Why do you think that half of all parents don't spank their children?

Question

People obviously don't need to hit children to raise them. The parents who physically punish their children are just sadistic. The children who are spanked are 9 times more likely to go to prison.

Answer 1

They're the intelligent 50%. I never used corporal punishment on my 4 sons and they all turned into wonderful, compassionate humans.

Answer 2

You're absolutely right that parents do not need to spank their children. On the other hand, I was spanked, as were my siblings, and none of us have ever had brushes with the law. I believe that the idea behind sparing the rod and spoiling the child comes from an era where the common people didn't have the social/emotional knowledge or skill to discipline their children without spanking them. Remember, it used to be that if you had to go for counselling, there was something really "wrong" with you. Things have changed a lot in the past generation. A spanking (& that is not to be confused with a beating) is much better than not disciplining the children at all.

As for me, I will do my best to use other means to discipline my children. Most important I think will be to be consistent by keeping the rules the same so they know they are being treated fairly & punishing them if I tell them I'm going to, however that might be.

Answer 3

I disagree with that. Spare the rod, spoil the child. If you want to throw religion into it, that 'spare the rod...' qoute comes from the bible. I was spanked as a child, not abused, spanked, and I grew up to be a law abiding citizen. I now have my own children, and if they do something really wrong, they get their butts spanked. THIS is the exact problem with society, I think. Parents too afraid to give their kids a whoopin when necessary. So, is the better solution to let our kids walk all over us and the rest of society and let them think that their negative behavior is OK. The hell with 'time-outs' how awful is that, sitting in a chair for 5 minutes. 'Grounding' a child is next to impossible nowadays, most kids have TV, phones, computers, Ipods, etc...in their rooms. Punish a child where it will hurt the most, the thing that inconvieneces THEM, not us parents. A swift whoopin on the butt, AND take that TV away, dont just say you cant watch it, physically remove it. The same with the Ipod, the phone, the thing that the child likes best, needs to go. I spank my kids, once in a great while. They have, nor have they ever had bruises or marks on them from these spankings. I have physically taken their prized possesions away from them. And ya know what, my kids actually behave. They respect their parents and elders. They have manners and are polite. So, either you dont have your own children to support this or if you do, I think you will be in for a rude awakening when your children grow up. When they rule the house, you will wish you have thought twice before sparing the rod.

Answer 4

I think of spanking as a little puchon the butt. A hard spank is hitting and hitting is abuse to anyone. Spank with an open hand over pants is ok in my book. But when it's on the bare butt & with a belt or wooden spoon, that's very wrong. I remember every spank I got from my mother. They were all on bare butt with spoon or her bare hand and it wasn't just one spank, it was several. That's probably was I had issues growing up. I was confused that I was suppose to love this woman and she said she loved me (a few times) yet she always spanked with a wooden spoon. I forgive her now for it but it probably did lead me to rebellion. My dad never spanked me in any form. He just yelled all the time and called me stupid. I still have issues with him.

I spanked my son 3 times when he was 2-4 yrs old and I spanked real hard. I would then go to my room and cry and realized that I lost complete control on myself. I lost control with a young child. That's not right. I ended up get parental counseling and never spanked him again. Time outs, taking away favorite toys, no desserts, going to bed early, no TV is the punishment I use instead.

Answer 5

In today's society. parents who spank their children could have the local government intervene and lose their children. I know quite a few who were spanked when growing up. This was reserved for rare occasions and as a last resort. In this case with the proper discipline, they may have turned out for the better.

Answer 6

How ridiculous you are.

There is a difference between spanking and beating (abusively) a child.
God's word is right, spare the rod you spoil the child.
That's what wrong with kids today, someone DIDN'T spank them. My kids were spanked and neither one of them are in prison, they're respectable and responsible adults.

When parents refuse to spank their children, the rest of society pays for their mistakes.

Answer 7

Bottom line: It traumatizes kids. I should know. When I was age tow through age 11, my mother would use, belts, hangers, throw knives and glasses, and be in a fit of rage...and I was a good kid who never deserved any of her abuse....mom was a true rageaholic. Now, she is very old, and I have had to remove her from my life to protect us both. She will never understand, and has never made an attempt to understand, because without professional help, she is just going in circles.

Worse than that was her defending all her warped and misguided reasoning about everything and anything. She was very judgmental, and narrow minded, just like her own equally abusive mother, according to my grandfather.

Don't hit! Get counseling.

Answer 8

That is very untrue, my mother spanked me and I turned out just find. All of my friends who didn't get a spanking are in jail or prison, my mom spanked me because she cared about what I did, and when I did get a spanking, it was because of something I did. I'm glad my mom did spank me, it learned me some respondibilities. All my friends who didn't get a spanking are the one's that I feel sorry for.

Answer 9

disclipline is a teaching tool. it does not cause children to be criminals. i was spanked and so are my kids. that is silly. all the liberal nutjobs want to rewrite the bible and influence the culture so they can be in power and not God. its not going to work. God said he will preserve his word untill the end. it is fine to spank as it is described in the bilble.

and reasoning is great! communication is great! but when they don't work and a child is openly defiant of your authority they must be discliplined with a swat on the butt. not a violent abusive hitting session. a small swat and a apopogy formt he child at the end. then you hug and let them know you don't like to spank but if they do not obey that is all you have left to teach them with. no, i will NOT stand and ask my child 500 times to obey me. that is nuts!

and for the idea that spanking makes children not be able to think for themselves, that is wrong also. if you were abusing your children then that would cause adjustment issues. training teaches children to think for themselves just as much as standing there begging them to obey does.

GOD spanks us. when i get out of line i will have something bad happen to me.

Answer 10

Spanking is old school, really dark ages. Parents have been discovering that there are other ways to punish a child than to physically assault them, which for one thing is psychologically harmful and for another, doesn't work. The most effective method is known as "appropriate consequences," which teaches a child that they are responsible for what happens to them. Which is the way the world works. Also, rewarding desired behavior is an excellent adjunct strategy to guiding child behavior.