We have at our church these girls and their mother that are so annoying. They sit like in the third row from the front. They sit and stare and flirt with the Pastor. They do this through his whole serman! He pays them no mind though. I think he got used to them or just oblivious to their advances. The girls would laugh and giggle after every sentence he says as he preaches. These girls are always this way and now it is so irritating to hear them laugh and flirt and be so loud. When they sit and respond to him, they just be wiggleing in their seats. I have noticed since this new pastor has been here that they have been more annoying then ever! They are in their late teens almost in their twenties. Four of them and they are sisters. When they laugh is is like cackleing and clucking.Good grief, they are the most annoying people I have ever been around. When church services ends we cant wait to leave because of them.How would you react in this type of situation? What would you do?
2006-08-27 10:59:44 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Just so that you would know and all else to know: Ms.Esther9364622,I am not jelious of those girls. They are annoying, they have been that way for years. I go to hear God's word and praise and worship. I have God in my heart and I hunger for His word and when it is disrupted by these loud cackeling horney girls, that they call attention upon them selves is very inappropriate and disrespectful in church. Nothing is up with me but me being annoyed by those girls like I said. I am not there to judge anyone. Though I am here seeing if anyone else had a similar situation. My family and I usally sits close to the front so we won't have to look at the back of people heads and not get distracted by peoples silly antics. now we dont cause they sit behind us acting like they do. I would not want the young Pastor to look at me, Am not one to have attention drawn to me. I am happily married and I have several children.
Sorry Ms. grammy_of_tw..., we have no ushers at our church.
2006-08-27 11:54:56 · update #1
this family seems to re-evaluate the reasons for going to church.
I feel for you sweetie. But I understand...I think that most churches have at least 1 family or 1 person in general that gets on our nerves.
There is a woman in my church that I & my mother both despise...because she acts all Godle & hollier than thou.....& goes home & then gets drunk as a skunk...
& also there was a family in our church with teen girls & the girls dressed like mini-sluts instead of christian-clean young ladies.
I am the daughter of a pastor....& I can't believe how church has changed over the years....I just can't see myself acting in such mannor...& I wonder why other people think it's ok...cause it is so disrespectful to be so flaunty in the house of the Lord.
2006-08-27 11:09:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
If it is getting to the point that you are having a difficult time concentrating on the service I would discuss it with the girls. Out of sheer embarrassment or shock they might just straighten up. If it doesn't stop after you have kindly brought their rude behavior to their attention, then I would go to the pastor. He may not be aware of it. At one of my old churches that I attended there was this couple we called the "neck rubbers". During the service he would sit next to his wife and rub her neck and play with her hair and she would let him do this. For everyone sitting behind them it was SO distracting! I know exactly what you are talking about. It was so bothersome that when they would sit down, people behind them would get up and move so they didn't have to watch the display. Yes, we are to "love our neighbor", but sometimes loving them is bringing to attention some type of inappropriate behavior that needs to be corrected. It's what we do with our children, right? So, I see no reason why you can't have a discrete conversation with the mother and girls. Good luck!
2006-08-27 18:11:11 · answer #2 · answered by Lilah 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Of course there is always those people who obviously aren't there for the right reasons. I'm sure your not the only one who thinks their acting very non-lady like to say the least. Just remember why you go to church and receive fellowship. Or maybe you could try staring at the back of their heads until they feel weird and turn around because they feel like someone watching them. I don't know it usually works for me. Remember love and honor them, maybe something in their lives is wrong and they need God's help to work through it.
2006-08-27 18:07:10 · answer #3 · answered by Angy FFRTFC 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Pastor and an Elder need to address this. "God is not the author of confusion". Too much distraction. If members start leaving, somebody will regret letting this go on. Hope this helps.
Be Blessed!
2006-08-27 18:07:03 · answer #4 · answered by ramzee 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
There is this one lady who sits at the very front of church during sung Masses and sings very very loud, just a fraction flat and a touch behind the beat.
On a good day she can drag half the church out of tune - I can't look at my father while she's doing it because we can't stop laughing.
One brave priest actually told her about it a few years ago but when he left, she started again and none of the rest of us have the guts to intervene.
2006-08-27 18:15:15 · answer #5 · answered by UKJess 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
We have at least two families in my church like that. It isn't from the problem you are listing though; they just have really abrasive, cold personalities. They prefer to hang out with thier cliques, even if they aren't accepted. Very sad.
The best thing to do is approach them about it. Be kind yet firm. Tell them there are plenty of other places to flirt. Church isn't one of them. At the very least, pray for them. Perhaps God will reach out to them in some way.
God bless!
2006-08-27 18:06:10 · answer #6 · answered by Oklahoman 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Yes, we have a family that is truly annoying. We follow God's commandment and love them as they are. You know what? Everyone has found something they like about each of the family members and they love us in return. It's win-win.
2006-08-27 18:04:12 · answer #7 · answered by swarr2001 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you need to have a meeting with your pastor to discuss this. He may not realize how much it is distracting and affecting the congregation. Good luck!
2006-08-27 18:03:21 · answer #8 · answered by Buttercup 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Oh! we have a lady and her three kids at my church that so annoying its sick-ing .so we spoke to her about her kids ,and when she did nothing about it I went to my pastor who had to talk to her about the situation and its getting better every now and then my pastor has to remind her about the behavior of her kids
2006-08-27 18:16:15 · answer #9 · answered by keturah66 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Do you have ushers there? Seems to me they would ask them to hush or sit in the back row. It CAN be done nicely, but firmly.
2006-08-27 18:08:08 · answer #10 · answered by grammy_of_twins_plus two 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋