I am a single mom myself, and seems hard to find a guy who is willing to accept me for me.
2006-08-27 09:42:56 · 31 answers · asked by Maria 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
They may be afraid to commit to a woman with a child. I mean, when you think about it, your child will always come first, and some men can't handle that. I am a mother of two, and what I find is that usually men that are a bit older (and I don't mean cradle-robber old) handle things like this better. Experience helps. You'll find someone...just do the dating thing, and when you least expect it, he'll be right there.
2006-08-27 09:48:40 · answer #1 · answered by makeitclap23 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Its Hard For them because like everyone is saying, they arnt his kids... they are yours and your previous husbands.... which means should he marry you, he will have a hard time disiplineing his kids and such becuase the kids will know that he is not their real dad and it gives them an edge he doesnt have. Not to mention the fact he will always take a second seat in everyones lives. You will put your kids first instead of him (which is normal) but you kids ill always like you better cause they have biological ties to you........ Its just a really hard thing to bare.... the guy will always play odd-man out. It takes an Amazing Rare find who will tolerate that and marry a single mom.
There are guys out there, you just have to be patient. Think about if you were single with no kids or when you were single with no kids.... would you have married a Dad? Would you have wanted to care for someone else's babies? As a Parent you must know how special it is to have your own children... you dont want anyone else's but your own....
2006-08-27 09:53:33 · answer #2 · answered by Stupendous Man! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Speaking as a soon to be divorced Dad--I wonder the same thing about my adventures into dating. I know that dating single moms was hard because you always have the child's father in the background, when that happens it can be very hard to get attached to the girl but especially to the child. I did marry a single mom, but fortunately her dad was out of the picture entirely.
2006-08-27 09:56:21 · answer #3 · answered by Rez 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They are not willing to see you for you because you are a family. I am truly sympathetic. I was a single mom myself. I am a grandma now. Now, in retrospect, I wonder why any guy goes out wth a single mom. Get your ex, his folks, your folks to take the kids more so you can have a relationship that isn't all about the kids.
2006-08-27 09:48:44 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Miss Maria, I can only speak 4 my own silly hippie self when I say that I certainly don't shy away from single moms. I am engaged 2 a 29 year old mother of 2 living in Canada.
2006-08-27 09:46:58 · answer #5 · answered by ? 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
That's probably because you already made a mistake and trusted Mr. Wrong so much that you had a kid with him. Now, being a guy I would ask myself that if you married Mr. Wrong, how many other nasty guys have you been with. Most good guys don't want anything like that. The less used the better anyhow. Plus no other guy want to take care of a kid that is not his own. Males reproduce to promote the succession of their genes. Raising some other guys child would not be genetically proper. It can be done, but it's not somethine we dream about as guys.
2006-08-27 09:49:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
The kid(s). Pure and simple. If you just want to have a quickie with someone, make that clear to the guy. If you want a relationship, the guy is going to have to think hard because you have a kid(s) and that means a huge responsibility should things progress. The kid(s) have to like him too in that case.
Anyway, why don't you target single dads? Easier to deal with.
2006-08-27 09:46:39 · answer #7 · answered by fugutastic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are guys out there, they're just harder to find. I'm a single mom myself and have finally found a guy is just fine with my son and doesn't have any children of his own. And it's taken over 5 years! I always tell a guy upfront - I'm a buy one get one free deal. And if they're not good with that then I know they're not for me anyway. So chin up, keep kissing those frogs....even if you have to move onto another pond, he's out there!
Good luck!
2006-08-27 10:03:59 · answer #8 · answered by snowfoxx71 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know what you're talking about, I've dated 2 single Moms in the 22 years I've been alive :)
Even dated Moms that aren't single, but thats something completely different
2006-08-27 09:46:01 · answer #9 · answered by HL2k 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's you they don't accept but the kid(s) involved. Most guys aren't ready to father a child, let alone father someone else's child. These guys are not worth your time but some of them just needs some tweaking and getting used to that idea. So be patient and give them some time. Good luck!
2006-08-27 09:45:47 · answer #10 · answered by Emi 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋