my dad died about 10 months ago...I still have this empty feeling,I still miss him really bad. how do you get over this?
2006-08-27 05:46:40 · 16 answers · asked by roxy_me_04 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
just pray...i know its hard,but if you pray you will feel better trust me
2006-08-27 05:49:42 · answer #1 · answered by ♥baby gurl♥ 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My Father died over 15 years ago, and believe it or not I still miss him very much, there are many times when I wish he were here. It is really a matter of learning to live with it. I try to think of his death in a positive sense, that I will see him again in heaven. I know it may seem ridiculous, but I trully believe that we will meet them again only not in this life. God Bless you and I will pray that you can have peace within.
2006-08-27 13:00:03 · answer #2 · answered by bdancer43 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Everyone is different...
Every father is different...
You should be glad that you were lucky enough to be blessed with a father you love and who loved you... Remember the good times, learn from the bad and know, that this life is only a time. We will all be together again
Personally... If my father died... I would throw a party and dance a jig on his grave. I hated him and he hated me. We have not spoken in over 2 years other than screaming matches court battles and bitter unforgivness on his part. Personally, I think he has lived long enough and can't wait for him to drop dead!
( and yes... unfortunately, I DO mean that.)
Do you feel blessed yet? To have had what time you did and appreciate it more considering? To be the woman you are today and love men as you do for the good influence he was in your childhood?
See what I mean... count yourself lucky and loved and remember with peace in your heart and love on your mind.
2006-08-27 12:55:36 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You never get over the loss .. .My dad passed away almost 10 years ago and I still miss him ... At first it really messed me up . But as time goes on you start to accept it and live your life ... Have you said goodbye? you may need to have some closure with his death ... This was the hardest part for me ...
2006-08-27 12:52:44 · answer #4 · answered by Bobbo 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Roxy, my dad passed away in October 2000, coming up almost to six years. I have never fully gotten over it. I really, REALLY miss him so much because he was my friend, mentor and guide in life. I have fought bouts of depression every so often for the past six years. But I also know that the first thing my dad would say to me is to stop acting this way. Keeping that in mind, I never fail to recover and just keep moving on, employing all the good lessons he taught me to my life and everyday existence.
2006-08-27 12:54:49 · answer #5 · answered by crowbird_52 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I don't ever think you do as he was very much of your life. It always hurts and you will most likely always feel a vacant spot in your heart, I know I do! I think first you have to accept death as a natural part of life! Remember the wonderful times you had! We never know when we leave the house if we will ever return again, Love life and everything around you, enjoy what you have, don't allow a loved one to go long without telling them you love them.
2006-08-27 12:57:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is one of those things that you never really get over. What you're feeling is an echo of the love you shared with him when he was alive and such a strong part of your daily life.
You can still communicate with him, if you excercise a bit of faith. Set yourself up in a quiet place where you're unlikely to be distracted by people, phones, rampaging pets, etc. Then talk to him as if he was standing there at your side. Call him by the name you're most comfortable using for him, and tell him you want to speak with him. Please trust me in this ~ he will be there for you. Our loved ones cross over, such is a normal and natural part of our mortal existance. But they're still here for us and they still care for us as deeply as they did when they were alive. Open your heart and you will feel him, the love he still has for you, and you may even find yourself talking to him again, feeling his words in your heart.
Say "hello" to your Guardian Angel :)
2006-08-27 13:14:19 · answer #7 · answered by My Evil Twin 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well you can't cause you'll never forget him and the memories you two shared but the best thing is to think about where he wen't instread of thinking of him dead!! I have had the same prob except it was with my great grampa I still miss him but I know he went sumwhere better than earth "HEAVEN" :) so just think about that intead of remember how or when he died!
2006-08-27 12:59:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You take one day at a time sweety. Yes, it will be hard and painful, but you will make it. And go with your feelings and don't hide them. You may have to find someone you trust to talk to about him. It may be to a doctor or a friend you trust. It helps to talk about a love one after they die. Also remember the good times you shared with your father. When the pain seems to hard to bare then give it to God and pray.
2006-08-27 12:55:13 · answer #9 · answered by sweetone 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Love that never goes away. Your daily routine will get easier but that empty feeling doesn't go away it's always there. You will get use to it more and more and it will become just a part of who you are.
2006-08-27 13:32:12 · answer #10 · answered by Rachel Bitchface 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do not get over this. You are not supposed to. But it doesn't have to be all bad.
Remember why he fathered you in the first place. He knew he was going to die. He and your mom imparted life to you so you could carry on.
Above all, his wish was that you lead a happy and fulfilling life. You can either attempt to meet his expectations (he understands your failures like no other) or you can throw your hands up and say "I give up!"
Which one do you think he wants you to choose?
2006-08-27 12:57:50 · answer #11 · answered by szydkids 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋