how to explain this to our friends? they don't seem believing us?

Question

my friends think that my husband is keeping me from seeing them (possessive, jalous....
his friends think that i don't like that he goes out with them as they used to do before we got married (don't trust him, possessive...).
the truth is that we enjoy going out together. we are not interested anymore in going out as singles. If we are both invited we go and enjoy our time... they like to make fun of us, they call us the newly married...(10 years now)..do u think they are jalous or they really don't believe it?

thanks for all of u. i can't choose one best answer because all are nice ones and made me feel better... thanks

Answer 1

Tell them the same thing you just told us.

Answer 2

I think that it is important for a married couple to spend time together, but I also think that you should make a point to go out with your girlfriends from time to time and likewise he with his guy friends. After 10 years it is impressive that you two still like to hang out together so much and it may be hard for others to believe. Single people hear so many negative things about marriage that I think they may not believe that anyone can have a really happy marriage. If I were you I would continue to do whatever keeps your marriage healthy and if your friends can't understand it then they are probably not really your friends. Just remember that you still have your BEST friend!

Answer 3

As long as you and your husband enjoy each other's company and go out together, I sure wouldn't worry about what your single friends think. They're probably just jealous, and secretly wish they had a special someone to hang out with, even though they may make fun of you for doing it. Maybe it's time you and your husband made some new friends -- married couples -- as it does appear you have outgrown the single friends, and really don't have as much in common with them any more.

Answer 4

I think it's great you still feel that close to one another. To bad more marriages aren't like yours. I have a friend whose been married for 30 years and they still hold hands at times going down the street.Everywhere you see one you'll see the other but I agree that you do both need a few friends each to do things with and have a little time apart.Meanwhile ignore your "so called" friend's comments and keep this happy marriage going.

Answer 5

Since you both still want to explain this to your friends, then it's obvious keeping their friendship is important to you both. If it is feasible, how about having a get together at your place for all the friends involved, both yours & your husband's. Then when the moment is right, tell them that you both have something important to tell them. Then you can both explain how important their friendship is to both of you, but that you both prefer to go out as a couple & that there is nothing "sinister" going on on either side of the marriage. This might help, both of your friends seeing & hearing from both of you at the same time. Also, having each of your friends meeting each other at the same time, might open the door to making it easier to getting together more as a group, or smaller groups in the future. Good Luck!

Answer 6

I like going places with my husband too, we hardly go anywhere alone. Certain friends dont understand. We have also been together 10 years married for 4. We have found some nice couples who like to go out with us and have a good time. There is nothing wrong with wanting to be with the person you love all the time!

Answer 7

It's just hard to believe. How many married couples do you see hanging around each other like newlyweds -- after 10 years??
Your relationship is a rare gem and they can't believe what they see.
My parents had eight children. We are all full brothers and sisters yet people can't believe that none of us are steps or halves.It's just not the norm these days-- like your relationship with your hubby.
If you've explained it once to your friends....and he's explained it twice to his friends.....and you've BOTH explained it THREE times to both sides of friends. Then it's just time to smile and live your own lives.You don't have to explain your love .People won't believe what they don't want to believe. Continue loving each other...you two have a beautiful thing going on ;)

Answer 8

This is normal and you have to feel for your friends on both sides. They miss you, how things were before and its hard on everyone involved. Just let them know that you still want to remain friends, but you also need to spend time together, alone. Most will get over it, others will not. Just press on because it sounds to me like you have a great relationship, which is rare these days! They will eventually "see" how happy you are together and be happy for you.

Answer 9

I think that they are just jealous. They must see how happy you are together and that would mean you are not possessive or jealous with each other. I agree with justacowgirl, I would tell them what you have told us. If they keep going on at you about it then time to find yourself new friends, preferably couples!!

Answer 10

Who cares what others think, just as long as you are happy! Things will change when you get married. However I would suggest that you do make some time with your friends because you did have your own life prior to getting married. Just make a balance.

Answer 11

Some are probably jealous, but do you really think it is healthy for you not to have "girlfriend time" away from your hubby? And what about him? Shouldn't he have other friends besides you? If you don't nurture other relationships then your marriage relationship can become unhealthy as you sound like you are both very co-dependent. Maybe that is what your friends are trying to tell you? Maybe they just care about you both. I dunno.