2006-08-27 11:10:01 · 11 answers · asked by VKF Jr. 2 in Health ➔ Mental Health
I would like to tell you right now, from experience, that if she is your wife, there is one thing you MUST do for her. If she is threatening for suicide, she is sick. You must get her help. Either call the hospital, take her in, or call the police.
There is little you can do as a loved one when she is in this state. I am sorry to say this, but because I have been suicidal, I know this. Nothing makes sense, and you cannot trust her at all to be alone. I know this must take a heavy toll on you as well, cuz I am sure you love her so very much. You can still be the caring and loving mate, but make sure she gets professional help.
You may think, well, that is impossible, I cannot commit her, I don't have the money, and I don't know if insurance will pay for it. Well, if you want to save your mate's life, my friend, these things should no longer matter. They no longer mattered for me and my husband when I was hospitalized. We did nothing to make the worries go away, they just vanished, cuz we were focused on me coming home and staying well.
You are welcome to IM me if you like.
Just remember to take her seriously. Believe her whenever she threatens suicide. Don't think she is doing it cuz she needs attention. When people threaten to kill themselves, they are not thinking of the outcome, that if someone overhears this, they will end up in the hospital. All they care about is ending their life.
And, unfortunately, nothing you say makes sense to her either. It takes rest, and exams, and finding the right drugs for her, to get into a better place. Take care. Hang in there.
One more thing---I have to kind of disagree with Sparky. You CAN keep someone from killing themselves, IF you are aware of the signs and IF you act soon enough. Sometimes it may be too late, and this is not your fault. People are in an unreachable state of mind in their torment, if you don't intervene, like Sparky said, they WILL succeed in suicide, but if you keep aware, you can change her outcome. And, you are not to blame, if something happens. I hope things get better for you.
2006-08-27 11:48:15 · answer #1 · answered by rach_cast 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't stop someone killing themselves if they want to.
All you can do is be her friend.
Don't get swept up in trying to look after her all the time. You've got your own life to lead. In some ways, and I speak from experience here, the other person will almost suck you dry with their neediness. It's not up to you wrap someone in cotton wool and no-one has the right to demand that.
Care, but keep a healthy distance.
2006-08-27 11:23:49 · answer #2 · answered by sparky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well done.
Try to reason with her, to get her to see that life is worth living, or at least it could be, soon.
She's a long time dead, we all are.
You can't prevent her trying again.
You can't live peoples' lives for them, bless you for trying.
All you can be is a good person, and the best friend she could have.
Respect to you, sister.
Peace and happiness to her.
2006-08-27 11:18:41 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
this wasn't a serious attempt at suicide, it's a cry for help. if she was serious no one would know about it til after the event..... next time she does it (and i'm sure there will be a next time) make sure she goes to a+e and they will refer her to a psychiatrist. this is way too much for you to be taking on.
2006-08-29 22:55:41 · answer #4 · answered by emma a 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would suggest that if she does it again to take her to the nearest hospital with a psych floor and have her committed so that she can't hurt herself.
2006-08-27 11:31:41 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's hard to try and keep one step ahead of someone who is suiciadal,, ( trust me on this one) make sure she is getting professional help that she needs,, and make sure when she's stable she and you make a safty plan,, what steps she can take when she feels out of control or that she wants to hurt herself,,
2006-08-27 11:15:59 · answer #6 · answered by B V 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i agree with everything that rach cast told you... i have been there too... you are a very strong person to be hanging in there... don't give up! God bless.
2006-08-27 18:26:30 · answer #7 · answered by tabby261 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find out why and deal with that
2006-08-27 11:17:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
1st you really need to get her to Dr's what happens next time she does it and no one is around talk to her mum and get her to Dr's
2006-08-28 04:51:37 · answer #9 · answered by munchie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you or she needs help
2006-08-27 11:18:26 · answer #10 · answered by dinkydoo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋