Me and my mother got into an argument and she threaten to have me evicted and also to have my children taken away from me. This happened one week ago, and now she is coming to my house trying to pick my children up am I wrong for not letting my children go with her?
2006-08-27 10:09:43 · 31 answers · asked by NETTA 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
the argument was about me refusing to let her keep my son and not my daughter and i told her that if my daughter couldn't go then neither could my son.the argument went from there
2006-08-27 10:17:23 · update #1
the argument was about me refusing to let her keep my son and not my daughter and i told her that if my daughter couldn't go then neither could my son.the argument went from there
2006-08-27 10:17:27 · update #2
no i wouldnt let them go either. my mom does the same **** to my little sister (tells people her boyfriends a drug dealer--he doesnt even do drugs, tries to get her son taken away from her) and then wants to come pick up my nephew. then my ma gets mad when she doesn't let him go w/ her. well she should grow up and quit trying to ruin her daughters life
2006-08-27 10:13:25 · answer #1 · answered by Lil Tiff 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's so hard for me to answer this because my mother and I get along so well and she would never do anything to hurt me. So if your mother is one of those "not so nice" people, and you're a good mother, I don't think you're wrong.
It sounds like she is causing some problems and it's sad because family is suppose to rely on each other and let all adults live their lives and raise their own children.
Grandmothers are suppose to visit, not take over your children. I see that a lot of the grandmothers now a days, are having trouble letting go of "motherhood". Maybe they feel like it's an opportunity to make up for the mistakes they made as a parent and they are looking for a second chance.
I really hope you and your mother can talk and work things out. Life is too short for petty feuds.
2006-08-27 10:32:50 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all she can't have you evicted unless she owns the place you are staying. ( She can however make the people not want you to live there because of her making problems for you) Also she can't have your children taken away from you unless you are not fit but first the state would look into the situation meaning she would have to turn you into child welfare. She can't just take them away. You are not wrong for not letting your children go with her. Does she thing you are doing harm to your children or is it out of spite? If you honestly looked at the situation what is the actual problem between the two of you that she would say these things. If she takes your children without your consent its kidnapping. If she turns you into childrens services and they see problems they might let her take care of them thru further investigation. Tread lightly and make sure your doing well by your children and just try to clear up the situation before it goes farther. Maybe move out of her area if it continues. Space is sometimes what people need. Good Luck
2006-08-27 10:19:20 · answer #3 · answered by smile4u 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The children are yours and you have the right to make decisions regarding their happiness and welfare. Regardless of the argument she has no right to declare herself the winner and make debilitating threats. Since she made the threat I would not allow her to take my children in the event that she is serious. The bottom line is she has to prove her allegations, there is an investigation and she is not the authority who comes to take the children away from the home.
I would just tell her I need some space to sort everything before I consider letting her take the grandchildren.
2006-08-27 10:22:56 · answer #4 · answered by jodie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't think it is right for ur mom to take away ur kids. but it depends on many things ........ do u take good care of ur kids?...... what was the argument about?....What did u do?.... if u answer these questions u may find out why ur mother wants to take ur children away. so, sit down and have a looooooooooong talk with ur mom and maybe u can talk some reason into her.if that doesn't work take her to court. they are ur kids
2006-08-27 10:16:46 · answer #5 · answered by sheri 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I shows that you are concern enough with your children, but I just wanna know why your mother wants to take them from you? what. simply an argument? maybe the reason why you argue or the cause why you both argue...it depends with the root cause...if your mother wants them to take it away from you why don't you give her a chance and let yourself recover with whatever reason you argued about.
2006-08-27 10:15:51 · answer #6 · answered by Arcie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you are not wrong at all. You should let her see them but you should be there. Like go to the park or something. When she is coming to your house it may be to try to take the kids away from you. But you know her best. Follow your heart.
2006-08-27 10:16:36 · answer #7 · answered by actresst22 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is absolutely NO LAW stating that you have to let you children go with their Grandparents,, of course if THEY have custody, that is different. Also if you were actively participating in illegal activities, you should have your children taken away, just for endangering their lives.
2006-08-27 10:18:38 · answer #8 · answered by Loki 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what have you done to make your mother so mad at you?Are you capable of taking care of your children. Use calm and reason to talk to your mother and try to discuss things in a peaceful manner. Good luckand always put your kids first.
2006-08-27 10:15:26 · answer #9 · answered by white chocolate 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you are not wrong. You have to be careful when people threaten to hurt you in the manner that she has. I believe that you love your mother, but you love your children so much more. If she said that she'd do it, then she probably will.
2006-08-27 10:13:21 · answer #10 · answered by Kim 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋