Considering I have to be up at 5:30am for work?
2006-08-27 04:31:21 · 34 answers · asked by I am a Muppet 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
He lives with me and pays rent too
2006-08-27 06:13:21 · update #1
your BF is rude to do that to you..its like you having your friends over when HE is trying to sleep.
If you have discussed this with him and he continues, then it is clear that he not looking out for your best interest.
In that case he is looking out for HIM.
Everyone deserves good treatment. And that ALSO means you!
Let me know the outcome: sierrababy 44 at yahoo
2006-09-01 17:04:10 · answer #1 · answered by Dune 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As sad or mean as this may sound, he has lost all respect for you. Anyone who lives with you and knows your schedule and knows how important it is for you to get your sleep because you work and early shift, yet continues to entertain and show total disregard for your needs at all hours for the night does not respect you. I am not sure there is any way to get this respect back. The sad thing about living with your significant other before getting married is that you show them (especially as a girl) that you are willing to give up anything including your peace of mind for not very much. And he is taking full advantage of this. You could try talking to him, and letting him know that he is hurting your feelings and that you feel totally disrespected. Sit down with him and in a calm manner, let him know exactly what nights you need your sleep, and ask him to not have guests over at all on those nights. Let him know which nights he can have company over. Then give him a two month trial period where you see if he is genuinely making an effort. If he does not change or only changes for a few weeks, then goes back to entertaining, it will be time for you to start considering cutting your losses because it might be too late to get back the respect.
2006-08-27 08:31:34 · answer #2 · answered by Haveitlookedat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it's not too much, it's a question of respect. Any relationship must be based on respect, be it friendship, just living together or sharing a place with a partner. It is evident from what you say that he has a total lack of respect for you, which is not positive as it is, however he may just not have thought about it, which is not exactly positive because he can't see your needs but in this case if you tell him he should adjust to your needs.
If you've already told him and he's not doing anything about it I think you should end the relationship - where there is no respect, there can be no love!!!
2006-08-31 00:26:13 · answer #3 · answered by Auntie Alex 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are asking this question truthfully because you don't know the answer, then the issue is with your own self worth and your self esteem.
You have the right to tell him how you feel and what you expect from an EQUAL partner in which you are having a relationship with.
He is not the only person who has a life under the roof in which you both reside. Assertivness is not somthing to be affraid of and is in some cases a nessessary part of communication. Using "I feel" statements can usually get the point accross. For example "I feel stressed when you have your friends over when i have to work the next morning" This is an assertive communicaiton tool which usually works with men. He can't accuse you of complaining because all you are doing is sharing your feelings.
Talk to him before it happends again, not during.
You have equal rights and he needs to respect them.
2006-08-27 08:31:45 · answer #4 · answered by sparkle_nimph 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. Sorry, but this young man is totally inconsiderate and rude. You must extricate yourself from this relationship — what you see is what you get, and he won't get any better.
2. When people know that you must get up early, and need full rest in order to function at your best, why would they do such thoughtless things? It's because they know you're a push-over and will put up with it. No respect or caring about you.
3. My best guess is that your boyfriend is immature and 'fair-weather'. You can do much better. Don't ever settle for second best!
Good Luck and Warm Regards.
2006-08-31 17:04:55 · answer #5 · answered by mitch 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make him move out! You already know the answer to this question, and if they are in and out at those hours while you are renting, they are likely disturbing others. He may end up endangering your living situation, as well as your rest. People like these DO NOT ever change!!! Give him the boot.
2006-08-27 10:55:25 · answer #6 · answered by alone1with3 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Regardless of who pays the rent, this is very rude and disrespectful of you. If he cared about you, he would not have visitors over that late...especially if you have to be up for work at 5:30 AM. It is just plain rude of him.
2006-09-01 17:20:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No it's not to much to ask. If he does it again, i'll tell them all to get the you know what out for you. That is totally disrespectful. I can't believe he would do that or that he has friends that would participate in such activity. You should at least have peace in your own home if nowhere else for God's sake.
2006-09-01 13:53:07 · answer #8 · answered by LaJoya S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is your place. You make the rules. Most of all you need your sleep. If he truly is your boyfriend he would respect you more. Tell him about this problem. If he blows it of...blow him off. He is not a true boyfriend is he does not respect you. There are many men out there who will respect you and your need for sleep. Don't lose your job, because of lack of sleep, because of your so called boyfriend. Lose the boyfriend, not your job.
2006-08-27 04:43:38 · answer #9 · answered by MoonlightBear 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, that's very inconsiderate of him. Have you talked to him about it? Sometimes boys just don't get the obvious things.
At 4am, 5am, he should be snoring and snuggling with you, not hanging out with other people. It would definitely bother me if this happened more than once.
2006-08-27 04:37:53 · answer #10 · answered by bigmak1125 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋