My bf had a restraining order. He can't be with me and we can't be together in public because he would get locked up if he got caught. This order will expire in 2009 . We really love each other and i want to remove this restraining order. I really dont know what to do first or how am i gonna do this.
2006-08-27 12:02:59 · 24 answers · asked by velle 1 in Politics & Government ➔ Law Enforcement & Police
WTF???
I had to read this question a couple of times because I figured there's no way I read it right the first time...turns out I did read it right the first time.
So my answer stands... W...T...F???
2006-08-27 12:37:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Did you ask for the restraining order? What the basis for the order? Was it domestic violence or something like it? Things may seem like love and roses right now but time will show that he will do again whatever it was he did that caused that order to be put in place I can't advise you to remove the order but you should know that spending time with him even indoors after a restraining order is in place then you can be breaking the law yourself so the best advise I can give is to call the courthouse and find out if you are breaking the law seeing him even in private than go from there.
2006-08-27 19:08:57 · answer #2 · answered by deputeesteph33 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Most of the time when someone files a restraining order against someone else, it's because the person being restrained has posed a threat of bodily harm to the person filing the order. Is this the case for you? If so then maybe you might want to rethink getting the restraining order removed.
2006-08-27 19:13:17 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to contact the court system (county, city, etc.) in which the restraining order was filed. What was the reason for the order? 2009 is still a long way off. If domestic violence is involved, both of you should seek counseling if you wish to be together once the order has been lifted. It will help in sorting things out. If that wasn't the case, then good luck to you both.
2006-08-27 19:08:00 · answer #4 · answered by styymy_2000 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are still a minor...forget it. Did you sign the restraining order? Why? If you did sign it you can probably get it removed but it may cost you a little to do it if you are not a minor. They might ask you why you are wanting this done.
If you signed the thing to begin with and want it removed now especially if he has a past history of beating you, I'd say it is a stupid thing to do.
We need a little more information first in order to post a more intelligent answer to your problem.
Good luck and thanks for the 2 points anyway!!
2006-08-27 19:58:13 · answer #5 · answered by Large Cop 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can talk to the city prosecutor. They are usually understanding, but really think about the decision, before you do. There was a reason for you to get the restraining order in the first place. Also, don't mention that you have had contact with him when you do talk to the prosecutor.
2006-08-27 19:09:35 · answer #6 · answered by DispatchGirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why did u get the order in the first place? A restraining order is supposed to be used to prtect people... and should not be abused simply because you and the BF had a fight. In fact I will go a step further... women who abuse the system like that should be given jail time .... its BS !!!
2006-08-27 19:08:53 · answer #7 · answered by kitty.hicks 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Think carefully. If you had a restraining order against him there must have been a reason for it. Whether it was mental, physical or sexual abuse it was abuse. Walk away, if he has abused you it is certainly not your fault. There are nice people out there who will treat you with respect. Think of the scenario, you go back with him, fall pregnant, have a child and , if he is an angry man, he abuses that child who is to blame? Unfortunately it is you . Please, please, and I'm saying this as a male, don't ever believe that someone who has abused you who turns round and apologises and says "I'll never do it again". He will and you're in a position to walk away from it. As I say if you've got an order against him there must have been a reason. I do wish you everything but you're going down a path where you have no control.
2006-08-27 19:40:36 · answer #8 · answered by bob kerr 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
first ?? is why do you have a restraining order on him and or who got the restraining order on him. if you are a young girl and he is older and the parents got it on him then there isn't anything you can do. If you perhaps put it on him then you need to go to the courts and talk to them. Be aware that if you caught with him you can be arrested.
2006-08-27 19:07:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Only the person who requested the restraining order can have it removed. Was this your parents and you a minor? No way.
2006-08-27 19:11:57 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you had a restraining order in the first place you need to take some time out and think about it.it will take awhile but i dont care how much you love him,there is a reason you two shouldnt have contact.please take the time to think this through.leopards do not change their spots.
2006-08-27 19:08:19 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋