How do I stop...?

Question

being so insecure? my bf tells me that i think he's going to get with any girl. i trust him, just not other girls. serious answers or i'll report you

Answer 1

I know how you feel. I used to suffer from low self esteem. I know it doesn't do you any good to hear that but you need to build up your self confidence and self esteem. The advice that someone gave me, that really helped me through a difficult time when I thought I wasn't good enough for my bf and that he might cheat on me, was asking myself this question: 'Why would you want to be with someone who doesn't want to be with you?'.

Okay, he might not be cheating BUT if he did, you would have to accept it because you can't control what other people do. You need to feel good about yourself, so that if this ever did happen you wouldn't fall apart. You could say, 'I don't want to be with someone who doesn't want to be with me, and there are plenty of guys who would want to be with me and appreciate me, and I deserve better'. (Think about that L'Oreal Commercial with Heather Locklear when she says 'because I'm worth it'. That is self esteem and guess what, all of us women are just as good as her and guess what we are worth it too and so are you! One way to get your mind off of other girls and your bf cheating is to make yourself feel better about yourself, for example: Make yourself look better and feel better. It is psycologically known that your physical appearance has a direct affect on your self esteem. So, go get your hair died or cut the way you want, go buy a sexy outfit that makes you feel beautiful, do your makeup so that you look smoken hot...basically do whatever you can on the outside to make you feel better on the inside. Other guys might start looking at you the way your bf looks at other girls. If you look good and get attention from other guys you won't be thinking about other girls and your bf cheating, infact the tables might turnm your bf might be the one getting jealous or insecure.

Remember you are better than those other girls, inside and out. That is why your bf is with you and not them. Look at the confidence of other girls that your bf looks at and immitate it, it really works. You need to exsume that confidence onto other people. Guys will think you are hot and girls will stay the hell away from your bf. Tip: NEVER show your jealously. The best way to get revenge is looking really hot and sexy and steal the attention. Don't show your bf that you're jealous, instead be confident and try to make him jealous by flaunting your stuff, and never show other girls that you are jealous - they feed off of it. It really is all about self confidence and self esteem.

Answer 2

ok really if you do did truly trust him then you wouldn't have this problem, because in a logical point of view there are millions of girls out there. I mean I know that you want him to stay focused on you. And he does a very good job at doing that. But well girls will always try to focus his thoughts on them, it doesn't matter that he is taken, actually for some odd reason girls find taken guys/married guys alot hotter and want them more than a single guy. I have no clue how that makes any sense, but only can say that it must be a psychological thing that has developed. But well back on topic, just be a faithful girlfriend that you are being, and trust him. He has been really faithful up to this point, hasn't done anything to deserve you not trusting him. So well just leave this matter alone. I mean the more you try to force every girl away from him, the more he is going to reconsider finding somebody better. So well don't do anything to ruin your relationship. Remember he is always going to be around girls. Your trust of him is what keeps him from doing anything stupid. If he thinks you don't trust him. He is just going to say f*ck it, I might as well do what she thinks I'm going to do.

So take a deep breathe, you can stop being insecure easily by not worrying about it, focus more on loving your boyfriend and spending more time to get to know him more and be with him. And let whatever happens to happen.

And of course this will solve the fact that your boyfriend can no longer claim your insecure. So well that will help that problem as well. Nobody said that having a relationship is easy, Trust is the most hardest thing to acquire and maintain in a relationship. So remember to communciate all your problems to your boyfriend the min they start, so that you don't have them getting bigger and worse. And also remember to be faithful to him, and to trust him. And most importantly besides that, love him and care about him as much as you can. It makes staying in the relationship with you even more worth while, because he knows that you do love him and care about him. So at least he has somebody special with him.

Answer 3

If you trust him then that's all that counts. He is with you and you are with him. It sounds more like jealousy than insecurity. Putting your heart on the line and truly believing in someone is a big leap of faith and I can understand your feelings. Relax a little, believe in yourself and your boyfriend and enjoy each other's company... life is too short to be petty. If things don't work out then he wasn't the right guy for you and just go with that. Good luck in your relationship :-)

Answer 4

You can't stop being what you are. If you truely trust him then relax, even if other girls aren't trust worthy then he is and therefore nothing will happen. Surely the fact he is with you now speaks volumes.

Answer 5

Just remember that he is with you and not another girl, maybe try talking about this with a friend or when hes on his guys nights out or away you can go hang out with your friends to get your mind off of it .

trust that your boyfriend cares about you and that its you he wants to be with not them

Answer 6

Did other important men in your life (like your dad) disappoint you? If so your insecurity may be baked in and you'll have to work hard to get rid of it.

Answer 7

i agree with you, i dont trust girls but i trust him, so you need to put it behind you, because its nothin you can do, either he will give in to temptation, or he wont, you will only stress yourself out from worring, so just believe in him if not you may lose him cause he can tell you dont trust them girls but he thinkin you aint trusting him

Answer 8

if you trust him then don't worry about the girls that cant be there is a lot of girls that way but if he is faithful then don't worry

Answer 9

lol