It seem like most of the guys i have dated have etheir used me or just dumped me for someone else im kinda against homosexuality so dont give me those answer i have 3 guys i like 2 i would like to date and 2 that want to date me but ive got a problem i have no trust! my heart is shatterd right not and i feel like if i try to date my heart gonna get smaller and colder also more isolated i already hide in my room 90% of the time any sugestions??
2006-08-27 10:46:14 · 4 answers · asked by ~MommyLovesHerGirls~ 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
your doing the right thing. You need some alone time. sometimes that's the best because it helps you realize who you are as a person and you'll learn to appreciate yourself. You are your own best friend. Keep your distance BUT dont isolate yourself and dont tell people that your not trusting. Be posh about it and keep your head up high. have a lock on your heeart from now on and ONE day , the"one" will have the key to it.
if i were u...when i feel really crappy because of bad breakups or guy problems, i treat myself to a complete make over..cut your hair..dye it..highlight it. Youll feel like a new person and when you cut ur hair...your basically cutitn ur past bad memories with those evil men. So cut it and get out of the house ...even alone go to the park and just think and be one with yourself.
Good luck! and remember - This too shall pass
xxoo
2006-08-27 10:55:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been there done that!! Trust is a very hard thing to give and to have. It also depends on how old these guys are. A guy really doesn't know what he really wants in life until about age 30. Anytime before that a guy (95% of them) just plain old want to get drunk and laid, not necessarily in that order. they will say anything and do anything if they think they can get any type of play. I'm an ex player. I have read bedtime stories to their children, gone to chick flicks with them, hung out with their friends, given roses, spent the big money, etc etc etc... just to try and get some play...it workked 90% of the time. If I see that the target is what aI called a "hard" target then I would just get lost(i.e. guys using you and leaving) I suggest not dating until your heart mends(and it will). You could end up with someone because of the "rebound" --not fair to you or the transition guy--. Wait until you feel it deep inside and have a clear mind for thinking. trust will build over time. Trust is earned and is not a right away thing. It took me five years to totally trust the one who is now my wife. I was burnt by people I loved as well as family. Your heart will cure and as you can see things do get better as time goes on. Good Luck.
2006-08-27 18:01:53 · answer #2 · answered by Robert V 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is someone out there for you. Don't put up the barriers and walls and think that love won't find you. If you are hiding in your room he definitely won't find you. Just get out there and show your loser ex that you are an exciting woman and that there are others out there that see that in you. Good Luck! The Love Doc
2006-08-27 17:55:07 · answer #3 · answered by luckyman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
iF YOU HIDE IN YOUR ROOM 90% OF THE TIME YOU NEED TO SNAP OUT OF IT REAL QUICK OR SEE A DOCTOR, THIS COULD BE SERIOUS!!!!!
i'M A GUY AND I'VE HAD THE EXACT SAME STUFF HAPPEN BUT BY GIRLS, IT GOES BOTH WAYS TRUST ME, YOU THINK YOUR IN LOVE BUT THEN YOU GET BITTEN, LOTS OF US HAVE MANY MORE THAN ONCE. aS FAR AS YOU SPENDING ALL OF THIS TIME IN YOUR ROOM I'D SEE A COUNSELOR OR A DOCTOR ABOUT THIS, YOU MIGHT NEED SOME ANTI-DEPRESSANTS FOR A WHILE, IN CASE YOUR WONDERING THERE'S A LOT OF PEOPLE WHO TAKE THOSE TOO, i KNOW SOME
2006-08-27 17:55:19 · answer #4 · answered by the d 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋