I'm 20 and one of my very good friend's is 33. Yes, we work at the same place, but not together. Over the past 2 years, we've become really good friends. We tell each other everything and lean on each other for support. He is married, but this marriage hasn't been good even before he knew me. We like to hang out together, strictly just as friends. However, I'm leaving for school soon and he wants to give me a kiss. I would like to just give him a hug and kiss, no strings attached also. Should I give in and let him? Only thing I'm worried about is that... if I give in just once, both he and I will want to give in everytime. I told him I don't want him to get hurt since he has feelings for me.
Makes me proud that we've been good friends for 2 years now..and completey INNOCENT friends, never done anything bc of his marriage. But also...after 2 years, I have to admit that sometimes I do wish I was allowed to hold him and give him the love that he deserves but doesn't feel @ home
2006-08-27 10:22:40 · 18 answers · asked by pfwqjkhk 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
go for it girl
2006-08-27 10:26:32 · answer #1 · answered by NETTA 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds to me like you are already having a mental affair with this guy. You say no strings attached, you are already attached to him mentally as he is to you, otherwise you wouldn't be spending as much time with each other as you do. Do not give in to temptation , try and spend less time with him and distant your self from him a little bit. I've been there and done that. Yeah, the sex was great for about the first 6 months but that to can get routine when one or the other doesn't want try something new. also what is to say he isn't doing this with some other girls. Tell him if he wants a kiss then get a divorce, wait til the divorce is final, then if he is still interested in that kiss then go for it. Until then it would just be morally wrong for the both of you to procede on. There is more than just the two of your lives at stake here!!
2006-08-27 10:40:29 · answer #2 · answered by Robert V 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's telling you the truth about home. They always say that. It's the age old tale that cheating men use to get a girl. Even if he is telling the truth, he's married. Don't do it. Have more respect for yourself. If his marriage is so bad and he has feelings for you then why isn't he getting divorced? Do you want to be the other woman? The one who has to be hidden and lied about. The one who doesn't spend holidays and special times with him because that's what his wife does? It's like you're always second class. Actually, less than second class. You become the lie, the cheat, the dirty little secret. You don't want to be that! Find someone you can love who'll love you and put you first. Who will be proud to be seen with you and introduce you to family and friends. Not the person who has to sneak around and be hidden.
2006-08-27 10:30:45 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How do you know that this married man has not had a good marriage??? GO and confront his wife, to see what she has to say about him. That is what he's telling you. Every man who wants an affair uses that same reason. Oh my marriage is on the edge and it is not good. Oldest story in the Book !!! How do you really know ?? Is there children in this sad marriage ? My answer to you is NO. Don't have an affair with this married man. You need to respect this mans marriage. How would you like it if your husband did something like this to you, while he was at work. A women who does not respect a mans marriage status, is a Pit Lizard. So for your own young age and good, Don't go down that road of misery.
2006-08-27 10:31:41 · answer #4 · answered by Norskeyenta 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You know in your gut that if you give in and give him a kiss it could lead to more. If you want to maintain the sweet friendship, don't give in. Once you do you will always feel like you helped him betray his wife. The only way that it is OK for you to kiss him is if his wife knows about you and about the kiss good bye. You are on a great track record of 2 years, don't blow it by giving him a kiss. You know what is right, just do the right thing. Good Luck
2006-08-27 10:37:59 · answer #5 · answered by marks3kids 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not your place to give him the love he deserves, that is for his wife to do only. If he is having marital problems, that has nothing to do with you,you should definately not kiss him,one thing could lead to another and he know that and that is why he is asking you.He's older and is trying to run some game on you because you are young,don't fall for it.It's good you and him didn't do anything and you need to keep it that way so you won't have a guilty conscience. Just go on to school and enjoy your life and let that man deal with his own marital problems.
2006-08-27 10:31:26 · answer #6 · answered by T.Mack 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The grass is never greener on the other side! You're right once you kiss that will be it. Be careful you will probably be the one who gets hurt in the end. These things are messy. Hope this helps.
2006-08-27 10:32:51 · answer #7 · answered by wags 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i was the guy in this situation before not married but wanted to kiss a girl i had been best friends with for 3 years she had a boyfriend or fiance. she didn't give in and we remained good friends
2006-08-27 10:32:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you kidding me? you're prepared to risk dropping your soul mate so as which you will meet a married guy to make out? That ridiculous. You extra useful experience accountable. you experience lust. extra useful get it in verify or you would be the loser interior the top.
2016-09-30 01:35:19 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should just give him a hug and a kiss on the cheek kinda kiss and if u give him a kiss i mean if he does it will be like an affair just give thehug and kiss thats the best,
all the best Mo x
2006-08-27 10:28:34 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it. He's already having an emotional affair with you. You should stay away from him. Apparently he's looking for something outside his marriage. Do YOU want to be the one who is the "other woman"?
2006-08-27 10:27:45 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋