He tends to finish faster than he'd like to. Less than 10 minutes. I have no problem with it, but he swears that he has never had this problem with other females. First he said it's because my stuff is good. Then he said it's because I have all these rules. The rule he is talking about is that I don't like going a 2nd round.
I told him that not everyone gets a 2nd chance in life so he needs to do it right the first time. He also said that he rarely gets it from me so when he does, he's so excited he can't contain himself. We do it about every other day, but he says he's used to doing it more than once a day.
I told him it sounds like he is making excuses and blaming it all on me. We argue about this and I am hurt that he is putting the blame on me.
I don't have a problem with our sex life, but he obviously has a problem with his finishing early and he claims he's not blaming me, but that's what he's doing.
It's causing problems between us & we are mad at each right now. Help.
2006-08-27 11:15:50 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Let me make this clear...he is using the fact that he doesn't get to do it twice as his excuse as to why he finished early...but I let him do it twice once and he finished early both times...Plus I never had that problem before with other guys. They did what they had to do the first time and got it right the first time.
He is the only one that has a problem with how fast he finishes. I don't mind at all. I just don't like him blaming me for it.
2006-08-27 11:24:39 · update #1
Also be advised that the comment about doing it right the first time came during an argument when he was trying to blame stuff on me. Like I said, we've been arguing about this and I was upset.
No other guy had this problem and if they did, they sure didn't blame it on me.
I didn't mean to be hurtful to him and I didn't say it as bad as it sounded on here.
2006-08-27 11:37:38 · update #2
Oh...and he claims he doesn't masterbate because I suggested he do that.
2006-08-27 11:41:16 · update #3
And he claims he doesn't masterbate because I suggested he do that.
2006-08-27 11:41:37 · update #4
i'm 20 and my bf is 25. I posted a question similar to this. My bf lasts no more than 10 mins. Pretty sad but hey maybe its cuz we have the good stuff or at least that's what i like to think. And the 2nd round thing is BS......we'll go on a 2nd round and he still finishes in 10 mins!!!! Maybe with the years of experience he will mature. Just give it time girl.
2006-08-27 11:24:18 · answer #1 · answered by chica™ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The fact that your (both of you) are putting this much pressure on it can't help the cause. Just relax and have a good time. Its not supposed to be a timed challenge. Try different things. It should be about both people feeling comfortable. Make a night out of it instead of a chore at the end of the night. If that doesn't work have him rub one off before hand.
2006-08-27 11:39:25 · answer #2 · answered by Mike C 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like he doesn't want to face the fact that he is and will always be a premature ejaculater......he will blame it on you because he it makes him feel better not to blame it on himself....the fact that he tells you he has never had this problem is bull$hit, he has always had this problem...research some things he can do to length in his time, i have a book called men sex secrets and it has all kinds of hints for the premature ejaculater, which is what he is, and if it really mothers him than he will try some other things to go for the long run.....sex every other day is not too little, by the way
2006-08-27 11:23:25 · answer #3 · answered by babygurl 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Proven fact, most men will last longer the 2nd time around. So if you aren't down with twice then try giving him head and then having sex
2006-08-27 11:19:46 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
ummm yeah i be a little fustrated too. the second time is longer just by biology. and if you cant do it right the first time is well just dumb. i would have dropped you a while ago honestly but like he said you stuff must be good. but ive been blinded by sex drive so i know how to seperate the two now.
2006-08-27 11:20:40 · answer #5 · answered by gsschulte 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Such a funny question!
If you only want to do it once a day, get him to **** himself off before, he'll last longer then when he gets his chance with you for the day!
2006-08-27 11:41:02 · answer #6 · answered by Matthew H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He can self ejaculate every other day in the shower to cool off the pressure and then last longer with you..
2006-08-27 11:21:06 · answer #7 · answered by At the seashore 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"I told him that not everyone gets a 2nd chance in life so he needs to do it right the first time."
Hilarious logic!
2006-08-27 11:19:36 · answer #8 · answered by Phil S 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
after reading this post I don't see why he stays with you. I would have run away from you
2006-08-27 11:19:28 · answer #9 · answered by JJohn 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
give him the 2nd chance maybe hell do better
2006-08-27 11:26:37 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋