my son almost seems as if he doesnt get what the toilet is for. on the other hand though, he can soil himself and go about his business with no discomfort. i'm at my wits end with this, i can't have him still in pampers! for his sake, kids as well as adults can be very judgmental
2006-08-27 06:00:52 · 10 answers · asked by cat 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
I know how you feel, my son is autistic and we had a very difficult time with potty training. I bought a treasure chest and put it on the back of the toilet. I filled it with little toys, mostly hot wheels because that's his favorite. Whenever he successfully used the potty, he got to pick a prize. We still had to help him with No. 2 until just recently (he's 7), so you just have to be very patient. The main thing is not to yell or scream or punish him because he will just get frustrated and upset. I don't know about your son, but my son has coordination issues so it was physically difficult for him to clean up afterward. Keep a little pack of kid's wipes next to the toilet--they're a little easier to work with than TP. Good Luck.
2006-08-27 06:11:00 · answer #1 · answered by TigerLilly 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop worrying about what other people are thinking, for your son's sake. Because he has autism, the "neurotypical" world is going to judge him and his behaviours for the rest of his life. Something you are going to have to learn to deal with. Don't let anyone make your son or you feel any less important or deserving. You do want him to learn socially acceptable behaviours. But being a little different is going to be a given.
It depends on where your son is on the autism spectrum. What his abilities are. Just be patient and consistent. If his is a visual learner, get him some videos and books that talk about potty training. He will learn from modeling and repetition. You may also want to put a step-by-step diagram on the wall or near the toilet of how to go to the bathroom. Visuals, not too many words. Don't try to compare what your son is doing to what other boys his age are doing. His brain is "wired" differently; he processes information differently. Once you can figure out his way of learning, it will be easier for both of you. Talk to your pediatrician. If he isn't already receiving Occupational Therapy, he should. An O.T. can help you with this issue as well, because it may be in part due to a motor planning skills problem. He may not be able to figure out the mechanics of going to the bathroom properly. Because of his age, he should be getting some intervention from a Head Start type of program. And he is old enough to be evaluated through the public school system, so they should be providing some services to him as well, including speech therapy, which may help with his communication skills.
Repetition. Visual modeling. Don't use too many words when explaining. Good luck.
2006-08-27 14:48:56 · answer #2 · answered by daisy243 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Buy underpants of his fav. characters (worked for my daughter) also, you can buy toilet paper targets that go in the toilet to help with little boys aiming. Why don't you get some of those and make pottytraining a game!
Good luck, Camille
2006-08-27 13:11:54 · answer #3 · answered by Camille B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a son also. He is potty trained and I will tell you that it wasn't easy. LOL try the sticker chart. Every time he pees on potty let him put sticker on chart. Every time he poops on potty let him put 2 stickers on chart. Also try the cherrios method. That really worked for us. We would toss some in toilet and he would aim to pee on them. Pretty funny but worked. Also get the Kandoo products. They helped us too. Good luck with it, but it takes time and when he is ready he will succeed. Don't push him, it may scare him. Ease into it and let him see you and/or daddy pee too.
2006-08-27 14:52:03 · answer #4 · answered by luvluv410 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well just because he has a disorder doesnt mean he shouldnt have dicipline i know i have a nephew with epilepsy he is 8 and he has absolutely no dicipline and still wears diapers his self i think its sick him being in school and all but just talk to your son and tell him how important it is to go to the bathroom just take time in training him and dont give up like my sister did because it is bad to be able to run all around and not get in trouble just because you have a disorder you have to show him that you are the adult and he is a child and shouldnt get special treatment b.c you are handicapped if he was in a wheel chair and cant walk i could understand but just something like autism or epilepsy theys till need to be pottytrained.....good luck
2006-08-27 14:42:58 · answer #5 · answered by pipes1884 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My mother used to sit me down on the potty and pour warm water over my penis until I would urinate and it seemed to work with my sons as well. If ya tell anyone this about me I will be very embarrassed.
2006-08-27 16:43:53 · answer #6 · answered by theforce51 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
good luck with that. i have a cousin who is autistic and she didn't even show any interest in potty training till she was about 8. i dont know your frustrations personally as a mother but i've seen my aunt go through it.
best wishes
2006-08-27 13:03:51 · answer #7 · answered by Coltsgal 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
make it fun. make a homemade sail boat and put it in the toliet and the let him know that when he has to go go and try to sank the sail boat it worked for my boys and i had them trained before their second b-day all three of them.
2006-08-27 13:06:04 · answer #8 · answered by ajamccall 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this might sound bad.
but try giving him his favorite thing while on the toilet and the toilet only. so he associates the two. that might be bad advice but it might work?
2006-08-27 13:04:56 · answer #9 · answered by NONAME 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to buy his favorite cartoon character underwear, it worked for my son.
2006-08-27 13:08:29 · answer #10 · answered by sweetie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋