I think I want more than just fun but I am not sure how to take it to the next level any suggestions other than being blatenly honest?
2006-08-27 05:30:36 · 18 answers · asked by need help 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
usually in these situations, if it starts out as just sex then it usually doesn't become anything more. if you wanted a real relationship, you should have set the tone in the beginning.
2006-08-27 05:38:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why lie to a man that you want to be commited to? That makes no sense. Honesty is the only way to go. And it's your best bet.
So what if he thinks you're a fool for being honest...
My best advice is to just tell him straightforward.. Hit him right on. He can do 1 of 3 things... or 4...
1) He can agree
2) He can disagree
3) He can be unsure and think about it
--or--
4) He can say sure, and or think about it, but screw you over at the same time.
--How do you know you're his only partner? And how do you know you're the only one that feels this way for him?
Like I tell my buddies-- friends with benifits and or discreet relationships (including affairs) never works because someone always ends up getting hurt.
Just whatever you do-- if you do tell him, don't keep having sex with him. That'll make you lose twice-- and he'll win both times.
If you tell him, and he says no-- face it, and let him go. It's fine to be friends, but don't waste your time on someone that wants to BS you for your underpants only.
In my opinion, I think that's very uncalled for in the first place.
Good Luck with this man. Hopefully he's not a jack***.
--Rob
2006-08-27 12:38:22 · answer #2 · answered by stealth_n700ms 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How much of an age diff. do you have? If it is within 10year age diff. than thats ok. Also it depends on how long you have been dating? If its longer than 6 months than just be honest and tell him. I want to take it to the next level. See what kind of reaction you will get. I have been dating younger man as well. So far it's been great!!
2006-08-27 12:39:26 · answer #3 · answered by Lisa L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Women cannot help but fall in love when they have sex with a guy. Trust me, guys don't have the same problem. Stick to the original agreement or find another guy to start a relationship. At that point if you are more than booty to him he will let you know.
2006-08-27 12:36:29 · answer #4 · answered by aliveandkicking 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just be honest with him but let him know that you don't have to take it to the next level if he does not want to. it gives him a sense of control and leaves you looking better in his eyes
2006-08-27 12:40:18 · answer #5 · answered by i_used_to_be_a_nintendo2000 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him make a move on it.If you don't want to be totally up front then just give little signs. He'll catch on, and if he's interested in more then you'll know. Good Luck.
2006-08-27 12:41:37 · answer #6 · answered by phooh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well surely if he is younger than you, and less experienced then he is putty in your hands. It's easy to make a man love you once you have learned how :o)
2006-08-27 12:34:56 · answer #7 · answered by applecheeks 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do just that be honest or you can let thing's stay the way they are ...safe.
But if your not getting what you want, you won't be happy, however long it last's, so tell him what you want, if he want's it then great...but if not, then move on...
2006-08-27 12:37:08 · answer #8 · answered by Viv C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i believe younger guys prefer blatant honesty... he may be thinking the same, since you are older don't be afraid to speak up and take the lead.
2006-08-27 12:39:20 · answer #9 · answered by swhitta_98 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him.......But if in the beginning the arrangement was "just for fun" don't be surprised if it ends quickly!
2006-08-27 12:39:03 · answer #10 · answered by Karen 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋