2006-08-27 09:22:57 · 54 answers · asked by Hello!!!! 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
It basically means if you let your kid get away with a lot of stuff and don't punish them, then you are spoiling them and it is wrong.
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2006-08-27 09:26:10 · answer #1 · answered by Left Footed 5 · 8⤊ 0⤋
IF you spare the rod, then you will spoil the child.
Biblical directives for child rearing. A loving discipline helps the child to grow in obedience.
"Foolishness is bound in the heart of a child; but the rod of correction will drive it far from him." Proverbs 22:15
"Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it." Proverbs 22:6
On the same accord, "And ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture & admonition of the Lord." Ephesians 6:4
2006-08-27 09:34:11 · answer #2 · answered by azar_and_bath 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It means if you don''t discipline your children- then you hate them- they will be spoiled.
People have a hard time with spankings but there is a big difference between spankings and beatings. You don't have to abuse your child to give physical discipline to remind them that the behavior they are exhibiting is not appropriate. The pain they will endure in the real world will be a whole lot worse and at the hands of people that don't love or care about them if they do not change that behavior. If you love your child - you will not spare the rod of discipline.
2006-08-27 09:28:42 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
No one really knows. It is used in two contexts: to spank or not to spank.
1. If you spare the rod, as in you do not punish your child by beating them with a stick, your child will grow up spoiled and without discipline.
2. You should spare the rod, as in do not beat your child with a stick. It is better for children to be loved and spoiled instead.
2006-08-27 09:27:00 · answer #4 · answered by miguelitabonita 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Discipline in one form or another - given with love and not anger.
Proverbs 22:15 tells us that foolishness is tied up in the heart of a boy, and the rod of discipline is what will remove it far from him.
So, children do need correction. But, it should be done with that in mind - correction not violence, whether it be "corporal" (as some want to do) or reasoning with the child.
Isnt reasoning with the child really the best, because to obey for fear of harsh punishment is NOT the way to go, but to help that child REASON what is right and wrong, so that when you are not there to see what they are doing (or when they grow up), they will CHOOSE the most beneficial way.
Colossians 3:21 gives further insight as to what discipline should not do: "Fathers, provoke not your children, lest they be discouraged." (KJV)
So, it should not discourage but encourage.
2006-08-27 09:37:39 · answer #5 · answered by grammy_of_twins_plus two 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The "rod" refers to an instrument of punishment--a stick, eg. The old saying is a warning that if you "spare" the rod (don't use it to discipline the child) the child will become spoiled (become an unmanageable brat). Of course, this was the common belief before child abuse laws.
2006-08-27 09:28:49 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
It means you must educate your child with firmness so that they will not become indulgent adults.
It was customary to punish children with a rod to show authority and to teach respect.
today this is not considered acceptable and children are wilder.
I don't believe in corporal punishment but sometimes you must act cruel to be kind.
I have 8 children while I don't beat them I do spank if necessary but for educational purposes and without anger.
So far none of my children are into drugs or stealing or early pregnancy - I don't know if they all appreciate this now but I'm hoping they will recognize the love and caring I put into making them able to enjoy life for what it is
2006-08-27 09:33:09 · answer #7 · answered by prettymama 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think it means that if you let your child run around free reign without ever disciplining them, they will become spoiled brats.
This was back in the day when they punished them via. spanking (ie. the rod). Not sure if I still agree with that approach, but I do agree with the principle: If you don't teach your child right from wrong they will become spoiled and ungrateful.
2006-08-27 09:24:53 · answer #8 · answered by Arby's 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You know you've seen them in public--the little kid throwing a fit and the parent that gives into their fit and gives them what they want. This is an example of a parent that does not discipline their kid, which leads to a spoiled child. Parents need to give discipline so children learn responsibility. It doesn't mean beat your child, but a spanking appropriate punishment is necessary when the child acts up.
2006-08-27 09:26:23 · answer #9 · answered by shybusch 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
It means to decipline your children. NOT beat them, though! The 'rod' part sounds rougher than it really is intended, it's more like a figure of speech.
I think people who think swatting a kid on the butt is child abuse are crazy. Note, I said SWAT, not beat or maim.
I will try a few steps with my kids. First, I tell them. Then I warn them if it happens again, they will get a swat. If they do it again, you can bet they get the sawt because if you don't follow through with what you say they have a tendancy not to believe you. And I don't play this "I'm going to tell you like 100 times while we're in the store" crap, either. LOL!!! They are teenagers now and have not been trouble in like forever. :)
2006-08-27 09:31:08 · answer #10 · answered by misteri 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It means God has given the authority to discipline your child with a small rod or switch. If you do not, he/she may grow to be a spoiled brat.
2006-08-27 09:26:24 · answer #11 · answered by LARRY S 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋