im focusing on that i live in a SMALL flat, and that i dont OWN much except a computer which is custom built second hand,,,,clothes are strewn about my small flat, crums here crums there...i no i need to tidy up but it seems like a hard task...envelopes paper, notepads, bills all over the place...so chaotic...im waitin to recieve help with my mental health problems from my cpn and an evaluation from a psychiatrist...my confidence is at an all time low..im tryin to get help to move from where iam but i no itll take time...im focusing on my physical being to and can i still be attractive to anyone....?.....the gap in my lower teeth front where i lost 2 teeth, little things are worrying me like, premature aging, lines open PORES on my face that are getting evident, my teeth, my injured knuckle on my right hand, where i punched a bus stop a while back, so whenever yo apply a bit of pressure on the knuckle it hurts. no one is gonna want me soon, girl wise. aaaaaaaaarrrrrrrrrrrrrrghh!!!!!!!!
2006-08-27 10:08:01 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
seems like everything is in disarray
2006-08-27 10:08:39 · update #1
You have told us all about the bad things in your life..how about telling everyone about the wonderful things about yourself? I wish you could convince yourself that you are a wonderful person who deserves as much as anyone else...it seems that when people are depressed as you are, it just freezes you up..and you can't move, and dont even know where to start..I know you are very honest with everyone..you always have seemed to tell it like it is...
2006-08-27 10:33:38 · answer #1 · answered by MotherKittyKat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, the biggest thing you need to do is be in the NOW! I am an expert on depression b/c I lived with it for so long. It is very challenging to be here at this present moment, instead of looking back when you thought you were really happy or looking into the future to say when I get at that moment I will be happier. But honestly that moment never comes so you need to be in the now. Taking medication does help, but in the end it is still you that has to pull yourself out of the hole. I am almost out of the hole right now and I never want to go back into it. Also, once you are in the now everything in your life will turn around like magic. Different things you can do to make yourself feel better is volunteering, going to some sort of church, join a club so you get out more and I find reading books especially about spirituality help me feel good inside. Also start mediating, there are a lot of Cd's out there that can help you get started. Even go to the library. As for your teeth the only thing I can suggest is to find a good dentist that is willing to take a payment plan. I also noticed that people can tell when you are down on yourself and that tends to make them want to avoid you. Once you start to turn things around for yourself then all those little things won't matter. If you don't like my suggestion then think about what makes you feel good and go for it.
2006-08-27 17:37:42 · answer #2 · answered by Leighbucks 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you are a little depressed. There are some prescriptions and herbal remedies you can try.
In the meantime, try to focus on yourself more. Don't think about trying to get with girls right now. You can live without girls if you can just convince yourself of that. Try to think about when you were young. Back then you didn't think about girls, you just had fun hanging out with your buddies. It was happy times before the girls came around. Focus on your youthful days and set goals for how you want the future "you" to be like. You'll be a different person in 5-10 years. Think of ways to make that 'person' happy and successfull. Once you are at rock bottom, you just got to inch your way up one bit at a time. Try cleaning up a little bit, have a place for everything and everything in its place. Reward youself when you do things that are possitive and work on one thing at a time. Have one week where you focus on cleaning, the next week focus on something else, and keep assigning stuff each week for you to work on.
If you can convince yourself that you don't need girls and that you can live without girls, you may find that girls start coming out of the woodwork. You got to make yourself happy one step at a time. And don't forget, the future "You" is counting on you to do a good job.
ps This is the advice that I am doing for myself. I have been there and have a long way to go but things are looking better every day. Even if it takes a few years, you will start seeing results and have a little pride from seeing what you came from to where you get to. Every day is a new day. Stop smoking, drinking, and drugs if you do that. Have the mentality to quit bad habits and supplement them with good habits. Our lives are based primarily on what our habits are. Stop sitting around your flat and get out there in the world. Get good friends to hang out with and socialize with them. They don't need to know what your problems are.
2006-08-27 17:32:37 · answer #3 · answered by Poncho Rio 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Make a list of everything you are grateful for, however simple and obvious... this will help you take your focus away from your perceived shortcomings and things you lack, and focus on things you do have. And really, most women are looking for a mate who is real, kind, honest and hardworking. Most are not looking for a physically perfect specimen, those kind are usually full of themselves and have not figured out how to cherish another person. Things will get better, just wait.
2006-08-27 17:19:19 · answer #4 · answered by zanahoria611 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You may not like to accept it, but you are thinking about yourself an awful lot, and that is common among people who are depressed and bummed out. All the things you are thinking about yourself aren't true, but you are still choosing to think them. You can seek professional help, but the truth is that your outlook won't change until YOU decide to change it. You can make yourself think radically different thoughts from those you are choosing to think, if you want. At first, you might not believe that those other, more positive, thoughts are true, but you have to stick with it, Nobody else can change what you think about yourself, only you can. You are worth it. Try.
2006-08-27 17:16:47 · answer #5 · answered by Larry 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
get to your doctor immediately. Set an appointment and tell them you need help right now. They will have medication for you to take that will equalize the way you see things and then you will be able to take control of things much better. Something initially may have caused this and your doctor can figure that out for you. But in the meantime you need to see things more clearly.
Yeah, call your doctor.
2006-08-27 17:41:44 · answer #6 · answered by sophieb 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are just like I was, sorry to tell you this. But you have depression, there is some help out there, but you have to get, no one else can do that you. You can get better if you take the help that is out there and take the medications that are given to you. Wish you the very best in the future, listen to me. I have been there, done that and still in theraphy.
2006-08-27 17:18:40 · answer #7 · answered by ? 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You seem depressed. You need to talk to a therapist. Stop focusing on the negative and find something positive. Stop worrying about little things.
2006-08-27 17:14:02 · answer #8 · answered by escapegrl1 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure you have good traits as well, focus on those. Stop feeling sorry for yourself and do whatever you have to do fix your life.
2006-08-27 17:14:24 · answer #9 · answered by NiseyG 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋