My husband comes home from work so very tired lately. He doesn't have a stressful or physical job. Anyhow, he comes home the other day and his breath smelled like a womans parts... you know what I mean. I know it's not from me cause we haven't dome this in a LONG LONG time, anyhow he said a guy at work brought in salmon for his click of friends and he had some. His best friend at work has had 2 affairs with women in their shop & I am worried that he is cheating. We used to have RELATIONS like 4-5 times a week now I'm lucky to get it twice a month. He hides in the bathroom all the time on the phone. He goes to the store for milk and is gone for an hour. He has never cheated before (as far as I know). Am I being silly or do I need to investigate this?
p.s. I have put on 45 pounds in the last year, am I just being insecure or is he not attracted anymore?
Help Please!!!
2006-08-27 04:56:51 · 23 answers · asked by Feeling Froggy 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Have you talked about this to him? Are you just letting your own insecurities arise? Is they're more proof than talking on the phone and taking longer for simple chores...and just because others (his friends) have had affairs doesn't mean he is...
Talk to him. Don't confront. Don't argue. Talk.
Good Luck.
2006-08-27 05:03:00 · answer #1 · answered by the Wicked Witch 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think you are absolutely right on! Don't think your not. The fact that you've put on the weight is a sad fact because men ARE very visual. BUT, my dear the signs are there, Obvious, at least to me, Dam if you were having relations 3-4 times/week now 2x/month thats crazy. Something is going on I'm not sure what else. Be careful, don't get hurt!
2006-08-27 05:18:08 · answer #2 · answered by Linda H 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i honestly think he is cheating.
when i was 18 this guy had an affair with me and he had a wife and kids. he would make the dumbest excuses to get out of the house, yes like buying milk for his kid. we would go have a quicky and i would take him to the store to buy the milk.
his wife was over weight and i had a nice body so that was part of the reason for him cheating. the other was that like any mistress, i was understanding about all his problems. he would fight with his wife and i would comfort him. he would do the same for me (i was cheating on my boyfriend too). in the end we fell in love and are together with two kids.
please dont think im evil sometimes you just have no control over who you fall in love with.
anyways i have experience in this so trust me, call cheaters or something. you need to catch him before he gives you an STD.
PS
remember that most of cheating goes on in the work place. good luck!!
2006-08-27 05:07:20 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think he's cheating. No one brings fish to their job to share with co workers. I would follow him when he goes on these hour long trips to the store for milk. I would definitely investigate. When he gets done using the phone, I would hit redial and see who he's calling. Go through his wallet. Look in his underwear for stains.
Good Luck!!
2006-08-27 05:19:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry but it sounds like he is. Do some investigating of your own and go with what your instincts are telling you. You need to listen to that voice inside you when it tells you something is not right.
And just on a side note - just because you have put on weight does NOT justify him cheating on you!
2006-08-27 05:04:59 · answer #5 · answered by K 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Okay, he's hiding in the bathroom on the phone? He takes an hour to get milk from the store.
I would be investigating if i were you. If he wasn't hiding anything he wouldn't have to keep his phone calls so secretive.
Weight has nothing to do with it, if he's cheating it's becasue he wants to.
2006-08-27 05:01:16 · answer #6 · answered by Val 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He might still love you but is just not attracted to the 45 pounds that you put on (wow that is alot of weight!)But yes, it sounds like he cheating on you .
2006-08-27 05:01:58 · answer #7 · answered by Oki Bound 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
INVESTIGATE....next time he says he is going to get "milk" dont give him a choice go with him......as for the salmon thing next time that happens call his buddy and tell him how nice you thought that was and wonder if he had any good recipes lol....stuff like that, becuase that way if he isnt....it wont seem like your prying itll just seem normal.
2006-08-27 05:00:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
sit with him .. talk very calm with him about it..
but worring all the time will make you so sad ..
so better to discuss with him , cause he is your hasbund not a stranger
I mean , you tell us this and we are strangers to you
so why cant you tell the same to him in a good way.. if he listen ..fine
if he didnt listen . so now you're not the only one who is worry
but him also ;)
2006-08-27 05:03:01 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Something is going on. My ex-husband used to do the same thing after I lost my baby. Two months later he said he had fallen in love with someone else but She dumpped HIM
2006-08-27 04:59:57 · answer #10 · answered by angeldove905 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋