I feel confused about marrying my boyfriend "Larry" because we have a rocky relationship and I am also expecting a child very soon. I care about Larry but I want to go back to college next year. I am also pressured into keeping the baby.
2006-08-27 11:39:53 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
if in doubt then dont marry ... you will be miserable all ur life
2006-08-27 11:43:08 · answer #1 · answered by jack jack 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How are you? I hope that you, and the baby are both doing fine. I think that you should keep the baby #1 god does everything for a reason, and this baby might grow up, and be you blessing even though the years of struggles you might have to go through first might not make you feel that way, and #2 no offense but the baby did not ask to be conceived so that would not be fair.
As for Larry, me and a girlfriend were talking the other day about why so many marriages end, and the conclusion she came up with was because people ignore the signs. So I am going to say to you only you know what you and Larry have been through, and even though you love him and is carrying his baby (which is not a justifable reason to marry someone) you can answer your on question about marriage by asking yourself has there been any signs recently or in the past that indicates that he is not suppose to be the one you have had a talk to god about sending you. The one who is suppose to love you inspite of, the one who don't mind meeting your needs before his, the one who is not perfect but with not intentionally hurt you, you know the man that every women has prayed to god about sending her.
I say go to college next year find a way to do it with the baby, and do what's best for you becasue the one thing you don't want is to have a baby you resent, and a husband you don't truly love with no college degree. This baby is going to be a blessing trust me just stick to hit rough times and all leave Larry alone for right now and find yourself. Good Luck.
2006-08-27 18:54:05 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First Larry. If your relationship is already rocky don't marry him. Being pregnant is a bad reason to marry someone with whom you do not get along.
Go to college next year no matter what happens you will need a good education to have a productive life.
Last and most important the baby. You do not say how old you are but you have already made one important decision about your child, you decided to stay pregnant. Giving a child up for adoption is so hard to do and yet for many it is the right answer. Adoptive couples are carefully screened and they desperately want a baby. You could give them a gift like no other. If you are feeling pressured to keep the baby that tells me that you do not feel ready to be a Mom. No one can tell you what the right decision is but if you have someone to talk to about it you can maybe get your own answer. If you do decide to keep the baby be sure to take Larry to court for child support. This is going to be the most difficult time in your life I wish you good luck and God's blessings.
2006-08-27 18:51:49 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm tough one. Well, if you don't want to keep the baby there are tons of people out there wanting to adopt. Also, getting married is definitely not gonna make your relationship any easier, it'll just be harder. If your pregnancy is the only reason you'd get married, I'd say give the baby up for adoption and go back to college. You'll be happier, the baby will be happier (being in a family that wants a child), and "Larry" shouldn't pressure you into doing something you don't want to do.
2006-08-27 18:46:15 · answer #4 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your relationship with Larry is going to get even rockier with the pressure of a new baby. Unless you really care about whether your child is "legitimate" or not, don't get married until you sort out the relationship issues. Try some counseling and parenting classes.
2006-08-27 18:47:24 · answer #5 · answered by DeeDee 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
why at this late stage of the game are you asking yourself the doubt questions. MARRY....what for?????? you've already put the cart before the horse....giving out your milk for free...why should he buy a cow now?????? Why weren't you on birth control? pill, patch, shots, or even the use of a condom could've a made your situation alot more pallitable.
College...honey...let this man raise the baby or give it up for adoption. You're not ready to be a parent....and sacrafice things. Let the boyfriend raise the baby while you attend college. Set the goals that you have already set for yourself and follow your dream.
If your plans are truly college raising a child will only set you back and when the baby is sick, you'll miss classes, when the baby has a DR appointment you'll miss classes. Can't you see...you're not ready for this big time committment of motherhood?
2006-08-27 18:46:06 · answer #6 · answered by aunt_beeaa 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Only marry him if you love him the last thing you want to do is marry him and then get divorced and you don't want to put your child through that at all.
Every relationships have their up and downs no relationship is perfect so don't confuse that with what you actually really want.
You can still have a baby and go back to school i am sure their will be a child care center close to your school or even at your school.
2006-08-27 18:57:03 · answer #7 · answered by gemma 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. If you are confused you are not ready. Also if you are relying on our answers, that is pretty sad. Nothing says you have to get married, you can care for Larry without being married....I am a single parent and it works for me!
2006-08-27 18:51:04 · answer #8 · answered by shar 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you are confused and you already know this relationship is rocky that alone should answer your question,no one can tell you how that should go but you.no one should pressure you into keeping a baby,if you don't think you are ready to be a parent talk to someone,because this is not reversible you are a parent for life.and be happy( even if you choose to keep the baby)going to college is a good choice and you should be looking forward to it. good luck.
2006-08-27 18:54:54 · answer #9 · answered by G. kravitz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you keep Larry and Larry wants to keep the baby. Then you have a built in baby sitter for you to go to school.
2006-08-27 18:42:17 · answer #10 · answered by onlyonemeg 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Talk to him communication is key. Be advised deciding on whether to keep the baby they are some things in life we regret and cant take back. So think about the soul you are carrying because what's best for them and you is all that matters. The Decision YOU MAKE WILL NOT ONLY CHANGE YOUR LIFE BUT THE LIFE OF OTHERS PRAY ABOUT IT.SOMETIMES THE FIRST IS THE ONLY CHANCE IN LIFE. I AM PRAYING FOR YOU
BE ENCOURAGED
GOD"S LOVE
2006-08-27 18:49:40 · answer #11 · answered by caramelcutie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋