I'm getting to the age where I think i should be on birth control just because you never know what might happen...and I watn to get on it with out her flipping out b/c shes like the overprotective type...any ideas?
2006-08-27 11:05:13 · 16 answers · asked by I <3 the RED SOX! 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
That's tricky, but say what you said in the Question:
"Mom, I tihnk I am getting to the age where I think I should be on Birth Control, because you never know what might happen. Please dont be worried I just want to be protected."
2006-08-27 11:09:11 · answer #1 · answered by AB &♥; 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the first thing you need to do (if you havent done it already) is tell your mom you are sexually active or interested in having sex. Once she knows that, she will probably proactive seek birth control to keep you from getting pregnant. But if she doesn't tell her you want to be honest with her which is why you are coming to her. Ask your mother to make a doctor's appointment for you so you can have an examination. While there tell your doctor, in the presence of your mom you are interested in being on birth control so you can discuss your options with your mother present. Her participation in the process will show her your maturity and the serious thought you have put to this.
2006-08-27 11:23:22 · answer #2 · answered by philly_q_t_2004 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know it's hard for you. I was a teenager once, and now I'm a mom. I think it's actually hard for BOTH of you to talk about things like this. But, you have to and once you start, it will get easier. So, start by acknowleding that your mom isn't stupid, she was a teenager once too. She is protective because she loves you. She is the best person to talk to, she loves you.
Pregnancy is a huge fear of every parent, so it's great that if you are thinking of taking that step, (or if you already are having sex) that you are serious about preventing an unwanted teenage pregnancy. Your mom may also want to protect YOU from getting hurt. Taking it into that next level is a huge emotional step. It's often a one-sided committement. I was going to say "when you are young" but you know what, for all women!
Talk about your feelings of self worth and about your self esteem. Make sure that if you are having sex, it is for the right reasons.
Like I said, talking to your mom is going to be hard at first. Remembering that it is just as hard for her, may be helpful. But once you start being honest and stop keeping secrets from eachother, your relationship will be much much better.
2006-08-27 11:15:05 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I encourage you to wait for sex until marriage. I did and it is the best decision I have ever made. Birth control won't protect you from regrets about doing things with the wrong person.
Also, telling her "you never know what might happen..." implies that you have very little self control. That's not a convincing argument that you're responsible.
2006-08-27 11:12:45 · answer #4 · answered by IT Pro 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that you're going on birth control, and why. Then explain to her that you would like to do it with her love and support, and that it's not really her ultimate decision and that should you decide to, you can do it anyway. You can get it for free without her knowing or even being able to stop you. She will eventually get over it even if it does turn into a major issue.
2006-08-27 11:13:25 · answer #5 · answered by Will P 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HOW OLD ARE You...if your under 15/16 then you should instead use the "no sex" method of birth control and this is the best method..however if your older your just going to have to talk to her or go to a family planning clinci find out info then tell her what you think ...if you find enough info and actually to do it properly hopefully she will see that you are mature enough
2006-08-27 11:24:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl I'm in the same place you in but you should tell your mom that you need the birth control. Because you don't want to end up pregnant.
Good Luck Girl
2006-08-27 11:13:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, don't just come out and say that - she will die of a heart attack!!
You need to bring up the topic in stages. First talk to her about dating and listen to her words of wisdom. A few days later talk to her about getting romantic with a bf. A few days later talk about other girls who have gotten on the pill.
You need to take it easy on your mom. She was a young girl once, too, but times have changed. She needs to know she can trust your judgment in the situation. Good communication is the key to the whole thing.
2006-08-27 11:11:05 · answer #8 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are many negative side effects to birth control you may want to look into it more yourself first. Then if you still want to, you will be more informed for the discussion with mom.
2006-08-27 11:12:25 · answer #9 · answered by me 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honestly i think you should just ask to talk to her and let her know that you would like to be put on bc because you never know what kinds of things that could happen that you dont really want to happen but to tell you the truth nothing safe i'm 20 and i had a baby of birthcontrol pills
2006-08-27 11:09:04 · answer #10 · answered by marriedw1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋