How do you reach out to someone that is mean towards fat people?

Answer 1

I wouldn't bother. If that person doesn't want to be around you because of a number on a scale, then you probably shouldn't want to be around him. That person probably isn't worth your time. And you shouldn't bother defending your body by saying that it's hard to lose weight and that you work really hard to. First off, if he's mean to fat people, odds are he will not believe you anyway and will probably treat you even more badly. And second off, it seems desperate and a little sad that you wouldn't have enough of self-confidence in yourself. There's probably some kind of insecurity that causes him to behave like that and you don't need to internalize his issues.

Bottom line, It's not his body, it's yours, and if he doesn't like your body then you know whose problem that is? His.


(This is all assuming that you're fat and that this 'someone' is a guy, which may very be wrong, but that's my presumptions and my advice.)

Answer 2

Well...if I had it my way...I would plan a weekend event, making it sound very exciting, and actually have games organized for the weekend that must be participated in by everyone. Teams are the best for such an agenda. I would approach that mean person and offer them a get away of a lifetime, and once that invitation has been accepted, get a hold of as many as my friends that have struggled with their weight all their lives to be the best sportsman of all time, just to teach them, the harsh reality of their own ignorance. But in order for such an event to prove successful, pay back is not in the order, but rather allow the games, and their end result, at the end of the day, be filled with a lot of fun, and laughter from open minded individuals. That person would not be able to escape endless hours of fun, and laughter, and he would be opened up to finally realizing how great of people they all are, how wonderful each individual is, in heart, in mind, in spirit. He would have no choice but see the individual/s from his heart's view where there is no weight but rather life...free spirited life radiating by heart/s of gold. Then, should that individual go back to the ways of ignorance, well gee's wouldn't that be something if all my friends decided to stop by and wait for them to come home, while we wait there for him on the front porch, lawn, whatever works...and would be there camped for who knows how long. Gee...wonder how one would handle that...hum...yeah...if it were me...possibilities are endless! Thanks for asking.

Answer 3

With a fork and knife?

Seriously, though, my husband and I are both in the normal range, if somewhat a little "well upholstered", and we have this skin and bones 8 year old who notices what she calls "chubby" people. I have pointed out to her that people with a little extra weight look like they would be much more fun to cuddle up with, and probably aren't all cranky like people who have skipped a meal. With the percentage of our population growing ever larger (in girth as well), I don't want her to harbor unworkable attitudes toward such an important part of the population.

Answer 4

I'd have already avoided the person because I myself am fat. But if I got close enough to him, I would inform him of my reasons for being fat and explain to him that I am trying my hardest to lose weight but its difficult. Those kinds of people sometimes say, "you are so lazy, do some exercise!" but a lot of thin people were born that way and are less active then me, and they have never had to work at most things as hard as I have because of my extra weight.

Answer 5

I would tell them that in this life everyone has a "Cross to bear", and that a fat person's is just out there where everyone can see it.

Then I would tell them that unfortunately by mean to someone who is fat they have just revealed what their "cross to bear" is - they are assholes. Then I would stab them in their black little hearts.

Answer 6

You can't reach people like this.If you lose this person as a" friend"who is judgemental what have you really lost?

Answer 7

With a clenched fist and a copy of the golden rules???

Answer 8

did you mean how to repond to them???
if so, i would not bother with them, they are rude and do not know what kindness it, we are all God's children regardless of what we look like, short, tall, heavy or thin, i rather be friends with someone based on their personality and kindness that what one looks like.

Answer 9

I would just ask them if being mean makes them feel better.

Answer 10

I ignore them and have the passing question of what's that all about.