2006-08-27 12:29:12 · 21 answers · asked by trey45 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
It amazes me that people say your not a Christian because you struggle with something. I thought "all have sinned and fallen short..." I thought the reason for Christ's death was because of my inability to deal with my own sin.
2006-08-27 12:50:57 · update #1
A Christian girl could fall in love with any guy.
It sounds like at least with this one, you know of his personal struggle, some women do not find out their mates personal weakness and weaknessess until much later in their relationship. This also applies to women, we all have personal weaknessess to overcome, no one is perfect.
You use the word struggle, so it sounds as if he is aware of his weakness and is (working) struggling to overcome it. It would be far worse if he just claimed it was his weakness and felt no need to struggle against it.
2006-08-27 12:37:13 · answer #1 · answered by cindy 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
(Sorry to intrude but..)
Especially if she doesn't realise that he is into it, I bet that's a common scenario. If he is dealing with the problem then why not, though i s'pose waitg for him to deal with it might be bettr.
Porn is a real struggle for christian guys trust me on that 1, guys have a predisposition to it, in a sex saturated culture its soo hard to keep clean...impossible without God's help....be Gracious and forgiving but also realise that God hates sin. God manages to be merciful and yet completely righteous & just(hating sin)....we should model that balance...
(A guy can struggle with porn and be a christian I know several examples...) he needs prayer & support from a christian man who is strong in the faith and in this area.
2006-08-27 12:44:24 · answer #2 · answered by Dan 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Of course. Nobody's perfect; we're all going to fall for a person who struggles with something, regardless of gender or religion.
If he's so addicted to porno that it intrudes on how he sees real people and situations, there's a problem, but many men can enjoy porno *occasionally* and still love their wives and families, no matter what your pastor tells you.
Have you ever heard of the Abstinence Violation Effect? It's a psychological concept. Basically, it means that if you spend a lot of time working hard to not think of something, you'll become obsessed with it. Try this--think of a flying pink elephant. Got it? Now that you have that mental image in your head, don't let yourself think about it again. I bet you'll be thinking about nothing but flying pink elephants!
It will work the same way for your guy, if he keeps thinking of himself as a helpless addict who struggles with porno.
2006-08-27 12:36:20 · answer #3 · answered by GreenEyedLilo 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Everyone struggles with sin. If my daughter came home and said she was considering dating a guy who told her he's having trouble with porn, I would say, be his friend, pray for him, I ask that you please do not date this boy. Why hook yourself to a person who is involved in a very serious sin? That's the same as someone saying "I want to date a boy who is having trouble with alcoholism". Are you serious?
2006-08-27 13:09:18 · answer #4 · answered by christian_lady_2001 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If he struggles with porn, he is not Christian on the first place. Porn became his god. If you are a Christian there only place for one True God in your heart.
If Christian girl falls in love with porn-addicted guy, she needs to be aware that her life will be filled with the struggle and tears. "Unequal yoke"
And yes, many examples from real life.
2006-08-27 12:43:30 · answer #5 · answered by out-of-blue-sent 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You could certainly fall in love but his struggle wont just go away with marriage. If he struggles with it while dating you then more than likely it will continue.
During pre-marital counseling, dealing with this issue should be at the top of the list and a pre-set understanding of where your at concerning this should be well established.
2006-08-27 12:33:14 · answer #6 · answered by foxray43 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I know asked for only girls to respond; but your question was so important I had to respond. The question isn't could a Christian girl fall in love with him, but rather, should she? If she knows upfront or early on in the relationship that he is caught up in porn she needs to run. Porn will only affect every aspect of the relationship.
You are right that we all sin. You are also right that you are unable to overcome sin...in your own power. If you are saved, the Holy Spirit lives inside of you. You can't live the Christian life; but Christ can live it through you. You die to yourself, and allow Christ to live His life through you. Your old sinful nature didn't go away when you got saved; but you did receive a new nature--the nature of the Spirit of God. Now your sinful nature has been shifted into neutral (so to speak). The Holy Spirit is in the driver's seat of your body. Only when YOU shift the old nature back into drive do you sin. Before you got saved you din't have a choice about sin; but now, if you are saved, you CHOOSE to sin. See Romans chapters 6-8 and Galatians chapter 5 for more insight into this.
This should be wonderful news to you! You are set free from the power of sin if you know Christ. You can be the man--and someday the husband God intended you to be. Friend, I know. I used to be addicted to porn. I have been set free through the Holy Spirit!
What exactly is right with pornography? The answer is simple: absolutely nothing. It is a total perversion of one of God's greatest gifts to us—the gift of sexual intimacy between a husband and wife. First, it's wrong because of what it does to us. It appeals only to our self-centered, sinful, pleasure-seeking nature, and the more we get involved with it, the more we feed that nature and become captives to it. The Bible says, "The sinful nature desires what is contrary to the Spirit. ... They are in conflict with each other" (Galatians 5:17).
Pornography is also wrong because of what it does to others. It treats others not as people but as objects, as playthings for our own selfish gratification. In other words, lust replaces love and that is wrong. This, incidentally, is why marriages based only on physical attraction seldom last.
Only Christ can forgive our sins, and only He can fill our lives with true joy and peace. Is your life committed to Him?
2006-08-27 13:19:42 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes
2006-08-27 12:33:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
no its not that you can't fall in love but you need to pray and as God for guidance. This may not be your only problem you would be facing in your relationship. No one is perfect so don't expect it. If both of you are true Christians you can both pray and seek counseling from a Pastor you respect and trust.
2006-08-27 12:38:23 · answer #9 · answered by Angy FFRTFC 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
it ought to certainly artwork out. it is, in case you the two recognize one yet another's differing ideals and you do no longer attempt to transform her. tries and conversion are a real turn off. whether it is genuinely attainable for 2 human beings of diverse perception structures to have better than happy, loving, and helpful relationships.
2016-09-30 23:27:02 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋