my daughter is 13 years old. she has a boyfriend and theyve been going out for about 7 months now. they hang out every single day. we've found out about them doing stuff before so my husband an di talked to both of them about it. but im not completely sure if theyve stopped. theyre hardly ever alone. they watch movies together in the living room they go to parties and stuff like that so theres pretty much always people around. i just dont know if i can trust her anymore. i dont want her to get in over her head. i know her and her boyfriend are in love bcause of the way they talk about each other. and i believe that you DO NOT have to be a certain age to be in love because my husband and i were also very young when we started going out. i know theyll probably be together forever and get married, but of course im not positive. i just dont want them both to make a mistake. any advice? ive already talked to my daughter. a lot. and her boyfriend. we're very open with both of them. help?????
2006-08-27 06:26:59 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
u r doing the right thing by letting them live there life and have fun but just keep eye on them
2006-08-27 07:35:51 · answer #1 · answered by 2 THICK 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
if you are not sure they have stopped doing the stuff that you are talking about and if there is any doubt in your mind that they have alone time then put her on birth control and make sure she takes it everyday. Thats the only advice i can give you unless you take her somewhere that shows her how hard it is to raise a baby on your own or when you are young. I had a baby at 22 and was married before I got pg and I am still having a hard time because I got pg before I got out all of my party days. My son was a surprise. Good Luck
2006-08-27 13:34:55 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all I believe you gave her too much too fast...13!...at that age girls are still identifyng with themselves, who they are, puberty,what they like, where they would like to be. Boys should be just there as friends in schooll or in the neighborhood not at home in her room or in any room or place alone. Don't let the male species identify, create , or mislead your daughter and who she is and is to become in the future. Give her a laptop or trip to somwhere not a boyfriend...too much tooo fast...only leads to the headache and worries you are having right now. Good luck on reversing that!
2006-08-27 13:36:47 · answer #3 · answered by girlygirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be supportive for her and be there if there's ever any heartbreak.
Being in love at 13 is rare; most likely it's puppy love.
Just make sure she's not having sex or doing drugs or anything else that could get her in trouble. It doesn't hurt to make friends with her boyfriend's parents.
2006-08-27 13:33:18 · answer #4 · answered by chrstnwrtr 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You know your daughter the best. Tell her, just randomly that she can tell you anything. If you really don't feel comfortable, have your daughter inviteMORE people for their nightly movie reguime. Couples won't..you know in front of people. At 13-years-old, I wouldn't be worried. Check on her MORE as she approaches the 15-18 range.
Hope this helps!
-Emily
2006-08-27 13:34:16 · answer #5 · answered by EmilySarah. 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
iam sorry but when u are 13 u dont even know what love is. u r giving her a lot of freedom. if she is "doing stuff" its ur fault for not limiting it. ur child is so young and has her life in front of her she may make a wrong mstake and ruin ur life forever if u dont put out some boundries.
2006-08-27 13:35:54 · answer #6 · answered by summer_510 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you are doing everything right. You are letting them have a relationship, but you eye them like a hawk. Just keep doing that. Don't let them be in situations where you can wind up a Grandmother. Its good that your respect their relationship but also mistrust their hormones. Think you can keep it up for 5 more years?
2006-08-27 13:31:48 · answer #7 · answered by Velken 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I dont have any advice other than keep it up. sounds like you are doing your job... happy parenting! I guess just be happy you found out right away before anything too terribly bad happened.
2006-08-27 22:51:54 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
why are you letting a 13 date ? and you never said how the boy was?
and i would not be suprise if you post that she is going to have a baby .
she is to young to date
2006-08-27 15:32:54 · answer #9 · answered by weeksfamilyof4 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
at parties people dont usually care about others. people still do things in front of people, it doesnt matter to them what people think. but im glad you listening and trusting your gaughter.
2006-08-27 16:04:34 · answer #10 · answered by jc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋