why do people think that threatening their children is good for them?

Question

do you know why your kid won't sit still? maybe it's because he's a kid, and wasn't meant to do all the lame things you force on him. maybe he needs some exercise. take him out to play. perhaps you should be "disciplined" instead.

Answer 1

Yes - precisely the reason people "think their kids ar ADD or ADHD" the doctors make a load of money off parents who don't understand that kids MUST EXERCISE to be able to balance out their body and brain activity. "My 6 year old won't sit still" is a load of crap. They are growing at a rediculous rate and chemicals are being produced in their bodies that tell them to move and exercise. And have fun. Teachers - I am one myself - can deal with it by finding out different methods of teaching and learning strategies. Parents can GO OUT AND PLAY in the fresh air with their kids. Wear them out and then you bet your butt they'll sit still and sleep like a rock, but they need to exercise. No doubt. I am taking my little boy to the park on that note - goodbye! And thanks for asking that question!!!!

Answer 2

"He's a kid" isnt a good excuse for everything. A parent's job is to teach a child the way he should be. When parents refuse to discipline their children, they have children that can't function in society. I dont mean a parent has to beat the crap out of a kid for not sitting still but discipline is nessisary in bringing up a decent adult.

Answer 3

Maybe some day God will get around to sending angels down to do the job of rearing children. Till then, we're just gonna have to do the best we can, with imperfect people as parents.
We can always hope our kids have kids who are just as difficult as they are...LOL

Answer 4

I have to say that when I taught second and fourth grade it was always a farce trying to get undiciplined kids to behave. Parents that don't discipline their children do a disservice to society. I think you are warped and have must not have kids yourself.....maybe too much Dr. Spock?.

Answer 5

kids need discipline. when my mom was in school teachers could swat students that got to out of hand. know teachers spend their day trying to get the little accidents to sit down and be quiet.

Answer 6

Unfortunately, human advancement in technology and science hasn't extended so well into child rearing practices.

Mainly, parents who yell, scream, threaten, and otherwise abuse their children receive an immediate payoff for their behavior. Most of the time the immediate payoff is that the child stops doing what they were doing, for a short time only. Many parents, like their children, are still fixated on immediate gratification, and don't see the long term detriment of their short term "disciplinary" techniques. Indeed, these types of parents seem to be the ones that need the discipline more than their children do. At least children have a physiological reason to behave the way they do, in addition to decades less experience in handling their emotions than their parents.

Many parents, unconsciously, use their kids as punching bags. They are stressed at work, they hate their marriage, they can't afford the things in life that they want, and their children are the only ones that they can yell at, beat, slap, and belittle without severe consequence. Children deserve to be treated with gentleness, respect, and love. Discipline means "teaching" and "guidance" not "might makes right" and "do as I say".

It's funny how the same people who will argue for the life of a fetus(I am one of those), will in the same breath act as though younger humans are not human at all and that the way we treat them should be different from the way we treat eachother. I have news people..threats hurt ANYONE no matter what age. Threats cause feelings of anger, resentment, and a desire for retaliation..no matter what AGE. If you really care to "discipline" meaning guide, your children, you best be care not to pit them AGAINST you. A true leader, or disciplinarian, is choosen by his/her followers..NOT THE OTHER WAY AROUND. Your children will not choose you, if they can't trust that you will protect them i.e."I would never do anything to hurt you" whilst beating them or embarassing them purposefully.

Discipline, guidance/teaching, begins at birth. It is first built on a strong infant/parent attachment which is founded on in the first 12 months of the child's life. If the attachment isn't formed, and trust isn't developed due to crazy methods of baby rearing like putting them in a crib, alone in the dark to "cry it out", or forcing them to eat on your "schedule"rather than the one they were born with, you may have doomed yourself from the start. Your lack of trust in your child will transfer over to them as a lack of trust in you and you will pay dearly for your negativity.

There used to be a time when threatening your wife and beating her was OK, when threatening your feild hands and beating them was OK, when threatening and beating people of different races and socioeconomic backgrounds was OK! Fortunately, humanity has ADVANCED in this aspect, and we realize that this old practices were abusive and hateful and based on arbitrary human categories that sought to elevate certain groups of people to positions of abusive power. We are still living in an period where AGE is used to excuse mistreatment of other humans. The elderly and the very young, are still defenseless, and left to sit away in daycares at the mercy of whomever while the rest of us going on with our busy lives. True lovers of mankind, and people who have beating hearts, protect and gently guide these vulnerable members of society, not hatefully push them around like inconveniences! Don't have children if you don't understand human behavior and appreciate the different developmental changes that we ALL go through with JOY. Remember, the next time you need a leader, think of what you want in them. Would you like them to slap you when you er? Curse you and threaten into submission when you finally gain the confidence to lead yourself and no longer be led? Put you away in a room, locked away, for making a mistake that has already cost you? What type of leader would you choose, and how would he/she handle your mistakes and errors? Children only want the same.

Answer 7

do you have kids? i think not, because if you did you would know something about them. children thrive under rules. they were meant to have authority. they can play but they can't disobey. you need to go get a kid and then come back to yahoo answers.

Answer 8

Most cristians i know are narrow-minded bullies. Only a punk would hit a child, a woman or an old man.

Answer 9

I don't think threats are necessary nor do they work well. A child will conform much better with positive reinforcement than with a threat.

Answer 10

It keeps them in line, it works just ask my daughter. She's 21 now, and is proud of her mother who raised her. She has told me she's grateful of turning out the way she has, now if that doesn't make you smile,.....