Help, I'm rubbish at sex!?

Question

well that's maybe an exaggeration but I don't really know what I'm doing in terms of thrusts etc. For example whan a girl's on top it just feels boring and sometimes sore, I struggle to stay hard sometimes. And pushing back and forth inside doesn't seem to get me near to ejaculation. What can I do?

Answer 1

Hello.

You sound very stressed out and nervous about sex,not suprising you keep loosing your errection..but do not feel upset.You need to spend more time by yourself pleasing yourself..and take it very slowly with a lady..sex starts in your head,not in your penis..you need a really relaxing enviroment in which to make love,lots of men at all ages go through this experience..so you are not alone.You talk about "thrusting",one establishes thier own rythum in lovemaking..practice!..but be responsible.

Answer 2

it would've been good to know your age.
generally when one is younger, you're less experienced because any sensible mature person would know that when u are in a committed relationship, that is the time when u enjoy sex the most because u generally have the peace of mind that u're with someone u love and care for and vice versa. given that, u two should be a at a level of comfortability where u speak to each other about sex, instead of you coming on here to ask complete strangers what would best satisfy you both. only u 2 can work it out. sex is different for different people, but you've got to be mature and sensible enough to be able to handle it, otherwise, best leave it till u're older? a couple off the wrist wont hurt until u understand a bit more about relationships...to which there is a lot more than sex u know.

Answer 3

1. Try a different position to find which is best .
2. Maybe you should also try more foreplay if you are getting sore you are not preparing yourself correctly.
3. Speak with your partner if you are not getting pleasure I say 10 / 10 that she wont be.
4. Watch some porn and pick up some tips and hints
5. Practise Practise Practise.... makes perfect !!!

Answer 4

Maybe the answer has something to do with the emotional content of the relationship ...the desire to pleasure or please each other.

Maybe you should consider talking with each other and being honest about what happens between the pair of you when you are 'having sex.'

It's a bit like couples who go to a restaurant and eat heir meal without saying a 'personal' word to each other throughout.

There's and ugliness in that.

Think about it.

Best of luck.
Sash.

Answer 5

Y don't say your age ?
But as they say , practise makes perfect.
If your feeling soar, try more foreplay first so she's nice and wet.
Y can also try using a lubricant like KY jelly and y can slip and slide all y want.
Try experimenting in differ ant positions and see how y go.
Don't worry, in time it'll all come natural.
Good luck and don't forget to practise safe sex.

Answer 6

u just go in n out its easy.. and if ya girl on top is boring to u then u need to find a new girl, it seems to me that shes the 1 thats rubbish at it

Answer 7

If its boring with the girl on top then put her underneath. If you still bored then try giving her oral and get her to do the same for you.
If that still dosent work change the girl

Answer 8

Practice makes perfect

Answer 9

Practice on your own by using your hand. You work out which bit of your c*ck you need to stimulate during sex.

Also sounds like you need some lubrication too. Get some KY Jelly!

Answer 10

Don't think about it, just let your body do what it wants to do, the harder you work at satisfying yourself the less your partner will feel.
Try next time considering what your partner is feeling and aim at pleasing them, your pleasure will soon gain in impetus. whether it is love or just plain lust, it is a partnership. (you aim at pleasing them and leave them to pleasure you.)
"Daddy Dave"