I plan on being a mother someday, and I just wanted to know what are some skills I need to know in order to be as good a mother as I can be. (especially if I'm going to be a stay at home mom!)
2006-08-27 11:31:54 · 47 answers · asked by Lady Myrkr 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I'm 14 and I already know what the most important part of being a mother is for when I want to have children. The most important part is to be there emotionally for your child because alot of things can happen and you shouldn't want to miss out. You need to listen to your child and really be there to help him/her get through whatever it is. You can never be the perfect mother but being there for your child will always be something for him/her to cherish.
2006-08-27 11:36:30 · answer #1 · answered by shortskirtmakeitwork 3 · 5⤊ 1⤋
I once saw a saying "Being a mom may not be what I do best, but it's the best thing I'll ever do". I believe that is true. I have 3 boys from 4 to 15 and I honestly don't think skill is as important as certain character traits. You have to be patient and self controlled enough to clean up throw up for the 20th time on no sleep in 24 hours without losing your cool, have a good enough sense of humor to take into stride the many messes and silly things they do, have good enough judgement to determine when your child is ready for whatever the next step is, enough "mettle" to tactfully handle the difficult teachers, scout masters, etc. that don't understand your child's unique personality. I often say that when my kids were born someone forgot to give me the owner's manual, but I bet you'll be a great mom. You really can learn a lot from good parenting magazines, Dr. Spock and your pediatrician. My best advice is don't go it alone, I don't think I could be nearly as good a mom without my son's dad by my side!
2006-08-27 13:43:59 · answer #2 · answered by Robin R 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Lots of patients and creativity. You will definitely need that in order to keep your sanity. Learn to laugh about small things too. If your child draws on the wall just grab a magic eraser - it's not the end of the world. If your child pees on the floor in a corner - sit them on the potty & grab a rag. Most things that kids do aren't the end of the world. Use praise much more than you use punishment. It will get you much further with your kids. Kids are awesome! If your already thinking about how to be a good mother now and you don't have kids yet - your going to be a great Mommy!
2006-09-04 08:27:28 · answer #3 · answered by twisteddistance 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First things first...
READ to your children...even at birth. Read often and everything. They will grow to LOVE it and it will help them learn when they are ready for school.
Set guidelines and boundries. If they break a rule or guideline, DO what you said you would DO, give them the punishment. NEVER break down and give in. Set your rules to allow them to grow, but not to stifle them.
Do NOT let children talk back to you EVER!!! Encourage them to be respectful of ALL adults, even those they do not like. This will teach them how to deal with all of the people in the world.
PLAY with your children...laugh, make up games, EAT together as a family as OFTEN as you can, but no less than 3 times a week.
TALK to your children about EVERYTHING, but don't give them more information than they are ready to handle. For example, if they ask "where do babies come from" and they are 5, give the answer for a 5 year old and not a 12 year old.
Encourage your children to TALK to you.
LOVE your children, take an interest in everything they do. Give praise and hugs and kisses many many times a day.
Do NOT fly off the handle if they do something wrong. Handle all behavior, mistakes, problems with a clear head and level thinking.
AND since you are asking before you have children, YOU will be a good mother!
2006-09-02 11:52:42 · answer #4 · answered by sewshawn 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Seriously?
You need to learn organization, good nutrition skills,, learn how to cook real food, stuff that does not come in a box, time management, money management, know how to say NO and mean it, and you have to be good at everything else as well.. Just remember, once you have a baby, you should dedicate your life to that, and be happy doing so.. don't let your kids feel for one second, that you begrudge the fact that you no longer have a life of your own. It is the most important job there is.
2006-09-03 17:36:59 · answer #5 · answered by oneblondepilgrim 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
1. Don't sweat the small stuff, if they spill something hand them a rag to clean it up, don't rant and rave about it.
2, Do NOT try to force potty training. When the child is ready they will let you know...I've never known a child to start kindergarten in diapers.
3. Do NOT put a child to bed with a bottle, this can cause choking and gaging and spitting up and swallowing their own vomit and asphixiating. Milk/formula also contains sugar which is not good for the teeth and the milk/formula sugars coat the teeth at bed time.
4. Pick your battles, don't stand in the front door aruguing that your daughter is NOT going to school with that black eyeliner on her lips and is NOT getting on the bus wearing the black leather pants with the black leather overcoat...just be glad she's getting ON the bus to begin with.
5. Throw out ALL of the books by "experts" that people give you. YOU are the only expert when it comes to YOUR children.
2006-08-31 21:16:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think I'd put patience at the top of my list! A stay at home mom needs skills in every department; cleaning, cooking, first aid, etc. But that stuff just comes naturally when you are a mom. Patience is something you gotta strive for. Also, set the rules and NEVER cave in on following through with discipline.
2006-08-27 15:30:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anni 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First, things don't have to be sterilized all the time. A little dirt doesn't' hurt your child.
Second, let the kids take a few falls and get bumps and scrapes. That is part of learning to be independent.
Third, be very consistent in any form of discipline. The child needs to grow up with clear boundaries for right and wrong.
Fourth, love your child no matter what. Let you child know that mom will always be there and they will always have a home with you if things go bad when they are older.
2006-08-27 11:36:24 · answer #8 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 7⤊ 0⤋
I am a stay at home mom. I have got many compliments about how I am raising my kids. All you need to do is to love your kids and help them though there everyday needs. Just remember that mommy needs her time to so if you are a stay at home mom then take one night out of the week and go to a movie or something. Good luck
2006-09-04 10:25:38 · answer #9 · answered by babykins1025 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will just become motherly when the time comes. dont worry about that kind of stuff now you are young and you have a long time before you need to be worrying about being a mom. Just enjoy life, just asking this question prooves you will be a great mom. So go play a game or something. Good luck
2006-09-01 00:58:15 · answer #10 · answered by laurie k 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋