I am in a tough situation, I have this other guy that we are trying to work things out and every time we plan something to do ( It would be are first date) something would come up and we cannot do our plans, So he is out of town only for one night and he is gone for 2 nights and he has not called me, So I went out to have some free time and I meet this other guy which I have seen him in the bar before and we got to talking and we talked until 4 a.m.!! He is a sweet guy it sounds like, but can a relationship develop?? Which one should I go for Guy #1 ( Had a relationship once) or Guy #2 (That I just meet)?????
2006-08-27 07:05:35 · 13 answers · asked by Ms. Daisy_Duke 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Why not explore both? Doesn't sound like either one is serious right now. Spend a bit more time getting to know them both in order to decide if you like one more than the other.
I don't think either would expect you to be exclusive by the way you are describing it. Get to know them and see where your heart leads you.
2006-08-27 07:09:01 · answer #1 · answered by lily 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let me get this straight, you believe that there are only two guys on planet earth and you MUST choose to be with one of the other of them??? HOW ABOUT NEITHER! One couldn't care less about being with you, his actions prove that undeniably, if he does come around its only going to be to get some. The second you met in a bar and talked til 4am!! Honey, there is nothing more meaningless than that. I was a bartender for years, guess what take that SAME sweet guy and I guarantee he's done exactly what he did with you with a different girl everytime he's been in that bar. I'm not saying it can never work (although I never saw one that did, not long term anyway) but you need to take your time, sit back and watch what he does. Don't get your heart set on choosing one or the other, you know one isn't worth anything and you know nothing about the other.
2006-08-27 07:12:10 · answer #2 · answered by dappersmom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my case, I haven't met any significant others at a club or bar, however I have made some good friends. I met a lady, and her daughter who go to this one club that I frequently go to all the time, and they are always together, and they leave together. All three of us have become good friends, and our friendship seems to be going well. If you are looking for something serious I honestly don't think a club or bar is a good place to start, but that's just my opinion.
2016-03-26 21:57:38 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If guy #1 has not even taken you on your first date, I wouldn't put so much emphasis on it. Have fun. Go on dates. Why should you put all your eggs (no pun intended) in one basket? By going on a date, you are not committing yourself to one man or the other. And yes, Chance meetings like that tend to work out very well. It does not sound like guy #1 is very interested anyway.
2006-08-27 07:10:20 · answer #4 · answered by jobie023 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure!!!! Why not? I mean if this guy is sincere it shouldnt matter where ya meet at. I mean if he really likes you it does not matter if ya meet at a bar, or at a park. Overall it all depends on how much he likes you. You should defenitly go for huy number 2. The other one is probaly making excuses not to see you so do not waste your time.
2006-08-27 07:17:02 · answer #5 · answered by roxannafw 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd give guy#1 a week to shape up and show up. If he doesn't--chat up guy#2 (not all guys are "barflies"--some are just nice people out looking for other nice people--everyone that walks into a bar isn't a trashy alcoholic)
2006-08-27 07:14:54 · answer #6 · answered by dawnee_babe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a relationship can devolop from anywhere, I would tell the other guy your not sure if it is going to work out and that you need some time and go out with guy #2 fa couple times and see who you want to go with
good luck
2006-08-27 07:09:49 · answer #7 · answered by penguin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I met my husband--best man I have ever known --in a bar 27 years ago!
2006-08-27 07:10:22 · answer #8 · answered by patlrussell 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I met my husband in a bar. we've been married for 10 yrs now.
the one I met thru a friend - we were divorced within 6 yrs.
2006-08-27 07:08:35 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
gee a barfly or a long distance lover thats a tough one.
2006-08-27 07:08:21 · answer #10 · answered by unluckyinluv 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋