And I'm living In a two bedroom home my two year old sleeps in her own (toddler) bed and she sleeps in our room her bed is close to our bed. I've been thinking about moving her into the other room tonight should I do it? The other room only has a couple of dressers in it and I've been dreaming about the day that the room will be hers.Plus we have another baby that sleeps right by my side of the bed because I'm breastfeeding at night. She's very jealous of the baby. I'm afraid that she's not ready to sleep in a room by herself since she does have nightmares(which are normal for a child her age). Should I put her in the other room to sleep? Should I do it gradually? I've searched the internet and found nothing that can help. Please give me a few tips about what I should do. Only serious answers,no harsh comments, because there's nothing wrong about asking......
2006-08-27 10:06:14 · 17 answers · asked by Peace 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
i also have a liitle girl about the same age (27 months) and she has been in her own room since she was about six weeks old. So I don't know your exact problem with getting her into her own room, but maybe if you make it exciting like maybe getting a cool new toy to go in her room and keep telling her she is going to be able to stay in her big girl room. ( maybe not a toy but maybe a picture she helps pick out or something along that line). I wouldn't do it gradually, I would just put her bed in the room and tell her this is the big girl room and this is where she sleeps now. it might be rough for a few nights but she will like it a lot. I also have a little one I am also breastfeeding (10 week old) and she is also very jealous of the new baby. I asked a question on here about it and it's helped a lot. People said to include her all the time. Like getting me a diaper for baby, throwing it away, getting the baby a new blanket, sitting on the floor with both kids and letting her interact with her little brother, etc.. She is now starting to interact with him like she will sit and talk to him and make faces at him and he will grin so I say look he loves you just as much as mommy loves you, stuff like that. She is still a little jealous but it's helped out so much. She isn't crying as often. Hope this helps and good luck with your 2 little ones.
2006-08-27 10:29:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let her stay where she is for another week or so, but over the course of that week start telling her how she's going to get this bedroom that will be just for her right now. Its going to be a "girl's room" and she can keep all her toys in there and have colors she likes and pictures she likes. Put some stuffed animals or some other cute thing on one dresser and a nice lamp on the other. Once the room looks kind of little girl-ish and after you'd helped her look forward to it, then talk about how maybe she can help put the blankets on the bed after you move it. Tell her, too, that you think the baby may wake her up when he/she cries, and "won't it be good to have your own room where the baby won't wake you up".
On bed-move day be positive. Let her see how the bed comes apart. Make a big deal about, "Wait until you see what your bed will look like in there". Ask her to carry a pillow and place it in "your special bedroom".
She may or may not want to sleep there the first night, but do whatever it takes to get her to stay there. Leave the light on until she goes to sleep if you have to. She may surprise you and be happy with the new room. If she needs company for the first night stay in there with her for a while. Tell her you'll stay for a while but then have to leave. Talk to her about how nice it is to have her own room while staying with her. Then tell her, "I have to leave for a little while, but I'll come back to check on you in a little while." Leave, go back, repeat process, until she knows you'll always be available to pop back but she's also fine in there alone.
2006-08-27 21:17:56 · answer #2 · answered by WhiteLilac1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she's jealous of the baby this is certainly not the time to interrupt her night time routine of sleeping in the same room with you. She'll think you're truly replacing her! Work her up to the idea. Show her the second bedroom (without the baby with you) and tell her this can be "her big girl" room. Ask her how she'd like to decorate it (let her help). Encourage her and tell her how proud you are of her and how she's such a great big sister who deserves a big girl room. When she seems ready, let her give it a try. Just know that eventually she'll not want to be in your room anymore... but for now give her time as she gets used to her sister.
2006-08-27 10:15:08 · answer #3 · answered by mJc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make the room hers.Let her help you pick out stuff for it so she can get excited about having her own room.The only thing that will break her of being in your room is just making her stay in her own bed in her room.If she wants you to lay w/her the first few nights give her a time limit(15)mins and when that time is up tell her she has to be a big girl now and go to sleep w/out you but u will check on her in 10 mins.It will be hard at first but after aweek or so it gets better.
2006-08-27 12:39:42 · answer #4 · answered by hotmama 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have b/g twins that are almost 3. Because of hurricane damage to our home the past 2 summers, they ended up in their cribs in my bedroom until last Feb. At that point, we got them each a toddler bed and put them in their own bedroom. First we let them play in the room. Then, naps. Finally, sleeping. They know it is their room - but my girl still wants to sleep in mom's room. It works pretty well despite that. Paint the room, get some stick-on decals of whatever she likes (Dora, Scooby Doo...) and make a big deal of it. Good Luck!
2006-08-27 12:23:31 · answer #5 · answered by applebetty34 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My little girl is 2 years 9 mths and has been in her own bedroom for the last 8 months... before that she was sharing with her 4 year old brother... She has had no trouble settling in to her own room at all, and actually loves the experiece of showing people her bedroom when they come to visit and so on. Let her help you make it special... and i think that after a couple of nights in there she will love having her own space
2006-08-27 10:12:25 · answer #6 · answered by s_o_s_b_q 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let her feel like she took part in the decision. Take her in and tell her it is her "big-girl room". Let her choose the color or theme. Put her favorite toys in there for them to "sleep". Maybe a special nightlight would also help. If she is still hesitant, maybe start off with naptime in her own room and so on....until she is sleeping on her own.
2006-08-27 10:27:17 · answer #7 · answered by Tina Q 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to her tell her she'd be a big girl with her own bedroom to play in and sleep in good luck but do it gradually slowly start moving her bed into the room
2006-08-27 10:17:17 · answer #8 · answered by Moo moo I'm a chicken 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be aware she may perceive this as more separation from you and when she sees the baby is still in there the jealousy may get worse. Maybe a gradual change for a few days like have her take naps in there at first
2006-08-27 10:15:43 · answer #9 · answered by Eye of Innocence 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my boys(2 3/4 years apart) at this age had Strong opinions as to what they wanted to do. Talk it out in a family meeting and ask her questions as well as answering her questions. What do I do if I get scared?? What reasons can I leave my room at night? Will I have a night lite? etc. Feel your way along, and if baby will be moving in one day make sure she knows this now and you wont have to fight them over room sharing. Hope this helps
2006-08-28 04:57:38 · answer #10 · answered by scornedgypsy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋