my boyfriend always trys to find an excuse to break up with me when he wants to cheat but he doesn't do it when we're together, we split up then he goes and finds a girl to do. i'm getting tired of it but i really love him alot. just last week we broke up and now he's been droppin by my moms job leaving me messages telling me he loves me and asking 4 one last chance he's been getting my where abouts from my mom like if i go to the mall he'll be there looking for me. he's changed alot 4 me and i know it cuz it's been alomst a year and a half but i can't have a relationship with someone that is always making me go through all this pain every time ha wants to have a fling. i don't know what to do anymore. WHAT SHOULD I DO? SOME ONE PLEASE HELP ME !!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-08-27
12:13:14
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he's been calling me all day from restricted but i don't know if i should answer or just let it go to voice mail, i already know what he's gonna say so what's the point? should i answer and talk to him or just finish it once and for all?
2006-08-27
12:52:24 ·
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I have discovered something on this Answers thing. When men answer this question they we say dump his *** and others follow saying yeah dump him. thats the obvious thing to us, but the fact is that some guys do it all the time. What do you want? If you love him and he loves you is it worth the time and effort its going to take to work it out? Is it going to be worth it if you try hard and fail in the end? will you regret and hate all men for the rest of your life. When you use a word like love in a relationship with someone thats a big deal. He may love you and thats a very big possibility but the truth is that many guys feel that they can love one woman. Now the next part is where I would get into trouble by many women. Some guys feel like they can love one woman but they can have sex with other women whom they dont love, its just sex to them. Now heres why guy dont see it from a girls point. Sex was for a woman a huge deal a huge stage of trust that was given to the man. Guys dont understand that and so often break that trust and dont see why it was such a big deal, when a guy cheats, thats all he see wrong, that he cheated. But to a woman its more than that, Its the trust that was taken away and torn apart. If you take him back theres a chance he will do it again. You need to talk to him and help him understand why he was so dumb. Good luck with everything
2006-08-27 12:22:49
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answered by niceguy4agze 2
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Please realize that you are worth a lot as a person. You do not need to be treated like that. There is someone out there that will treat you with respect and put you on a platter. He is in a cycle that he cannot break. The only way he is going to change is for someone to stop him.. Like you , breaking up with him for good. You keep taking him back, and he keeps on doing what he is doing, because he can. You will meet someone who will treat you good and sweep you off your feet, and you are going to wonder what took you so long to do it.
2006-08-27 20:36:24
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answered by marie 2
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Have confidence and control...tell him how you feel, don't fight about it or be mad....be calm about it...tell him you will not date him if he has his flings...tell him you will want to take a break from him for a while and then maybe if you can see a good change in him you will take him back....basically, you have to show him that you are OK with living your life without him, even if you're not....it should make him realize how good he has it with you....if he doesn't gee that then he was a waste of your time...sorry....
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2006-08-27 19:18:31
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answered by Brittany B 2
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Move on because once a cheater always a cheater. Save yourself from all the hurt and pain over and over again. It's time for you to be happy so don't look back strive forward. But if you feel that you need him go to god in pray.
2006-08-27 19:46:20
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answered by avril721 1
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this sounds like a bad problem. he might be trying to put you through this pain on purpose or he might be trying really hard to change his problem! which do you think is the case? talk to him about it. it you think about all of the points of love and which he has fulfilled and what he has done to you and still want you, then go for him. ask for help in other places. ask friends. get all the info you need to make your decision. it will be an important one.
2006-08-27 19:25:39
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answered by Tbs Girl 3
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you should find someone else because your worth more than that. you deserve so much better. you deserve to be treated with respect, not be thrown to the curb every time some new "thang" comes around. i mean talk about immature and just plain rude. the best advice i can give is follow your heart, cause it'll never lie to you.
2006-08-27 19:26:16
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answered by Airheadster 1
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dump that jerk...he's just using you as a play toy. He doesn't want to be tied down with a serious relationship because he's an immature sack of s*hit and is a sex feen. A real guy like me would treat you right...:) and trust me there out there, but there hard to find. Best of luck to you and your situation.
2006-08-27 19:21:53
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answered by ___________ 2
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I think you should just leave him alone.Cause one day he is going to leave you for one of those flings and he might bring you something back from one of those flings even if yall don't have sex he could do something with his mouth and kiss u and give you a mouth disease. And yes there is a mouth disease. If you don't believe me just look it up on the Internet.
2006-08-27 19:20:38
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answered by kita 2
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hey you really sound like a sweet girl, you owe it to yourself at this young age to get rid of him now. I know this is hard to hear, but if you know he is cheating on you then you really don't want him anyway. You can do better, take it from someone who has been there, it is hard but you will grow from this.
2006-08-27 19:28:43
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answered by trip 2
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This guy is a looser who is using you as a backup when he needs a girl. He is not worth it because he will not change. One slip up you could forgive, but since he does it repeatedly it shows that it is a pattern that he will not break.
2006-08-27 19:18:41
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answered by bcwestcoaster 3
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