Me and my babyfather talk on the phone and we both said we still have feelings for eachother but he have alot of regret that happen to between us so i felt the same now we are going to be friends with benefits and see if we are meant to be then we will started an realtionship again is this an good idea which he told me he is sorry for all the **** we went through but is this an good idea for us to act out our feelings toward each other by having sex with each other again.
2006-08-27 10:32:54 · 39 answers · asked by cowanelmo 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I get the feeling that you guys went through allot of bad times together even though you both had feelings for one another. Sometimes we are blinded by our emotions, and sex does not necesarily make the relationship. Think back to the relationship that you had before and ask yourself if this is what you want again, because most likely you will end up in the same situation all over again. I know this might not be what you want to hear, but from experience it will most likely happen. If you are determined to give it a try, then first go out with him some...to dinner a movie, shopping whatever and include the baby...because the baby is a part of both of your lives. If all goes well after a few outings, then invite him for dinner at your place, with the baby of course...your baby isn't going away...even if he does, there are allot of guys out there that are mature enough to handle being a father and a partner to you and give you the love, understanding and support that you both need and deserve. Whatever you decide, I do wish you the best of luck...just make sure it's the best decision for you and your baby. Again, good luck.
2006-08-27 10:51:54 · answer #1 · answered by tigerpaws 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
With or without the 10 points.. I think you should see him. If you both had some differences before.. maybe you can work them out now. I believe in giving someone a second chance. Nobody gets along 100 percent of the time. Relationships are based on hanging together in the good and bad times. Good luck to you and you know.. it may all work out wonderful for you all 3. God bless!!
2006-08-27 10:37:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Honey I don't know how old you are but.....I have two sons - 26 & 23 - their father stayed behind, paid zero child support, and missed out on two fantastic kids. We were high school sweethearts - married twice - together for 16 years. I grew up, because I was responsible for these two lives - he did not. My oldest is a Marine and my youngest just made me a Grandma. Having sex, getting back together, marrying again was to no avail - he was unwilling to give up a part of his life to help raise his kids - I put myself through college, and did it myself. Please don't get dissillusioned - if he's not going to help - get him out of your life for now and move on. You have a child now - your life is different forever. Move in the right direction and who knows maybe you'll meet someone that will share in your life(s), and all your dreams will come true. Don't waste your time or energy with this guy. If he wants to be a Dad - fine - let him show it by being responsible, not by having a convinient bootie call. Good Luck!
2006-08-27 10:43:43 · answer #3 · answered by MARY L 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Not a good idea. You might want more out of this relationship than he's willing to give. Sounds like he's looking for the opportunity to have sex with no commitment. If you want that, too, than go for it. Just be aware that if you want more out of this, you're probably not going to get it.
2006-08-27 10:41:07 · answer #4 · answered by Paul B 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It's always worth a try. If it works for you in later years the baby will be happier.
Just be sure to use something so you don't get pregnant again, you could be just getting in deeper. Good luck.
2006-08-27 10:38:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
as a stranger youd dont have to listen to me but if you were like my best friend or something, id tell you to not sleep with him!!! crazy!! just cause you have a kid together doesnt mean you are meant to be together. and you shouldnt sleep with a guy whose not all commited to you, cause he could be sleeping with someone else and do you want that??? you should figure out if he really wants you back, and if you want to be with him, then it might be aright to be having sex.
2006-08-27 10:54:23 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No he's just using you for sex, when he gets tired of you he will go on to the next woman and he could possibly leave you and your child alone. Tell him no you want a relationship as friends to raise your child.
2006-08-27 10:42:46 · answer #7 · answered by twiinsgirl316 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
no, that is not a good idea. the relationship should be based on trust, friendship, and mutual respect. If all of those things are there, then you can both think about sex.
2006-08-27 10:38:43 · answer #8 · answered by kfeebythesea 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Startign over on clean grounds. Good idea. Have sex if you really want, don't let him make you feel forced. You're a woman and you should do what you want adn what you like.
2006-08-27 10:36:39 · answer #9 · answered by Lauren 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
seeing as how you already had a baby with him sex probably isnt the best idea but make friends and try to start a real relationship
2006-08-27 10:47:52 · answer #10 · answered by emily 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋