My girlfriend doesn't talk very much and it's kinda weird when I am with her and I can't think of anything to say. She doesn't bring things up so I have to ask questions all the time so she will talk. But the thing is, she will only answer questions and doesn't often add anything to what I asked her, like how she feels about it. It would be nice if I could get her to talk about herself so I would know what to talk about without having to ask my friends. She is so mysterious!
2006-08-27 08:00:45 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
How sweet you are! So, just get her alone, no distractions, and start talking to her. Tell her you're very interested in learning everything about her. Beware that she may have had an abusive past that makes it hard for her to open up. If so, gently guide her through it...it will make her feel much better opening up about it.
2006-08-27 08:06:53 · answer #1 · answered by swrong 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people are just quiet. My bf's like that. I'm the yappy one and I never used to talk so much but someone has to! lol He always looks lost when I say "you're too quiet hunny".
Telling her to talk more might make her close up even more cuz she'll feel pressured! You'll just have to keep asking stuff! Ask her what she's thinking sometimes, what's on her mind. I love it when my bf asks that.
Take her out places, maybe she's bored. If you do new stuff then there will be things to talk about, things to get excited about and share with each other. Go to the zoo or museums, casinos, take a walk somehwere that you haven't been to, feed the ducks, see movies, read the paper and discuss it, watch tv together and talk about what you just saw, etc. All those things work for me in opening up my bf. Good luck!
2006-08-27 15:13:45 · answer #2 · answered by Caramella 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does she give you a one word answer with a smirk and mysterious twinkle in her eye? If so that's kinda sexy. In this case, she's being mysterious on purpose and playing with you.
Or, does she sit there like a bump on a log with a blank look on her face and give short, boring, useless answers? If that's the case, she doesn't sound that interesting.
Either way, you aren't asking the right questions. If you ask the wrong questions, you're going to get the wrong answers.
2006-08-27 15:05:23 · answer #3 · answered by I Know Nuttin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They say still waters run deep.
On the other hand, I had a boyfriend
one time that was like that, and
when I had been around him long
enough that he actually felt
comfortable talking, I found
out he was dumber than a rock.
So check it out before you commit
yourself to living with a dummy!
Those good looks only last a short
time if they can't carry on an
intelligent conversation!
2006-08-27 15:07:07 · answer #4 · answered by NANCY K 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a girlfriend who I would talk to constantly online or on the phone but when we would see eachother she's kinda shy and I would just hug and kiss her. Some girls are just shy but what you need to do is just talk about random stuff. Actually, when I can't find anything to talk about I would make her say stuff and say that she sounded like a baby or stuff. Or sing her a song. Anything, don;'t think when u talk just come out with it.
2006-08-27 15:13:06 · answer #5 · answered by JO 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people find it hard to open up to other people. They keep their thoughts and ideas to themselves. It may be the way she was raised or perhaps she has been hurt by something she has shared with someone.
I know in my family history, some of the kids would get their butt kicked-in for speaking without first being spoken to.....she may have been raised to speak only when spoken to. Be patient and be discreet. Be someone that she can be sure about. Maybe one day she will open up....
2006-08-27 15:06:40 · answer #6 · answered by tek1017 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk about you and how you react to situations that have happened in your life. Is she is still silent its time to move on.. she has trust issues and that will prevent you two from moving to another level of trust and growth. Find a woman that is open minded and that will bridge the communication gap.
Did you ever ask her how she feels communication affects a relationship? Stress the importance of communication to you in a polite manner. There are plenty of women who would love to have a man that likes to express himself!!
2006-08-27 15:11:44 · answer #7 · answered by ladygramblinite 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk more about your personal stuff. If she sees that you trust her enough to talk about stuff, she might start to trust you as well. Sometimes girls are afraid to share things because they dont want it used against them later. LIke for instance, say your girlfriend used to sleep around. Well if you guys break up she may think you'll call her a slut and stuff because of what she told you. Let her know she can trust you with anything.
2006-08-27 15:04:38 · answer #8 · answered by andrea lynn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask her if she was told to be quiet alot as a child & not really allowed to speak? Sometimes we are trained by our parents & its hard to break old habits. Just keep asking questions til your curiosity is satisfied & then enjoy the silence. Most women talk talk talk, like me & most men hate that. So enjoy!
2006-08-27 15:06:04 · answer #9 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
some girls are like that , they think the more mystery the more you will want to know ,its kind of like keeping you on the string ,or the other possiblilty is that maybe she is afraid to open up cause of things in her past , reguardless the only way to talk to a woman is to talk to her maybe its you who are nervous and she senses that , show confidence,treat her right,let her know in some way that you want to protect her from the demons she may be facing in her past , girls dont like a wuss .
the second possiblilty is that shes just not as in to you as you are her feel this one out carefully cause it could cause hurt feelings on either front good luck:}
2006-08-27 15:13:15 · answer #10 · answered by bill w 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋