im friends with a guy named *rob. hes funny, nice, not very cute. he liked a girl named *kathryn. he really liked her and she had no idea, but EVERYbody else knew. well he called me last night when he was babysitting and we talked for a while. he told me he had just talked to kathryn for and hour and a half. i lauged but then he said he didnt like her anymore. i tried to guess who he did like. he gave me a description of a gril who sounded just like me. when i didnt guess her he asked me out. i thought he was kidding but i found out he wasnt. i didnt know what to say so i just said yes but now i regret that. what should i do!!
2006-08-27 04:37:54 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
just FYI to everyone. looks dont matter to me! im not shallow so stop using that in your answers
2006-08-27 04:50:42 · update #1
Tell him the truth about how you feel. Tell him that you prefer the friendship and that if with time it grows to something romantic it will be great but that he have to consider that it will be also possible that it will keep being just a friendship. Do not feel pressed to do something you dont want to because if you are not honest or if you do something you dont want you will loose the friendship also. Hope this help, good luck!
2006-08-27 04:43:00 · answer #1 · answered by Daniela Sylvester 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, i put the blame on you... You should never have said yes without thinking... You were impulsive... Don't ever be hurry when you say yes to a guy who asks you out... One thing is, you put your self in trouble by being impulsive ( just like in your case) and you make the guy think you are some girl who falls for a guy quickly.. No matter what a guy expects, he wants the girl to be a bit proud at first before saying yes... I'm saying that through my experience.. So, that is not the answer to your question... Now you wanna get rid of him right? Too bad you made him keep hopes about you and how on the earth you can tell him you "just" said yes? Ok, try to call him up and tell him that you said yes because you got confused and you didn't have anythng else to say and didn't wanna let him down... ( you have to lie in a way that can justify your self and that doesn't hurt him). He might or might not have been serious but i think you ought to call him up and tell how you really feel now.. Don't just drag this on and dump him its bad for you and him... I'll give you another advice.. Just don't ever fall for looks.. You said this guy is nice and funny and he might have a nice heart.. What a girl really wants is a guy who's loyal to you.. There must have been a reason why you said yes to him and i think the reason is that you think this guy is a great person? I don't know its up to you... Think twice before saying anything... Looks are just not important all you need is a guy who can make you happy... I'm pretty damn sure you are aware of that... So, now you have to "think" whether to stop this or go ahead.. If you decide to stop, just explain things in a way that doesn't hurt him and that doesn't make you a "bad girl" from his point of view.. Remember, funny guys can be extremely lovable... Whatever you do, its your choice... I suggest you think twice before getting into a conclusion..
2006-08-27 11:57:12 · answer #2 · answered by Teejay 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well Janelle, why is it that this guy has everything except being "cute" ? I am going to guess that you are young and have not yet realized that most of the guys that aren't so cute now grow into nice looking men! Looks fade sweetie, and personality, charm, kindness and all those other great qualities remain. Why not go out with Rob and have a good time? If you still can't get past the looks thing then tell Rob that you dont' want to screw up a great friendship by getting involved romantically with him. You may be missing out on the love of your life by not giving Rob a chance. One thing I have learned in nearly a half century of living....the more you love someone, the better looking they get. That ain't no crap, baby! Nana
2006-08-27 11:45:20 · answer #3 · answered by nanawnuts 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just go out with the guy for the day since you said you would. You don't want to hurt his feelings now. So just go out, have some fun, and pretend you're going out with a friend and not on a date. If he tries to make a move on you, tell him you are uncomfortable about it. If he asks you out again later on, tell him no. Who knows? Maybe you might end up liking him. Looks should be secondary anyway. Good guys are hard to find nowadays.
2006-08-27 11:41:37 · answer #4 · answered by Emi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you don't like him, you shouldn't lead him on thinking that you like him too. If you dont' want to go out with him, you should tell him that. Sounds like you may be flattered by the idea that he likes you but that you don't like him back the same way. Talk to him when you guys go out, and tell him you'd rather talk then go to a movie (of whatever it is he wants to do) and tell him the truth. If he's your friend and that's all you ever want to happen - just friendship then you owe him that explanation. He will appreciate the fact that you are being honest with him and he should respect that. He may feel hurt, but in the long-run, if he really is a friend, he'll get over it and respect you even more for being truthful . The worst would be to play with his feelings (even if its not intentional) and to date him when you don't really like him.
2006-08-27 11:43:43 · answer #5 · answered by rollarcoaster brain 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why don't you want to go out with him? You said he was nice and funny is it because he's not cute? If you only go out with people for their looks you may end up with some very shallow boyfriends. Yet if that's all you are looking for well I guess your shallow too. Some of the greatest guys aren't that cute but their personality far exceeds their looks :)
2006-08-27 11:42:39 · answer #6 · answered by hollie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have two options:
1) Say, "I'm sorry I got your hopes up, but your face looks way too much like a train accident for me to let you be seen with me."
2) Give the poor guy a chance and quit flattering yourself that your amazing good looks will bring along someone better than this perfectly funny, nice guy.
2006-08-27 11:42:16 · answer #7 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure him asking you caught you off-guard. Why do you regret accepting if you like him and are friends?
Are you afraid he's 'falling' for you? And why has he suddenly stopped liking Kathryn?
Is one date r-e-a-l-l-y going to kill you? You two just might have a wonderful time. If he asks you for another date, you can tell him as flattered as you are, you'd rather just stay friends.
2006-08-27 12:35:10 · answer #8 · answered by weddrev 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Y do u regret it? He doesn't like her anymore and she seems to be ob 2 his interest so what's the prob? Go have fun and tell her what she missed out on!!!
2006-08-27 11:41:44 · answer #9 · answered by angeldove905 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best way is to go out on the date with him. if you did not have a good time with him just say i sorry I don't see us like that your to good of friend. Good luck!!
2006-08-27 11:47:26 · answer #10 · answered by Lori K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋