Her mother and family are coming and would like to serve a meal at the reception. but... i already made a hair appointment at noon, and hubby- to be and I dont want it to be late, we want to get to our honeymoon. So, would it be wierd to have a dinner at like 3pm?? what should we do?
2006-08-27 09:07:41 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
My parents were in the same boat. My grandmother insisted on feeding people and my parents were getting married on a holiday weekend and could only get the church at 2. What they did was have the reception at 4 (it was a catholic wedding-- the service was done at 3:30 and by the time people were in their cars it was 4), mingled and had a drink, and then served dinner at 5 pm. It was early, but no one cared. You can also cut the cake, have your first dance, and start speeches first. Then serve dinner at 5-5:30 and everyone is happy. You can be out of there at 7 and enjoy your married life.
Good Luck!
2006-08-27 10:30:29 · answer #1 · answered by emp04 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, your hair appointment can be changed, especially if the time hasn't been formalized on the invitations.
But a 2 p.m. wedding would last about 45 minutes for a Protestant wedding. Then about 15 or 20 minutes for a receiving line. Maybe about 20 minutes for guests to get to the reception site. Then, an hour for cocktails. They'd be eating around 4:30, and I don't think that's too early. Or you could just push it all back half an hour and start the wedding at 2:30.
2006-08-28 15:16:23 · answer #2 · answered by Pink Denial 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would be slightly strange to have dinner at 3, but not out of the question. It should be fine. Maybe you could even still get away will calling it a luncheon reception at 3.
Some people purposely plan their weddings and reception at non-meal time of day just so they DON'T have to serve a meal! It's a good, legit way to cut expenses. (We're going this route.)
In your case, you could certainly serve something lighter and less expensive than a full dinner, like maybe a hearty chef salad with chicken on it, followed by wedding cake.
2006-08-28 01:03:16 · answer #3 · answered by Etiquette Gal 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here ya go, stressin before thinking it all out
Ceremony 2:00
Orderves and beverages, entertainment, 3-4 while the wedding party is having pictures done.
Then sit down dinner at 4.
I think your hair appointment is realy too close to the wedding time. you should give yourself a little more leway. Move everything an hour back and call it dinner at 5.
Or make reservations for the family for dinner at a nice restraunt and stick to your original plan.
I think sometimes our emotions get all caught up in it and we have a hard time thinking outside the box.
2006-08-27 22:31:18 · answer #4 · answered by bigmama 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should do what you would like to do. This is your wedding.
It is not odd at all to have dinner at 3:00 PM.
Have a family meeting and explain to the family in a very nice way that you appreciate all of their efforts but you have had your "dream wedding" planned out every since you were a child and you would like to have things go a certain way. It might be a good idea to give "the mother and family" certain tasks to keep them busy as well so they feel wanted and needed. (Picking up flowers, making sure hotel reservations are made, just little details)
They should not be offended at all and should understand your point of view.
Best of luck and congratulations!
2006-08-29 16:54:46 · answer #5 · answered by weddingsforall 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nora#### has a good answer.
It would be unusual for a 'big' meal in the middle of the afternoon as peeople will generally have a lunch before the 2 pm wedding.
You need to tell the mother in law what you want, it's your wedding, so do it your way. She'll understand. Otherwise, it'll cause you too much stress.
Babe stand up for yourself, this won't be the first time you don't have the same idea as her (even if she's fab). :D
All the best and CONGRATULATIONS!
2006-08-28 01:53:15 · answer #6 · answered by montanasamra 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whose getting married here, the mother in law or you and fiance? Have it what ever time you please. It is not weird to serve your guest at 3pm dinner but tell your soon to be mother in law that the time of the wedding will be take place at ---- o'clock and the reception will be held at ----- o'clock. This will let mom-in-law know that you all are capable of making decisions about things you all want to do. This is a sign of what the future "may" hold for you and hubby. If mom-in-law tries to dictate the time of someone's wedding then she may try to dictate your marriage, household and who knows what else. Stop her in her tracks now, but in a polite way. Congratulations.
2006-08-27 20:11:19 · answer #7 · answered by Shay 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can serve food at whatever time you want. More to the point here is that you haven't left yourself enough time between your hair appointment and the start of the wedding. You get your har done first and then do your makeup or there could be shiny spots on your face in the pictures. Plus you need time to dress, you don't want to do your hair and makeup while wearing your dress.
2006-08-27 19:32:41 · answer #8 · answered by maigen_obx 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know you don't want to start off married life with possible tension so soon, but unless she's paying for the whole shebang and you don't want to offend her generosity, DO YOUR THING. Some people forget who's day it is. If she's cool, she'll get over it and move on. If she's ****-face about your plans for 2pm, you'll pretty much see what kind of mother-in-law you're in for. GOD Bless you either way!
2006-08-29 17:18:29 · answer #9 · answered by dct1218 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you could serve dinner at 3pm just becasue you serve it at 3pm. dosen't mean that they have to stop eating when you. and you're hubby leave for you're honeymoon.they can stop long enough to say goodbye and wish you all well and the after you leave. go back to eating. good luck
2006-08-27 16:19:19 · answer #10 · answered by Angel sent from heaven 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋