Ok. Where to begin. I met a girl at work and I asked her out. We went out on a date...had a really good time. I call her a few days later and we talk about 2 hours. I ask her out again for the next weekend but of course it was my fault I asked her out very late in the week and she had already made other plans. So the next week I ask again and of course busy again (she is in a sorority by the way) So we continue to talk on the phone a few times a week and basically I get bored with it cause it is going nowhere (she also tells me she is wanting to take things slow because she broke up with her boyfriend). I quit calling and 3 weeks later she calls me and we talk for a while on the phone again. So I figure maybe she has come around and gotten over the guy. So like an idiot I ask her out again....and yet again...busy. I guess I am just really confused. Is she wanting to be friends...more? Anyone have an answer????? Girls, you know the answer, tell me.
2006-08-27 11:59:32 · 14 answers · asked by DC 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
We don't work together anymore. Haven't for 3 months. I haven't even seen the girl since she left work so why even call me after all this time???
2006-08-27 12:08:49 · update #1
Sounds like she is still having trouble getting ready to a romance. If you think she is worth it, just keep waiting.
2006-08-27 12:03:59 · answer #1 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She is interested in you
The reason she called you back after all that time is that she misses you and you ran through her mind
Plus she wants you to still be open about a relationship with her
She knows that if she does not give you some kind of signal that you will move on without her and she does not want that
But she still needs time to get over her past so give her some time some comfort and let her know that your still interested in her but try to calm down on the asking out
If you want to spend some time out with her try not to make it sound like anything that will come with strings atrached
Make it sound like your just wanting ice-cream etc. and then maybe she will consider going out for the ICE-CREAM
Yes, you can make slight passes at her but nothing too strong
it will only drive her away.
Hang in there, making sure that she still understands that you want something more than a friendship; but taking it easy.
The more she's getting over this guy, you make your move closer to her every day/ week.
BUT REMEMBER THAT SHE IS INTERESTED IN YOU IF NOT SHE WOULD NOT HAVE GIVEN YOU A CALL BACK
We girl if we like something we will take it slow due to the fact that we just came out of a relationship and dont want to take ship again.
But she is giving you a sign so just hang in there and keep things steedy with your feelings and emotions for her and she will definitely come around.
2006-08-27 13:02:05 · answer #2 · answered by annie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont know. Ive never done that. But what I would say is dont waste any more time with her unless your ok with the way things are right now. She's obviously in the middle of something. You guys work together so maybe that could be the issue. Its not starting off on the right foot so I would just leave it alone.
2006-08-27 12:07:51 · answer #3 · answered by JustMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's still hung up on the ex She's probably seeing him on and off and is unsure where she stands with him. She wants to let go and she knows she needs to, but she can't. I'm sure she's not ready to "date", but could probably use a friend.
Let her know that she can be honest w/ you about her status and let her talk about it if she needs to. I know that guys HATE to hear about the ex, but it does help us get over it. Also, if you initiate some talk about him, she may feel a little less guilty about spending time w/ you when she knows she isn't ready for a relationship. Be patient, supportive, and don't try to rush her into bed. Good luck!
2006-08-27 12:17:40 · answer #4 · answered by capi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My advise to you is that you should just try being patient and if it's meant to be then it will be. But until that time comes keep your eyes and ears open because you may have someone you let pass you by because you are waiting on someone else that is not quiet ready yet. Pray about and god will help you may the right decision.
2006-08-27 12:20:39 · answer #5 · answered by avril721 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've gotten some good insight from participants here because you presented your situation well.
Now go to her and explain your confusion. She'll understand your question, for sure, but she may not necessarily be able to articulate her feelings, and that can sometimes make some people angry.
Just think things through before confronting (or avoiding) situations, relationships, life.
2006-08-27 12:15:18 · answer #6 · answered by macguffin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sound to me she is either really busy or tiring to string you along. You should talk to her and let her know that you like but you are confused. Maybe she really does want to take things slowly, some woman don't like rushing relationships after one just ended because they are afraid of getting hurt. GOOD LUCK, and remember girls like the truth!!!!
2006-08-27 12:08:53 · answer #7 · answered by angie1412 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let her ask you out next time. She should be the one to initiate things since you've already tried.
2006-08-27 12:08:25 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think she just wants you to be friends...
If i like a guy i go out with him...phone chats are nice but nothing compares to the actual date.
you should find someone else..unless u want to have a platonic relationship with your co-worker and also a very big phone bill
good luck
2006-08-27 12:05:37 · answer #9 · answered by Diana_84 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she is not over her ex. don't ask her out again. ignore her. and if she calls you tell her you are busy and ask her to call you in a couple of days.
2006-08-27 12:09:02 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋