can't get over my bf?

Question

Ok soo as your probably already know my bf dumped me a couple days ago
soo how do i get over him
every minute I think of him!!!
And I don't know what i should do
I'm trying to think of other cute guys but i still can't get over my bf
PLZ HELP ME !!

Answer 1

o my god!
your ex doesn't like you anymore,
so why are you still obssessed with him!

Answer 2

So your bf dumped you a couple of days ago give yourself sometime to cool off from the break up. Dont go looking for the rebound guy so soon because in the end you will be hurt again. You need to realize that things happen for the worst sometime and you just have to live and learn so you dont have the make the same mistakes.

Answer 3

Ok.. you can do this. It will take some time.. but you can and will get over him. First of all. give yourself an allowance of time to grieve.. cry, throw things, pull weeds, or whatever you need to do to get the frustrations off your chest (lets say 1 to 2 days) Next say to yourself.. I will be ok. Believe in yourself .. you will honestly be ok. Get out of the house.. do things with some friends. Not necessarily looking for other guys now on the re-bound.. but just to get out of the house and do something interesting. Do this for a week or so. Spend less time alone than normal. All belongings that he may have given you.. take them to the goodwill. Do something special for yourself. Take a night class on something you have always wanted to do or join a gym and work out, take up cycling or walking or get a part time job or use your time and energy in volunteering to help others. Before long.. time will have passed and the pain of losing him will be lessened. You will be a better person for all of this. You have to believe in yourself. You CAN DO THIS. Good Luck.

PS.. Consider all of this HIS LOSS.

Answer 4

Hello:

Get the book and matching CD:
Rebuilding (When Your Relationship Ends)

by Bruce Fisher

You are going through a loss, like feelings during divorce....same feelings are expressed in in divorce books too.

I am a former NYC teacher, who used to tell his high school female students to make something of themselves and not to rely on a man to bring hapiness. The divorce rate is over 50 percent failure in the USA for first time marriages, over seventy percent failure rate for second time marriages.

You MUST develop yourself to the fullest, define what makes you tick and passionate, and you must become extremely successful in your dream career.

It is only when your dream career is in full swing and you are really making a greater success of yourself that the right people show up. You will, meanwhiule, take callses in your interests. You will be happy.

Some hints: bars bring alcoholic irresponsible jerks. Clubs too. A great dancer and the right lines do not mean love and successful relationssips Do not mix up great sex with love either. They are two distinct and separate entities. Sex is to reproduce the species only. It is not love. Love is something else. Sex can improve with real love and intimacy. If you are in lust, it is not love. If someone is bad to you, you do not want sex with them unless you are delusional and are using them too, or if you mistakingly think that a great orgasm will make the men stay or change.

If you find yourself thinking about a man 100 percent of the time, like now, or close to it, he is NOT good for you. You will lose yourself in him. If you are a giver to the men you lust, then learn to be less available and more equality demanding. You have the right to be treated well and decently. That does not mean lavishly. It means honestly with respect. And it goes both ways.

If you are the type who takes crap from a man, stop taking crap early on, and you will avoid lots of pain.

Do you go for glitz and the great dressers? Stop. Are you a caretaker type who rescues men? Stop that now. If you are a perfectionist who emotionally picks on a man, stop it now. If you always criticize a man for small things and he leaves you, stop it now. I know no specifics about your situation, but do know it takes two to tango.

Forget the multitude of books. They will mostly confuse you except the short Robert Johnson trio of books. He She and We.

I have the feeling you might know about boundaries. This is great to learn. There is a great book on the subject called Boundaries. It is a thick non-religious book on the subject, a soft cover, /Ph DO written. Don't Say Yes When You Want to Say No is another great book.

I personally have done numerous workshops, read lots of self help books, been in therapy, etc. I have done EST, The Forum
(The best, offered by Landmark education in NYC), etc. Reading great books is therapy, because we learn about our own weaknesses and learn self improvement. I have learned it is not what we do but who we do it with. Stay away from destructive people, and that might sometimes mean family.

Answer 5

It ususlly is hard to get over someone u loves or share some nice memories with,but i always tell my friends not to waste their time on a guy who isn't willing to waste his time on you.I'm sure there r some nice memories and also some bad times,just know that he is a part of all of them.The times he made u cry and the times he made u smile.When thoughts of him comes to mind think of all the times he made u cry, that should help.Also u should occupy ur time elsewhere,when u and someone just break up,wat hurts more is the lonliness u feel,go shopping,be with friends or do something new,it will definitely take ur mind off him.good luck.

Answer 6

you cant get over him?
you probalby had too much fun together
you miss him
you still probably dont understand why he dumped you
you should talk to him tell him you still have feelings for him
if he wont talk, try to tell you off, or etc.
hes a jerk
the best thing to do is move on

Answer 7

its okay. your heart will heal & you WILL get over him. best thing to do is just be yourself. if you miss him then you miss him. w/e you may do, will may not effect your feelings you have right now.

Answer 8

have sex with other people with no strings attach over and over untill u forget about him

Answer 9

get over it, find another sucker whos willing to do naughty things to ya