PARENTS, My 14 year old daughter goes from REBELLIOUS to downright DEFIANT. Similar situations? SUGGESTIONS?

Question

Shes a high school freshman and the problems are sure to get worse.

Answer 1

Well right now her body is changing and everything is becoming different,peer pressure and the other stress's of life in general...it's all hitting her at once I have a 15 year old and she isn't really wild but she is defiantly changing,in every way.But right now she needs you as a friend and someone she can trust not matter what it is.But tough LOVE can be the best thing also..I would try to let her know she can talk to you no matter what and try to comfort her in every way..all I can say is to PRAY HARD and be a good example yourself..

Answer 2

I have had a similar problem and continue sometimes with my 14 yr old son. I have had to spend a lot of time and energy in the past year on discipline and having him do a ton of work and reading, learning etc... He has gotten a lot better since he's growing a backbone and maturing a little. It is just a real bratty stage and it will pass but not with out a lot of hard work on your part. Give chores all the time, a lot of love, get some support from other relatives etc.. When the kid knows you are not alone in this effort, they get a lot better.
Good luck!

Answer 3

Hello. I'm a High School senior, and unfortnatly I went through the phase before as well. Only thing is though I was brought up to respect my parents. I'm not saying your child doesnt respect you but it all depends on what kind of relationship you have with your child. My neighbor is a year younger than me and is still in the phase of rebellion and being defiant and unfortantly nothing worked to change her. She still lied, snuck out, smoked. did everything she could because she knows she wasnt allowed. I know I read other ideas from other people saying to try and talk to her. try it. but it probably wont work but its ur best bet. in all honesty though, try and find out who her friends are.. get invovled a little in her life. try and do things with her. if she doesnt want you to then ask if she changse her mind that you are always willing to be there. you need to tell her that you are there for her ALWAYS but you are a little disappointed with her actions lately and ask her what she has been up to. ask her if she has done drugs or smoked. Because sometimes the friends she hangs out with .. and what she does causes the rebellion factor... tell her you wont yell if you find out she has done it because otherwise she will lie STRAIGHT to your face. So realyl try and talk to her. Good luck hope I might have helped

Answer 4

Heh, you know...all girls are like that as teenagers. I certainly was. You just have to stand your ground...If she talks back or is defiant, punish her. I often had priveleges taken away from me if I was bad at all. My parents didn't let me go to school dances, sporting functions I wanted to go to, etc. If my attitude ever got seriously rotten, they threatened to take me out of sports and stuff (such as music lessons THEY paid for). By the time she gets close to the end of her highschool years? She WILL mature quite a bit....

Answer 5

I know the feeling. Mine usually changed every five minutes. Went upstairs hysterical, came down smiling. I think it's quite difficult for them, they really don't know what their problem is. Mine is 18 now, but still does that sometimes. The best thing is to ignore it. If she gets on your nerves a little yelling will help....for a while.

Answer 6

First off, your lack of details doesn't give one much to go on.

You need to give your child space. Most parents smother thier kids to a point where they have to rebel. Try backing down and only go to battle for the important stuff, like drugs, alcohol and sex. Set boundries that make sense, and punishments that you can stick by.

Good luck.

Answer 7

call the police on her. They will send her to a detention center where they will really teach her about respect.

Take away EVERYTHING from her. if she plays sports, dont let her. If she likes TV, take it away. YOU show HER whos boss. She may be defiant, but she will be a bored defiant.

Answer 8

You should talk to her. Maybe something is bothering her. I remember being a freshman in highschool, the pressure sometimes gets to you and you lash out at something or someone.

Answer 9

Reduce privledges significantly. privledges= TV, stereo, ipod, movies, friends, new clothes, games, anything she has not paid for or anything not essential to life ar law.

Answer 10

If she has a cell phone or credit card, destroy it in her face. It will hit her definance in the heart, and she will be yours to command.

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