hope that it all works out. : )
2006-08-27 15:34:39 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I told my parents to grow up and Get over it they are adults at your wedding...If they can't get along for their own daughters wedding then they there is a bigger problem..Good Luck!!
2006-08-27 15:31:40 · answer #8 · answered by crayzeebaby8 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can't they put their differences aside and just get along one day for your sake?! If not, put one set at one end closest to you and your husband and the other set at the opposite side closest to you and your husband.
2006-08-27 15:48:17 · answer #9 · answered by bluez 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell them that if they start anything you will kick their ***
2006-08-27 12:37:40 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋