2006-08-27 09:48:53 · 14 answers · asked by russellhamuk 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No Way!
He can start the initial contact to show that he's interested but then she needs to do her part too.
2006-08-27 09:51:43 · answer #1 · answered by Jessica 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the people involved. As for me, I don't really call guys. Well, I don't mind calling my now-boyfriend from time to time because we've been together for quite a while now (9 months). He's past that "trial" time.
But still, him calling me more than I call him is just an unwritten rule. Maybe "rule" isn't the right word; it just comes naturally. Based on how both of us approach relationships, it just works to do it that way...
But when I'm still not so serious with a guy or he hasn't "proved" himself, I don't pick up the phone. Maybe once. After that though, it's on him to pick up the slack. It's called being a man.
Also, I'm not the sort to nag. And let's be honest: You may say that you'd like women to call more. But if she started calling too much, you wouldn't like it now would you? hehe.
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To the guy below me (Viking): It is not a "game." I don't play games. I am very upfront about what I want and why I want it. For your information, a big part of why I do not call a man constantly is out of respect for him. I believe quite a bit in traditional gender roles. Trusting him and allowing him to be the pursuer is balanced by my submissiveness on the other side.
I know there are women out there who are cruel and use this as a power game. But to me, that's not what it is. And I am honest; I would not lead someone on. But then, judging by your own questions, I am not surprised that you would jump to such a jaded conclusion. You seem a bit um... shall we say... unpolished in matters of the heart?
P.S. OH NO!! I got a "thumbs down" from Viking!! HAHAHA!! Well there, now you have one too. "Thumbs down!" I feel like I'm in 3rd grade again.... ^__^
2006-08-27 17:45:51 · answer #2 · answered by Holly 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No, but if a guy doesn't keep contact with me I assume he is losing interest and back off.
2006-08-27 16:54:11 · answer #3 · answered by Christina K. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not at all, women complain because of a man not calling. Yet, as a woman myself it takes two, to do the communicating. Mutual interest, is important.
2006-08-27 16:54:34 · answer #4 · answered by ~Jessica~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guys.....NEVER let women play this game with you like Ms Holly describes. If you give women any slack at all they will test and play and scheme and eventually leave altogether.
If she doesn't meet you hallf way on calling, staying in touch then tell her that your rule is you don't play games and if she's cool with that then "good". Otherwise, Sionara baby.
Viking xxx
2006-08-28 04:27:51 · answer #5 · answered by Viking 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
not really, if you keep calling them and they don't call you or they give you some b.s. responses that they couldn't call you or they couldn't talk long because they had to go somewhere, chances are they aren;t interested in ya but they won't tell ya, That's how a lot of chicks are bud, had these experiences myself
2006-08-27 17:00:54 · answer #6 · answered by the d 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes
2006-08-29 17:06:37 · answer #7 · answered by Girl From Mars 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not ALWAYS bt most of the time unfortunately
2006-08-27 16:50:43 · answer #8 · answered by Jammy Dodgers 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
only if they are worth it,but still not always...if i am the only one callin then we wont be talkin
2006-08-27 16:54:04 · answer #9 · answered by dyno_bot 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yea with me it is. i never call guys they always call me
2006-08-27 16:51:57 · answer #10 · answered by Hello!!!! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋