What do I do? I think I'm still in love with my ex-boyfriend. But I really really like someone else. I want to date this other guy. But I'm scared that my love for my ex will stop me, or make me feel guilty about dating this other guy. What do I do? I really want to get over my ex, but I can't help it. My heart still loves him. But my mind doesn't. Someone Help me. Please ..... I'm soooooooo Confused. HELP ME??????
2006-08-27 10:31:57 · 27 answers · asked by Ames 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ummm ... btw, I haven't dated my Ex-boyfriend in more than a year. My ex doesn't even live in Ottawa anymore. He moved. But I still talk to him. And about the other guy. He's kinda avoiding me now. I really really like him, and I want to be with him. Help!!!
2006-08-27 10:42:19 · update #1
Yes, I think you said it best - You're confused! You need to make decision, set a course to achieve the decision, and stick to it. Don't look back - your decision should be final.
2006-08-27 10:36:16 · answer #1 · answered by ManOfTheHour 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First thing, Do not over text her. She will get annoyed and if you keep telling her "TAKE ME BACK I LOVE YOU." Learn here https://tr.im/6Rtoy
She will not want you even more. You need to show her that you don't need her and can live your life without her. She still cares about you I am sure. Maybe try "flirting" with other girls around her to make her jealous. I know its bad, but if i saw my ex flirting with someone else it would make me REALLY ANGRY. However, you still need to show her you care about her too. Show her what she's missing and remind her of it. Be confident and don't show your broken heart. Try ignoring her? Girls hate that. You want her to come to you. Once she does this YOU have all the power.
She will realize what you mean to her and she will hopefully come crawling back. (I am in the same situation as you, except I am the girl trying to get my ex back). Try not to be so clingy and give her space. But try to be around so she sees you, but don't talk to her much. Keep convos short and if you txt her, which you shouldn't, then also keep it short and bland. This will be hard to do because you just want to let her in your life again, but you can't. If you show her that you are desperate to get her back, she won't go for it. Make her come to you and REMIND her of all that she is missing out on. Hope this helps. And trust me, I know how you feel. Girls usually come around easier than guys so you should be lucky. ughh wish i could say the same.
2016-07-20 02:14:57 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What was the reason why you both broke up? Was he cheating on you? Does he still love you back? If you're serious of wanting to go out with the new guy... the best thing for you to do is to get over with the ex boyfriend... If you do not get over with him and you decide to go out with the new boyfriend... you will not have a healthy head start... because your mind will be only on your ex...
2006-08-27 10:37:06 · answer #3 · answered by Brittany 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell this other guy that you like the truth and and how you feel towards your ex.It takes some time to get over breaking up.Don't rush into another relationship just yet.Let your mind and soul heal first.You don't want to get involoved with a new man and still have feelings for your ex.That will only make things between the two of you go bad.Give yourself time to get over him before asking this new guy out.I suggest that you get his number and talk for a while.Just be friends until you can get over your ex b/f.
2006-08-27 10:38:14 · answer #4 · answered by turtle_rosie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is it that you still love about your ex? they are an ex for a reason. You must find closure to this relationship in order for another to be able to flourish. Also, it really helps if you can not see or speak to your ex when you decide to date others, this will only make you weak and set you up for hurt feelings to rush back. good luck to you.
2006-08-27 10:38:06 · answer #5 · answered by tender_1119 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay honestly i think you should ask yourself it you and your ex are ever going to get back together. If it is because he cheated on you and he wants you back make him prove to you that he is not goin to cheat on you if he dont prove whatever he did wrong & why you guys broke up then move on. It means that he dont love you the way you love him. If you still like the other guy then you should go after him. See if he is dating someone and start talking to him.
--Good luck--
2006-08-27 10:37:48 · answer #6 · answered by 7-7-07♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If u cant give your whole self to this new person it is not fair to them and u r being a selfish spoiled brat. Either deciude to move on and go thru the grieving process of a lost relaitonship or just move on. Not very confusing it is just tough choices that u r avoiding. But u r not alone we all go thru it. Good luck.
2006-08-27 10:37:10 · answer #7 · answered by theechrismartin 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Analyze ur question well. U in LOVE wit' ur ex and u LIKE another dude. Now u c what the difference is, ur feelings for the 2 are mos' definitely incomparable. Moroever, since ur luv is for ur ex, and he is actually "ex'd", u can find luv somewhere else, it is not sudden, it grows. If U chose to break up with ur ex, then u still have a chance to mend out ur differences wit' 'im but if HE(ur ex), broke up wit' u, then u have to move on. can't push it any further. I suggest u give urself time to evaluate and more time to re-evaluate, ask urself some questions and make a deep search thru urself to c wat' u really want to do cos nobody but u can tell u eXact;y wat to do. Good luck. oNe.
2006-08-27 10:46:49 · answer #8 · answered by krisskrozz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is a reason that he is your ex. My philosophy is move forward, not backwards. It usually takes half the time you were in the relationship to get over it. 1 yr relationship, 6 months to get over it. Thats what I heard anyway. But the quickest way to get over it is to enjoy your life and being single! See what the world has to offer!
2006-08-27 10:36:28 · answer #9 · answered by sweet_purpleiris 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's not fair for the new guy if you're not over your ex yet. Give it some time for your heart to heal. He will just end up being a rebound if you don't.
2006-08-27 10:35:28 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move forward and don't look back. Forgive yourself for the feelings you still have for your ex. You will probably always love him! Could you give it another chance with your ex?
2006-08-27 10:35:14 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋