Your daughter is 17, her boyfriend is 18, he's about to move away to college anyway, but she wants to go to that same college to be with him when she graduates in 2007. What would you do?
2006-08-27 08:02:38 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
have a good talk with her about how drugs are bad for you, and that her boyfriend is not making healthy decisions and is also breaking the law. after that, nothing. he is leaving and they will probably break up when he finds some slutty, marijuana smoking college girl. just don't villify the boyfriend or you will make your daughter defensive and she will tune out whatever you say
2006-08-27 08:07:03 · answer #1 · answered by advicemom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At 17 you are not able to keep her wrapped in cotton wool, drugs are a part of society these days, no matter where she goes they will be in the back ground. If she is mature enough she will know how to handle these situations. Trust in the fact that she has been brought up to know right from wrong.
2006-08-27 08:07:44 · answer #2 · answered by ryn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, since my daughter is a minor and I am responsible, she would be forbidden to see him. I would then get in touch with his parents and inform them about the pot smoking. I would not push any college right now.....I would wait and see. This kid will probably hook up with other pot smokers and druggies and she won't see him again. See, I have 2 daughters and one son. I would do that with my daughters and I would appreciate if someone told me about my son. I would practice what I preach.
2006-08-27 08:08:32 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm kick her little ***, but then sheds 17 and most likely will be 18 soon. Unfortuntly theres not alot you can do, unless you are paying for her college? If thats the case it should be your say where she goes and doesnt go.
2006-08-27 08:05:53 · answer #4 · answered by chicata25 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First...I'm an imposing daddy...
at 44 I'm still fit enough to wupp a@@ on most 18 year olds.
If my daughters brought a dope fiend home...he'd quickly disappear.
but to answer your question...
I would let it be...
things change when you get to college.
If he's so flakey that he continues to smoke dope...he'll find someone else, impulsively quick enough...that wouldn't worry me.
And she will grow and develop as well.
Her feelings will change...and when she gets to college and sees how many mature, well centered, drug free men there are...she'll dump flakey dope addict like an old ash tray.
So what I would do is relax.
2006-08-27 08:11:07 · answer #5 · answered by Warrior 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would talk to my daughter and tell her the truth, that I didn't want her to date this guy because I don't condone the use of illegal drugs.
2006-08-27 08:14:56 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to her about it. tell her you disapprove that he smokes marijuana, it's not good for his health, and that you don't want her around/with him if he's going to do that.
make sure she knows how harmful it is. i guess that's it. sorry
2006-08-27 08:08:24 · answer #7 · answered by al 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really agree with Ryn...VERY good advice...hard to do sometimes but it's the truth.
2006-08-27 12:20:47 · answer #8 · answered by kdefranceschi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WARN HER OF THE DANGER IN IT AND ADVICE HER TO STAY OFF THE SO CALL GUY.
2006-08-27 08:06:51 · answer #9 · answered by my flame 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sit down and burn one with him u will see what its like and u wont b worried
2006-08-27 08:09:50 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋