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It's been a year since my boyfriends death I have tried to keep everything that mattered to us. But I'm loosing things, especially all of my e-mails from my hotmail account. They deleted all of our e-mail because i hadn't logged in for a while and now, I can't get it back.
I feel so bad it's like God took him away and now he is just throwing away out memories. I feel so bad, it's like God is saying 'No, u can't have him or happy memories. but what u can do is watch other people enjoy their relationship.' Thats another thing 2, God took everything away and is now surround me with people who has everything he took from me. Not saying its all his fault but, why take away my bf and surround me with couples, why take away my finances and surround me with people purchasing multiple cars and clothes and I don't have anything.
Why does God do this type of stuff?
2006-08-27 07:57:44 · 15 answers · asked by Gifted and Gracious 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
First let me say that I am sorry for your loss. A dear friend of mine lost her husband two years ago and and has been trying to carry on the best she can for herself and her two children. I know it is hard.
You can't blame God. It is truly heartbreaking, but your boyfriend died. Crap happens and it happens to good and bad people. God is not continuing to punish you, if anything perhaps he is telling you that you need to find another way. You may be working hard and trying to move on, but you just may not be doing what is really necessary to rebuild your life. By surrounding you with other couples who are doing well perhaps God is telling you that the same is out there for you, you just have to go get it. You are ultimately responsible for how your life develops, you cannot put it all on God's shoulders.
2006-09-04 07:35:42 · answer #1 · answered by Speedo Inspector 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, let me say I am sorry for your loss. Secondly,
I didn't follow your instructions to check your other questions for a better background. I'll do that after I answer this question.
I can commiserate with the frustration of losing emails from an account when you don't get online for awhile. I lost a lot of emails from my Yahool accounts after my dad died. Getting online was just TOO much work for a time.
Let me assure you that it wasn't God who "took" your boyfriend or your emails away from you. All die, some sooner than others. Hotmail is responsible to taking your emails away. But even though you no longer have the emails which would have become more like baggage each day, you still have your happy memories.
You may not realize it but you are being selective when you look at other couples "enjoying" their relationship. They have their tough times as well - they may have had them in the past and / or they may have them in the future. You don't know. You only hurt yourself by generalizing.
Before I can answer "Why does God do this type of stuff?" I have to point out that you mentioned disobeying God. You don't have to tell me what you did but I suggest you try living in obedience to God (I'm talking about reading the Bible to see what He is calling you to do) There are a whole lot of "IF ... THENS" in the Bible. God tells the Israelites IF you OBEY then you will be blessed. IF you DISOBEY then you will be cursed.
Notice too that our happiness is not God's primary purpose for our lives. He does want us to be in a right relationship with Him and that is only possible when we live in obedience to Him.
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God does NOT need some examples ... as you say. ALL, repeat ALL have sinned and fallen short of His glory. However He has provided a Way for each and every person to be restored to a right relationship with Him but He does leave the choice to us.
Ezekiel 18:23 (NIV) says "Do I take any pleasure in the death of the wicked? declares the Sovereign LORD. Rather, am I not pleased when they turn from their ways and Live?"
2006-08-27 08:40:22 · answer #2 · answered by JOYfilled - Romans 8:28 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Nesia,
I share your hurt, I have been there, I know what you are feeling, you have my heart felt sympathy.
Trust what I tell you. God didn't do this to you, and He doesn't want you living in perpetual sorrow either. He loves you, He really does !
You say He is surrounding you with people who have everything you have lost, Nesi , Praise God, He is giving you what you need most in this time ! Friends ! You don't need isolation right now.
As for your happy memories, no one can take those from you, they'll always be there, and your Boy - Friend will always be there too, in your heart.
I know that you are hurting, and grieving right now, but I promise you that God is here for you, not against you. Your hurt will lessen, your grief will pass, and God has a future for you, because your His Child, and He Care's for you.
2006-09-04 06:40:23 · answer #3 · answered by Minister 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
i'm so sorry about what happened to your boyfriend.i had a really good friend that died last year,too.i don't know why this happened.i,too,feel left out,because some people can find someone,and i just can't.
i've lost a lot in my life.i lost my dad when i was only 11.every day,i question god,why he took daddy away.i question him,why i have mental illness,and my family doesn't.i question him,why i have to be lonely,without many friends,and some people,just have all the friends in the world.
i hope you find another guy.you sound like a really nice person,and your questions are very valid.you deserve to be happy,and to have someone to love you.if you ever wanna talk,feel free to e-mail me.my e-mail is:blue_eyes_dejected@yahoo.com.
i know it's hard.i've prayed for many things,and believed god for them.for whatever reason,it just didn't happen.i guess that's why,i really struggle to live as a christian.but i know i need to have faith,and keep believing.if i want to make it to heaven someday.
2006-08-27 09:20:39 · answer #4 · answered by Miss yavatar girl 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Why do you blame God for everything? God did not take your friend. People die it is part of life. I lost my husband too, suddenly to cancer, in one month he was gone.
It's not God's fault, look to God for strength rather and to keep yurself moving on.
Why is God responsible for your e-mails, that is so trivial. You are grieving, its a process but blaming your creator will not bring your loved one back, you need to get back to life, go out more maybe God is showing you opportunity and you cannot grasp it because of your grief.
Think of your loved one that you lost would he want you to be so negative and trite. I hope he comes to you in a dream and shows you how wrong you are for blaming someone who loves you so.
I will pray that you see things through God's grace. Amen
2006-08-27 08:09:55 · answer #5 · answered by Neptune2bsure 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have you given any thought to the option of God not being some omnipotent guy in a robe who does not control everything? I am sorry for your loss, but you must move on. Bad things happen sometimes, and all we can do is use them as examples of our inner strength. I seriously doubt if God exists in the common Judeo-Christian form given the amount of bad things that happen for no apparent reason. Hold your memories dear, but move forward. You cannot control the past, and dwelling on it will only make for a terrible future.
2006-08-27 08:10:31 · answer #6 · answered by bc_munkee 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
First and foremost, let me say that I am sorry for your loss. (as most people probably have said) Please remember this, God pursues us with his love. (psalm 23:6) and his love for us never fails (psalm 103:8) God DOES love you! Death is not the end, but the beginning of eternal life.(psalm 49:15) Your BF is in good hands now. Try to live your life to the fullest. He has not left you alone!
2006-09-04 06:18:23 · answer #7 · answered by Jáe 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You've got to change the attitude. I know it must be very hard, but you've got to do it. Just think of this. IF God doesn't exist (and that's possible) or even if he DOES exist, but he's not responsible for your situation (and this is possible, too) then it's not God who's doing this to you. It's you doing it to yourself...
Maybe, you are surrounded by other people who have what you miss, not because God is depriving you of it, but because you are depriving yourself of it. You've got the right to make your life again. Go out. Meet people. Have fun. I won't say "forget your boyfriend", because that's not possible, and because that's not fair. But move on. Keep him somewhere in your soul, but realise that he's sadly not coming back. But you're here. And you need to carry on and you have a right to be happy. Go for it, and enforce your right to have a life.
2006-08-27 08:11:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 2⤋
Great stuff. This is surely the old Y! Answers, when a best answer got dozens of thumbs up! Now only a few at most.
2016-03-26 21:59:58 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
So God was the one who killed him, and God deleted your email account? Why are you blaming God?
Try thanking God for the good memories you have of your boyfriend. They will always be yours. And when you've had a chance to heal, you'll discover that God has more joys waiting for you.
2006-08-27 08:03:35 · answer #10 · answered by jewel_flower 4 · 2⤊ 2⤋